In today's episode, Jody and Liz discuss a very important topic. Boundaries! Boundaries are not always learned in our family dynamics and in society, and yet they are very important when developing healthy relationships.

Questions to Ponder

• Have you ever felt like someone is taking choices away from you?

• Have you ever said yes when you really meant NO?

• Do you feel “stuck” or have you felt “stuck” in a role that was unhealthy (such as doormat, people-pleaser, servant) in your relationships?

• What is important to you in your life? In your relationships? For yourself? For your family?

Boundaries are the sunscreen for the soul …. Once you put them on, you don’t get burned

Boundary formula: Formula: When you do (xyz), I feel (xyz), I need/want (xyz)

Jody's example of a boundary she shared with her family and friends:

I love to see you, I love you being part of my life’s journey, but when you come to me under the influence of authority, ownership, victimhood, or the huff and puff of perpetrator. I feel very manipulated, frustrated and unsure of the safety I’ve created to stay out of the disempowering triangle. I need to feel love and peace so I can be available for you and everyone who crosses my path. You are welcome to come to me when you are in the space of love. If you are in the space blame, or manipulation, or that of I’m right, you’re wrong, please come another time.

I honor and respect whatever choice you make.