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  • How to Be the Love You Seek

  • Break Cycles, Find Peace + Heal Your Relationships
  • By: Dr Nicole LePera
  • Narrated by: Courtney Patterson
  • Length: 10 hrs and 15 mins
  • 4.4 out of 5 stars (129 ratings)

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How to Be the Love You Seek

By: Dr Nicole LePera
Narrated by: Courtney Patterson
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Summary

UK bestseller, Sunday Times, December 2023x

A radical new path to revolutionise your relationships

Why are our closest relationships so often a source of more stress than solace? Whether the relationship is with a romantic partner, a parent, child, friend or colleague, the dynamic is frequently the same - you'd like the relationship to change for the better, yet nothing you try seems to work.

Author of international bestseller How to Do the Work, Dr Nicole LePera has heard these frustrating patterns of loneliness, disconnection, and resentment described time and again, both from patients in her clinical practice and from her global online community @the.holistic.psychologist. In this groundbreaking book she offers a new path to healing our relationships by tapping into the power of the heart.

How to Be the Love You Seek harnesses the latest scientific research to teach us how to recognise our dysfunctional patterns, identify their roots in our earliest relationships, break painful cycles, build security and share compassion with ourselves and others.

Through stories, exercises, journal prompts, and other practical tools, Dr LePera empowers us first to strengthen our foundation of self-love, paving the way for deeper, more harmonious connections with those around us.

When you become the love you seek, you have the power to transform every relationship, from your most intimate partnerships to the bonds that hold our communities together.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2023 Nicole LePera (P)2023 HarperCollins US LLC
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Critic reviews

'I love Dr Nicole LePera. She helps me a lot.' GWYNETH PALTROW

'A practical and inspiring primer on how to extend true connection and love to others and to our hurting world.' DR GABOR MATE

'A loving, patient, and powerful guide to creating happy, fulfilling life relationships of all kinds. How to Be the Love You Seek is a masterwork of awareness and compassion.' JAY SHETTY

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Like a hug for your heart

This audible and the book is so precious. I loved the first book and applied just about everything suggested only to feel beautiful, grounding, and gentle change. This was no different. The advice is grounded in evidence backed research and traditions, and offers self healing work to do that bakes in the message that we are enough and we are already the love we seek. Buy the book, and listen to the audio so you too can feel the hug in your heart from Nicole.

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Life changing

I loved this, knowing from the insightful, sharp posts on Instagram what I expected to hear. At some points soothing and at others a punch to the guts, the explanation of why so many of us are hurting is balanced with useful techniques to grow and change. I will start and listen all over again to make sure the impact of what I have learned lands and takes root. Thank you Nicole.

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Excellent Listen

Most informative and enjoyable. Highly recommended for readers interested in this subject matter. Enjoyed it very much.

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Fantastic job and should be listened to by everyone so we can all help each other👍🫶

I didn’t disagree or dislike anything that was spoken about in this book… I was glad to have found it and it has helped me greatly. Thankyou

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life changing and affirming.

Everyone should read this book! I enjoyed the progression and range of various aspects of wellbeing and how they all connected.

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Heart whispers

Great book and helped me to understand why my nervous system has been on alert for the past 30 years and for those around me. Helped take me steps closer to connecting with my body, emotions and heart. Thank you for your great work!!

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Listen to your heart

Lots of interesting thoughts and stories , but lots repeats

Easy to follow and good choice if you like to switch off from your daily routine

Wanted to have more practical tools

Overall - okay :)

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Everyone should read this book

Beautiful book that helped me understand my nervous system, everybody should read this book, a world would be a better place. Thank you.

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love is the cure for human suffering.

many ah ha moments throughout this book. if you are doing inner work, this is a book for you 🫶🏼

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honest

Written from first hand experience, I like this, rather than using case studies and discussing how others can be impacted, the author talks about how they had to work all this stuff out themselves. I like that, it feels less us and them and humanising. The author discusses details of how we repeat the same cycles. I know about these cycles but having them elaborated from a first person experience, and repeated in some way seems to help me integrate them. I'm glad I've listened to this. I definitely need to look at my own needs to improve relationships and this has felt helpful.

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