Today I'm going to try to convince you that embracing stress is the secret to your long term peace and happiness. Discover how the cycle of avoidance, driven by the fear of upsetting a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, might be keeping you stuck in a loop of burnout and resentment.

By shifting your mindset and recognizing this pattern, you can start prioritizing long-term peace over fleeting comfort. This episode promises to guide you through practical strategies that help maintain your boundaries and manage stress, especially during the challenging holiday season.

Also, I've opened up a handful of coaching spots to help you navigate tricky moments with your BPD/NPD parent this season. Click here to learn more about working together and grab one of the spots before they're all gone!

https://www.confidentboundaries.com/coaching

I'll be dropping a second podcast episode on either Tuesday or Wednesday this week!

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Join me in the You're Not Crazy Patreon Community:
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Download my guide, Surviving the Holidays with a Difficult Parent:
https://www.confidentboundaries.com/surviving-the-holidays-with-a-difficult-parent

Grab a copy of my FREE guide, 5 Quick Tips for Managing Intense Moments with a BPD or NPD Parent:
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Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.

Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988.

For the next 48 hours, you can grab a copy of my guide, Surviving the Holidays with a Difficult Parent or purchase The Boundaries Roadmap, my self-guided online course for effective boundary setting with a parent who has borderline and/or narcissistic personality disorder for 50% off! No coupon code needed.

All payment plans for the The Boundaries Roadmap are included in this sale! The sales price will automatically show once you add your order to the cart.

Surviving the Holidays with a Difficult Parent: https://confidentboundaries.myflodesk.com/holidayguide

The Boundaries Roadmap Online Course:
https://www.confidentboundaries.com/the-boundaries-roadmap

Support the show

Join me in the You're Not Crazy Patreon Community:
https://www.confidentboundaries.com/community

Download my guide, Surviving the Holidays with a Difficult Parent:
https://www.confidentboundaries.com/surviving-the-holidays-with-a-difficult-parent

Grab a copy of my FREE guide, 5 Quick Tips for Managing Intense Moments with a BPD or NPD Parent:
https://confidentboundaries.myflodesk.com/5tips

Follow me on Instagram:
instagram.com/toriewiksell

Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.

Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988.

In today's episode, I discuss whether you should set boundaries or go no contact with a parent who has unmanaged borderline or narcissistic personality disorder. We'll explore the emotional exhaustion that often leads to the choice of going no contact and the societal pressures that can make you doubt this decision.

Full disclosure- the audio on this episode is not great quality. I ambitiously attempted to do a video recording to post to YouTube and my editing skills are not at that level! Thank you for bearing with me this week. Next week we'll go back to our regular, audio-only episodes with better sound quality!

But, until then, if you want to watch the video of this episode, you can do so here >>>> https://youtu.be/eBi7Afhzl3w

Support the show

Join me in the You're Not Crazy Patreon Community:
https://www.confidentboundaries.com/community

Download my guide, Surviving the Holidays with a Difficult Parent:
https://www.confidentboundaries.com/surviving-the-holidays-with-a-difficult-parent

Grab a copy of my FREE guide, 5 Quick Tips for Managing Intense Moments with a BPD or NPD Parent:
https://confidentboundaries.myflodesk.com/5tips

Follow me on Instagram:
instagram.com/toriewiksell

Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.

Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988.

Emotionally vulnerability with a parent who has unmanaged borderline personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder is always a bad idea. But, it's hard to not get sucked into those feel good moments- so what should you do?

Listen to this episode of "You're Not Crazy" to hear my thoughts on the many complicated layers of being emotionally vulnerable with a parent who has BPD or NPD.

Also, we talk about our first Patreon group Zoom call which is coming up next Monday! Make sure to sign up at the $20 level to get an invite- I can't wait to see you there :)

Support the show

Join me in the You're Not Crazy Patreon Community:
https://www.confidentboundaries.com/community

Download my guide, Surviving the Holidays with a Difficult Parent:
https://www.confidentboundaries.com/surviving-the-holidays-with-a-difficult-parent

Grab a copy of my FREE guide, 5 Quick Tips for Managing Intense Moments with a BPD or NPD Parent:
https://confidentboundaries.myflodesk.com/5tips

Follow me on Instagram:
instagram.com/toriewiksell

Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.

Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988.

Feeling stuck in a relationship with a parent who has borderline or narcissistic personality disorder can be overwhelming. The fear of triggering them can leave you feeling paralyzed and like you have no options. But here’s the thing: doing nothing is making a choice—and it’s probably not the one that serves you best.

In this episode, I share practical strategies for navigating those moments when every option seems difficult (because, let’s be honest, that’s often the reality when you have a parent with BPD or NPD). Join me to learn how to break free from feeling stuck and start making choices that prioritize your well-being.

Grab a copy of my free guide, 5 Quick Tips for Managing Intense
Moments with a BPD or NPD Parent at www.confidentboundaries.com/theguide

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Black Friday Deals to Support You This Holiday Season

This Black Friday, I’ve created special offers to help you set boundaries, find clarity, and approach the holiday season with less stress and more confidence.

These deals are only available this week, so don’t wait!

Here’s what’s available:

1️⃣ Buy The Boundaries Roadmap Online Course ($297-$340)
Get my guide, Surviving the Holidays with a Difficult Parent, absolutely FREE ($27 value). I'll email you the guide within 24 hours of your purchase.

➡ Access the Deal Here

2️⃣ Book a Single Coaching Session in December ($300)
Let’s work together in a 60-minute Zoom session to create a plan for your unique challenges. You’ll also get Surviving the Holidays with a Difficult Parent FREE as a bonus ($27 value). I'll email you the guide within 24 hours of your purchase.

➡ Book Your Session Here

3️⃣ Sign Up for a 4- or 8-Week Coaching Package
Go deeper with personalized coaching, and I’ll include both The Boundaries Roadmap Online Course AND Surviving the Holidays with a Difficult Parent FREE ($324 t...

Today I share about my own childhood growing up with a narcissistic parent. I talk about why it's been such a struggle for me to really accept my mother's narcissism and how becoming a parent myself has made me much less sympathetic to my mother's poor parenting journey.

Also, thank you to all of our new Patreon members! I'm so excited to see the You're Not Crazy community grow :) Haven't joined yet? Sign up at patreon.com/yncpodcast

Support the show

Join me in the You're Not Crazy Patreon Community:
https://www.confidentboundaries.com/community

Download my guide, Surviving the Holidays with a Difficult Parent:
https://www.confidentboundaries.com/surviving-the-holidays-with-a-difficult-parent

Grab a copy of my FREE guide, 5 Quick Tips for Managing Intense Moments with a BPD or NPD Parent:
https://confidentboundaries.myflodesk.com/5tips

Follow me on Instagram:
instagram.com/toriewiksell

Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.

Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988.

In this episode, we talk about self-compassion and why it is so hard to develop for adults who grew up with emotionally unpredictable parents. I dive deep into why an emotionally safe space is essential for developing self-compassion and ways you can practice being kinder to yourself starting today.

Support the show

Join me in the You're Not Crazy Patreon Community:
https://www.confidentboundaries.com/community

Download my guide, Surviving the Holidays with a Difficult Parent:
https://www.confidentboundaries.com/surviving-the-holidays-with-a-difficult-parent

Grab a copy of my FREE guide, 5 Quick Tips for Managing Intense Moments with a BPD or NPD Parent:
https://confidentboundaries.myflodesk.com/5tips

Follow me on Instagram:
instagram.com/toriewiksell

Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up with a mother with BPD. Torie provides online therapy to clients located in WA, OR, and CA, and online coaching internationally.

Disclaimer: This podcast is not therapy. If you are in mental health crisis, please contact the Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988.

In this week's special bonus episode, I share about how this little podcast that could is growing- thanks to you! Whether you're seeking extra support, insightful Q&A sessions, or just some good company on bi-monthly Zoom chats, our brand-new Patreon community has got you covered. But, don't worry- our weekly Tuesday podcasts aren't going anywhere! Listen to learn more about this exciting change and what it means for the future of the podcast.

Also- I forgot to mention on this episode that all members of the Patreon community get 25% off The Boundaries Roadmap, my online course for effectively setting boundaries with a parent who has borderline and/or narcissistic personality disorder!

Support the show

I've opened up a handful of coaching spots to help you navigate tricky moments with your BPD/NPD parent this season. Click here to learn more about working together and grab one of the spots before they're all gone!

https://www.confidentboundaries.com/coaching


Join me in the You're Not Crazy Patreon Community:
https://www.confidentboundaries.com/community

Download my guide, Surviving the Holidays with a Difficult Parent:
https://www.confidentboundaries.com/surviving-the-holidays-with-a-difficult-parent

Grab a copy of my FREE guide, 5 Quick Tips for Managing Intense Moments with a BPD or NPD Parent:
https://confidentboundaries.myflodesk.com/5tips

Follow me on Instagram:
instagram.com/toriewiksell

Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and...