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  • Get out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

  • Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior
  • By: Philip Goldberg, Mark Goulston MD
  • Narrated by: Mark Goulston
  • Length: 4 hrs and 49 mins
  • 4.6 out of 5 stars (48 ratings)

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Get out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior

By: Philip Goldberg, Mark Goulston MD
Narrated by: Mark Goulston
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Summary

Practical, proven self-help steps show how to transform 40 common self-defeating behaviors, including procrastination, envy, obsession, anger, self-pity, compulsion, neediness, guilt, rebellion, inaction, and more.

©1996 Mark Goulston and Philip Goldberg (P)2018 Penguin Audio
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Didn't think this applied to me, boy was I wrong.

I've read, then listened to Marks other books, talking to crazy and just listen. Didn't think get out of your own way would be useful or needed by me. This is the best book ive ever read, im so impressed with marks understanding of human nature. mark has explained my hampster head and what to do about it, priceless.
thank you.

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Good Book With Plenty of Helpful Anecdotes

I liked the fact the 38 chapters deal with a different self defeating behaviour and was heartened to see that I didn’t have them all. Also as I read this book slowly over a period of months and worked on myself I realised that I was no longer getting in my own way in some of the ways I had done initially and that as I worked in the test they were beginning to disappear.

I’m going to write these behaviours down in a list and keep them near my desk for easy reference when I get stuck so I’m aware and can do something about it in the moment.

I appreciate the anecdotes in the book as they helped me see that almost anyone anywhere can experience any and all of these self defeating behaviours and they can be overcome.

The reading is pleasant and the voice clear and bright I enjoyed listening even though this challenges some very deep seated behaviours.

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Amazing! It’s like he knew me personally!

This book is just amazing! Mark’s voice is so soothing and gentle. It’s like having your own personal therapist! I can’t wait to share it with my family and friends. I will definitely be revisiting it over and over. It helped me to understand it’s not only other people in my life but also what I am doing wrong! I will own my behaviour and communicate much better from now on. Everyone should read this book! Thank you so much Mark. I am now a fan of your work and must read anything else you have done!

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Good tips for recognising self defeating behaviours

Easy to understand self help. Listened to the whole book in a day. Really liked the tips.

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Insightful

Insightful and very helpful with clear examples...but the chapter on procrastination is very short... needed much more on that specifically.

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Just what I needed

This is just what I needed as I was excuding these self-defeating behaviour for the last year and now I have a blueprint on how to get out of this cycle

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Excellent for very basic overview

At first I did think this was no good for me because it is very, very basic. But then I remembered the amount of times I’ve wanted to recommend a resource to someone but all the ones I know of are too advanced. Sometimes people need something that will initiate the self-awareness, before they can delve into solutions. I run a rehab programme and this is going straight into their reading list.

Also, I did get a couple of things out of it personally too, because non of us are fully aware of everything. There’s always another little layer to peel.

So yeah, for people who already learn about themselves and psychology and growth, this is very, very basic, yet with a few nuggets for anyone because he covers such a broad amount. But for anyone just beginning to self-investigate etc, this is great.

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Poor advice for the most part!

Let's go with 50/50. I found half of this advice valuable. But for the other half, especially the advice regarding relationships, the better advice would have been to set boundaries. A better book would be "Set Boundaries, Find Peace."

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