In this episode of You’re Not Crazy, we’re diving into five toxic traits that I developed from growing up in an emotionally chaotic home—and more importantly, how I'm working on them. If you’ve ever struggled with people-pleasing, overexplaining, or feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions, this episode is for you.

Here’s what we’ll cover:
✨ Why recognizing and naming your emotions is a game-changer
✨ How to stop taking on responsibilities that aren’t yours and set boundaries instead
✨ Transforming negative self-talk into self-compassion
✨ Learning to trust your own voice instead of seeking constant external validation
✨ Breaking the habit of overexplaining and embracing confident communication

This episode is packed with practical tips and personal insights. Tune in now and take the next step toward living life on your terms.

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If you grew up with a parent with borderline or narcissistic personality disorder, the fear of being abandoned by people you love might run deep. In this episode of You're Not Crazy, we unpack how toxic love from a parent impacts your relationships and self-worth as an adult — and, more importantly, how to break free from those patterns.

We discuss:

• What conditional love from a BPD/NPD parent really looks like and how it contributes to a fear of abandonment
• Choosing yourself
• The power of setting clear, firm boundaries (even when it feels impossible)
• Steps to develop self-acceptance and improve your self-worth

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Today I’m reflecting on how I’ve grown this year and what I’m focusing on for 2025. From taking bold action before I felt “ready” to ending a toxic friendship and trusting myself more, I’m sharing the real, unfiltered moments that have shaped my year. This episode is all about celebrating progress, embracing imperfections, and setting clear intentions for a fulfilling year ahead.

Listen to hear my perspective on:

• Taking big steps before feeling “ready”
• Facing fears around sharing my personal journey
• Letting go of toxic relationships faster
• Trusting my gut and valuing my own opinions
• Expanding my impact
• My goals for 2025

Download my free guide, 5 Quick Tips for Managing Intense Moments with a BPD or NPD Parent: https://confidentboundaries.myflodesk.com/5quicktips

Learn more about the Confident Boundaries Online Community: confidentboundaries.com/join

What’s waiting for you inside:

• Access to my proven, step-by-step framework for setting and holding boundaries with parents who have borderline or narcissistic personality disorders
• PDF guides like Four Questions to Ask a Potential New Therapist and 5 Rules for Protecting Your Sanity when Dealing with a Parent Who Has BPD or NPD
• Exclusive bonus episodes of You’re Not Crazy
• Exclusive Q&As where you can ask me anything
• A supportive space to connect with others who are on a similar journey
• PLUS live trainings on topics like setting boundaries, dealing with relationship issues, and going no-contact!

Follow me on Instagram:
instagram.com/toriewiksell

Torie Wiksell is a therapist and coach who specializes in working with the adult children of parents with borderline and narcissistic personality disorders. Torie brings a unique perspective having spent years working with clients with personality disorders and growing up w...