Family Oneness - talking about the Philosophy of Oneness within the Family. Shifting Paradigms

Questions:

• What would you say is the difference between Oneness and togetherness?

• Have you ever thought of how we interconnect as a family?
• Why families are important classrooms

#family, #happiness, #love, #familiesareforever, #lifeisforus, #mentalwellness, #healing, #soul, #divinenature

Self-Care is such a buzz word these days. But what does it truly mean? Liz and Jody discuss the importance of self-care and how it could be implemented within family dynamics.

Questions to Ponder: 1. Do you feel like you are too busy to engage in self-care? 2. What do you do for self-care? 3. What comes up, what do you feel, when you hear - it’s ok, not to be ok? 4. What can you do today (and everyday) to nurture and love yourself?

#self-care#familymatters#self-love#self-acceptance

What’s the Cost of Toxic Parenting? Liz and Jody discuss and identify some pit falls, challenges, and opportunities for growth in toxic parenting.

Questions for the day:

• Have you ever weighed the pros and cons to your behavior? To others behavior? Print out the Cost/Benefit Worksheet

• Have you ever asked, WHY is this (whatever situation that knocks you down) coming up for me again! (Paying attention to what we call triggers)

• Do you feel out of control at times and can’t figure out why? Or what to do?
• The real question becomes - which thought/emotions do we give authority to?

#smartrecovery, #healthyparenting, #emotionalhealth #shadowself #ego #dualitywithin #happyrelationships #healing #you'reenough #love #kindness #giveyourselfabreak

In this episode, Jody and Liz open a conversation about behaviors. How we interpret our children's behaviors and then respond to them can help us create healthy relationships filled with clarity and understanding.

Questions to Consider:

• Is there a behavior in your child that drives you crazy?

• What are some examples of ways you’ve tried to cope with the situation?

• What are some examples of ways you’ve tried to change the situation?

• Are you willing to reflect on what has and what hasn’t worked from the examples you thought of?

• What are your motives to initiate changed behavior?

• Have you thought about what your kid’s motives might be?

Using the SMARTrecovery.org tools - change and motivation section. We talk about emotional addictive behavior.

The definition of insanity: Doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results.

#smartrecovery, #emotionaladdictions, #healthyboundaries, #happykids, #happyparenting #positivechange, #you'vegotthis #empoweredparenting #happymarriages

Liz and Jody discuss the importance of following your heart no matter what! Because when you do it makes your life, your family and home life, and the world a happier place. It allows for amazing possibilities to show up for you.

Follow your heart, especially when it feels like the odds are stacked up against you.

Questions to consider:

• Do you know how to listen to your heart? If you do, what does it say to you?

• Is your heart’s desires and your life congruent?

• Why do you think it would be important for you to listen to and then follow your heart?

• Do you know your heart’s language?

#mentalworkout, #emotionalworkout, #openingyourheart, #vulnerability, #purpose, #healing, #emotionalintelligence, #emotionalhealth, #happiness, #growth

Liz and Jody have a fun conversation about what it means to belong and what it means to fit in. What are those differences for you? Have you ever thought about it?

First, please know YOU are enough! YOU belong here!

Questions to Ponder

• What does it mean to belong?
• What does it mean to fit in?
• Do you feel like you belong? If so, where do you feel you belong?

• Have you ever felt like you were caught up in a cycle of doing things to prove that you were good enough?
• Where do you feel the least good enough?
• Have you ever felt - IF I cleaned the house ONE more time, I may be noticed?

#belonging, #worth, #personalacceptance, #divinenature, #healing, #mentalhealth, #emotionalhealth, #eliminatingtoxicrelationships

In today's episode, Jody and Liz discuss a very important topic. Boundaries! Boundaries are not always learned in our family dynamics and in society, and yet they are very important when developing healthy relationships.

Questions to Ponder

• Have you ever felt like someone is taking choices away from you?

• Have you ever said yes when you really meant NO?

• Do you feel “stuck” or have you felt “stuck” in a role that was unhealthy (such as doormat, people-pleaser, servant) in your relationships?

• What is important to you in your life? In your relationships? For yourself? For your family?

Boundaries are the sunscreen for the soul …. Once you put them on, you don’t get burned

Boundary formula: Formula: When you do (xyz), I feel (xyz), I need/want (xyz)

Jody's example of a boundary she shared with her family and friends:

I love to see you, I love you being part of my life’s journey, but when you come to me under the influence of authority, ownership, victimhood, or the huff and puff of perpetrator. I feel very manipulated, frustrated and unsure of the safety I’ve created to stay out of the disempowering triangle. I need to feel love and peace so I can be available for you and everyone who crosses my path. You are welcome to come to me when you are in the space of love. If you are in the space blame, or manipulation, or that of I’m right, you’re wrong, please come another time.

I honor and respect whatever choice you make.

In today's episode, Jody and Liz share different experiences about the purpose of our human hearts-- to transform pain into love.

Questions to Ponder

1. Do you hold onto painful experiences for longer than you should?

2. Do you experience vulnerability?

3. With whom do you feel comfortable opening your heart to? Why? When?

We have different pain points in our lives and in our relationships and Liz felt inspired to bring something into awareness or “home” so to speak, so that it ties things together.

This episode is based on a teaching from Sara Wiseman, Lesson 31 of the 33 lessons, in a book called Writing the Divine. The heart is meant to transform pain into love. So how do we do that? Why do we do that?

• The heart is not meant to HOLD onto the pain (stagnant)

• The heart is transformative naturally just as birds fly naturally, the heart transforms pain into love naturally.

• There is a process though.

• Open heart to feel the pain

• Open your heart to compassion, see that everyone feels pain and in this we are connected and “one”

• As you open to compassion, ask that the pain be lifted up by grace and transformed into love (the highest vibration)

• Liz also adds to ask grace to assist with forgiveness as well. That if you do not know how to forgive a person, situation, or pain–that it be lifted up and transformed into forgiveness.

#healthyboundaries #lovingrelationships #openheart #healing #peace #livingwithconfidence #jodyk #LizA #compassion #grace #transformation