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If you have been in a relationship with a narcissist, it is no doubt that you have been subjected to the worst psychological warfare that there is: gaslighting. Gaslighting is a form of abuse and torture that can cause you to break. It can cause you to lose your mind. It can cause your psyche and your rationality to separate at the seams. Gaslighting can damage you in ways that nothing else can damage you. It is a form of brainwashing that should only be used in war, but is used against you right in your own living room.

Anyone who has ever been around a narcissist knows how nasty his game can be. The narcissist will gaslight you. He will destroy your business and your financial security. He will annihilate your relationships with almost everyone in your life. If you don’t like him, or if you speak ill of him, he will do whatever it takes to demean, devalue, and destroy you.

This audiobook discusses the anal retentive nature of the narcissist. We talk about how the narcissist is so high-strung and methodical he can hardly get anything done with any efficiency. We discuss how surly he gets when he lives in an environment with other people who clash with him. We will give case examples of people who have had to live with the narcissist’s ridiculous standards, and how it can cause serious emotional damage to try to walk on eggshells in the narcissist’s environment.

Gaslighting is one of the most devastating tools that exists in the narcissist’s arsenal. If you have been subjected to gaslighting by a skilled narcissist, it is no doubt that you have suffered significant PTSD, Complex PTSD, Cassandra Syndrome, Battered Person Syndrome, and more. You were led to believe that you were damaged, crazy, psychotic, etc. You were led there by someone who was much sicker than you were. Gaslighting is dangerous and devastating.

The narcissist and his partner are nearly always doomed for failure. The narcissist has too many narcissists and codependents in his life, thus he is never able to juggle everyone and make everyone happy. He is stretched too thin by his obligations. Being the people-pleaser that he is, he cannot seem to satisfy any of them while at the same time satisfying himself.

If you are here, chances are good that you have been a victim of the "dark triad" strategies which are employed by people with seemingly "bad" or "evil" personalities or behaviors. There are those who are born with "bad" or "evil" or "anti-social" personalities. There are those who are born with pro-social and empathetic personalities. Then, there are those who use "dark triad" strategies as a means of gaining immense personal power, financial gain, and sexual prowess.

If you have been around a narcissist for any length of time, you become keenly aware that he is doing things behind your back. His covert tactics are meant to beat you to the punch, and he is nearly always two steps ahead of you. The narcissist stops at nothing to demean, devalue, and destroy those around him. And he has propaganda and an agenda that he is always delivering on an overt or covert basis.

The narcissist is the ultimate egomaniac. He feels that he is the best that there is. He never acknowledges that anyone else is beneath him. He is constantly telling everyone else how great he is. He status bombs his social media full of amazing experiences, cool belongings he has purchased, and selfies showing off his new haircut. The egomaniacal narcissist thinks that everyone else should know about his plans, his life, and the things that he is collecting. It never occurs to him that other people have their own life.

Many people don't realize it, but a person can become devastatingly emotionally damaged after suffering from bullying and victimization from one or more narcissistic abusers. Women who are prone to be with abusive, narcissistic men often had abusive or emotionally absent fathers. These women are attracted to the alpha male. They are vibrant, alive, motivated, nurturing, and loving. They are the prime target for the hungry needs-starved narcissist.

This audiobook will seek to answer many nagging questions about the origin of the narcissist. We will uncover the narcissistic personality traits that aid in the rude and obstinate behavior of the narcissist. will talk about concepts of narcissism, including how the personality splits between the false self and the true self.

Many people have had bad experiences when there is a narcissist or many narcissists in their life. They constantly feel bombarded and attacked when they are in the vicinity of the narcissist. The narcissist cycles between idealizing, devaluing, and then destroying his victims.

If you are in the midst of a relationship with the narcissist, you know all too well how rapidly he cycles through the different states of his personality. One minute he is the nice, charming, radiant personality. The next minute, he is a raging monster of violence. The sheer rollercoaster ride that is the narcissist is intolerable to nearly every partner that he meets.

Gaslighting is the circular conversation that you have where no one ever wins. It is the argument that never ends, because there is no resolution that is satisfactory to the narcissist, who never compromises. It is the projection of the narcissist's deficits back onto you, because he cannot take accountability for anything that he has ever said or done. It is the crazy making, the name calling, the false accusations, and the omission of the truth.

Silent treatment is one of the most devastating acts from a narcissist when his or her lover is falling in love with them. The narcissist uses this tactic to create a conflict of "supply and demand". The narcissist love bombs and supplies his lovers for a time period until he has no more to give or until he gets bored with his partner. Then he pushes the partner away and returns to fulfill his own desires while the partner is away.

Many people come across bullies in their lifetime. They might be bullied at work. There might have been bullies when they grew up in school. They might have encountered a neighborhood bully. They might have been bullied by a teacher, a coach, or another type of mentor. Some people might have experienced bullying from a judge, a police officer, or another authority figure. People who join the military often come across bullies who are drill sergeants, and they take pride in bullying people as their career. People experience bullies as parents and relatives.

Many people don't realize it, but they have been abused and narcissistically injured, or wounded, throughout much of their lives. They have been around narcissistic or self-centered bosses, coworkers, parents, family members, children, teachers, coaches, and more. They may have been surrounded by people with OCPD, Asperger's Syndrome, Narcissistic Personality Disorder, or Autism Spectrum Disorders, and they may not even have recognized it.

Most people know that the narcissist is nearly always a cheat. He is constantly grooming more and more narcissistic supply (love, adoration, fear, admiration) from those who are willing to bless him with it. He collects friends on Facebook and at work - friends who can serve as alternate partners. He even tests the waters with long-term friends from childhood, despite being sexually unattracted to them for all intents and purposes.

The narcissist's partner must prove herself over and over again, but she is never proving herself for anything real. The narcissist always has an out planned, so that it is available to him if ever he wants to leave the relationship. He doesn't get too attached to his partner in case he wants to leave her. If the narcissist catches wind that she might be planning to leave him first, he will initiate a breakup to preempt her. After all, he doesn’t want it to look like he was the one discarded. He wants to make it look like he was the one who discarded her.

Many of us have met a person who suffers from caveman syndrome at one point in our lives. It may be the plumber, a teacher, your husband, or your boss at work. The person is often critical, grumpy, and rude toward others. The caveman is short-sighted and stuck in the past. He is a stick in the mud of epic proportions. He is chronically unhappy, and he strives to make everyone else in the world just as unhappy as he is.

Many of my listeners contact me with a burning question: How do I capture the attentions and affections of the schizoid man that I have my eye on? They have tried all of the socially acceptable dating and marriage techniques to no avail. Schizoid men simply don't operate by the same socialization rules as everyone else, and thus one must alter their tactics if they are trying to date or marry a man with schizoid personality disorder.