hit multiple nails on the head!

I always had a feeling that my mother was a narcissist and a gaslighter but I didn't know how to deal with it and keep boundaries. This book not only helped but taught me that I'm not insane, I need boundaries! It gave me advice on how to deal with everything, how to change my life for the better and helped me see things clearly. There are so many scenarios I dealt with growing up, so many quotes I heard as a child and adult that I didn't realise was a form of bullying. I was in tears listening to this as it opened up old wounds and made me see that it isn't my fault, my mother doesn't have to have everything her way all the time like she does. That being scared of my mother isn't normal, like the book says if someone has to be upset it doesn't have to be you, you need boundaries.

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Fantastic, very helpful.

This book has proved to be nothing short of a life saver. Although the book is based on mother and daughter, being the son of a narcissistic mother it still tansfers well. Because of the experiences the author describes in detail being so close to what I have experienced, I have had to listen (audible version) over three months. The realisation is painful in my own experience and found it difficult to process over a short period. It has been immensely helpful. From my experience the realisation of years of pondering and self blame have been difficult and harmful. This book and the experience portrayed by the author have helped me so much and made me realise it isnt me that is broken. Also that I am not alone.Thank you so much. One word of advice the exercises towards the end of the book may help you at an early stage. So perhaps listen to the author at the beginning and the flick to the exercises at the back section. Thank you so much. I will be listening/reading again.

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Wonderful book

This audiobook has helped me so much, I've put up with my mother’s behaviour for decades. Mostly passive but every now and then becoming aggressive. I have now lost my entire family and it hurts something chronic but I am working my way through the emotional freedom technique in this book and I am finding it helpful. Thank goodness somebody put pen to paper and wrote down exactly what has happened in my life and how to survive An excellent book and excellent narrator. Good luck to all on taking their lives back. Thank you

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Reality hit me

All these years believing I was crazy & a complete failure with attracting narcs all my life seeing my weaknesses.. my head is fried as reality hit me relating to this book. Complete eye opening experience. Narrator is soft & kind giving support & understanding with questions I wish I could ask the writer. Emotional rollercoaster as life is explained.. just wish I could go back in time 30 years knowing what I know now. Unloveable is how I saw my life, it’s now time to accept I didn’t know any different… Everyone should read this book if they feel they are failing in life, I hope I can change mine …

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Amazing, helpful, I don't feel alone

Thank you Danu, you've helped me so much. This validated my feelings. I feel heard and hugged by you in this book. Such comfort and I've learned skills for the future. You described perfectly how my Mum made me feel. I'm finally free and excited for the future. Much love Claire (using my fiancé's audible)

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Very helpful

Easy to listern to. very helpful, has given me confidence to grow and move on.

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What I needed to hear

Really helpful and emotional listen. Morrigan is a great narrator of her own experiences.

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Amazing at validating the experience of the victims

It states very clearly the particular behaviors and the consequences on people. It has really opened my eyes.

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This book is my mother to a T...

My friend recommended this book to me as I've struggled my whole life to deal with my mother's behaviour. This book comfirmed stuff I did already know but it was a good thing to reconfirm. I now need to understand why on lookers when I was a child did nothing to stop it or help me. My family haven't spoken to me for years because of my mums lies which hurt very much so. This is something I need to deal with as well. I would definitely recommend this book to anyone. I hope one day before I die I can find inner peace from the pain she has and caused me.

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Surviving

As a daughter of a narcissistic mother this book first made me feel like I was overreacting, as my both parents did not behave as writers at dinner, but it changed soon, wow the feeling of knowing exactly what she is talking about and what memories comes to your mind, and realising that it was abuse, all the things has happened to me that she said can happen, I'm not crazy, it made me grief for the loss of the mother I wished her to be and tried my best to make her to be. My mother is now being silent for 13 weeks, I asked for emphaty and not for her to judge as she does to me when I say it's difficult with a something in my life. Ofcourse there is many reasons she is doing it, like me trying and having stable family life that she's not been able to have. This book will be a big help to cope and not to feel guilty for wanting emotional suport. But it also opens your eyes to your own actions and traits that could indicate the behavior continued in family if you don't analyse where feelings and behavior come from you will never be on the journey of healing, this book is a good help for that.
JG

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