Why Do I Do That?
Psychological Defense Mechanisms and the Hidden Ways They Shape Our Lives
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Narrated by:
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John Raines
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Joseph Burgo PhD
About this listen
This is a self-help book for people who don't usually buy self-help books. Instead of offering cognitive-behavioral techniques for dealing with anger, or affirming strategies to boost self-esteem, this self-help book adapts the basic methods of psychodynamic psychotherapy to a guided course in self-exploration, highlighting the universal role of defense mechanisms in warding off emotional pain. Even the best self-help books tend to stay on the surface. Why Do I Do That? instead probes deeply into the unconscious. With easy-to-understand explanations, the first part teaches you about the unconscious mind and the role of psychological defenses in excluding difficult feelings from awareness. Individual chapters in the longer middle section explore the primary defense mechanisms one by one, with exercises to help you identify your own defenses at work. The final part offers guidance for how to "disarm" your defenses and cope more effectively with the unconscious feelings behind them. Psychological defense mechanisms are an inevitable and necessary part of the human experience; but when they become too pervasive or deeply entrenched, they may damage our personal relationships, restrict or distort our emotional lives and prevent us from behaving in ways that promote lasting self-esteem. Why Do I Do That? promotes self-help for listeners who want to improve their relationships, manage their emotional lives more effectively and develop authentic self-esteem that will last. If you find that even the best self-help books lack depth and fail to instigate lasting change, this psychodynamic self-help book may be for you.
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- Miss S Lopes
- 07-11-17
Incredibly relevant and informative
I found this audibiook to be so helpful and informative!! It really helped me gain a greater (and more compassionate) understanding of myself and others, and the way the fear driven ego tries to defend itself. I highly recommend this this book to anyone wanting more insight into the ways you are holding yourself back.
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- Zendango
- 23-04-21
Great Perspective
Easy to listen to. Great for getting a self help/ clients perspective on the topic. It personalised the mechanisms and made them relatable.
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- Viktória Urbán
- 03-02-18
Great book!
Definitely widened my knowledge about myself and the whole human experience. Would recommend it if you're interested in learning more about yourself!
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- o. Hodgkinson
- 10-05-17
Really open your mind to who you are
Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?
Yes. If you want to understand how and why you react negatively to some situations it helps you understand your behaviour. Well written, not at all patronising, real life examples make it accessible and helpful.
Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?
no. Although I wanted to you needed to take breaks and digest what you'd heard.
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I listend to it twice, straightaway. Very interesting and helpful.
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- ERIN
- 16-09-22
Interesting and helpful
Very good. Easy to listen to and insightful. Identified with some things in here and am more self-aware now.
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- Philip smith
- 31-08-18
Why do I do that
Absolutely fantastic book i have learned a lot from it. A good representation of defence mechanisms at work.
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- deirdre OSullivan
- 25-04-17
excellent book! inspiring and comforting!
excellent book! inspiring and comforting... I want to read it again. thank you for writing x
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- bunny_girl
- 21-02-18
Insightful
I really enjoyed this audiobook. I’m a trainee psychotherapist and found it very insightful and more interesting than my dry course notes.
It’s also a brilliant self-help book and an easy listen.
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- Amazon Customer
- 30-10-20
Highly recommend
As a psychotherapist I highly recommend this book. It really does highlight the powerful defences we all employ and how they affect and impact on our relationships both with ourselves and others. The book starts by helping us to identify what defences look like in our own behaviour and that of others. We then get interesting exercises to identify our own defences and then guidance in improving our relationships though this new understanding. I love how accessible, welcoming and gentle this book is and It really is a book that EVERYONE should read. I'll certainly be recommending to clients, as well as referring back to often for my own development.
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- Susachacha
- 30-12-20
I bought the audible but I really need the BOOK
There are exercises and you need to be able to see at a glance which statements are in in which group so I really should have gone down the paper pages route here.. You're more susceptible to different defense mechanisms depending on which groups of statements you agree with the most. There are sentences in this book that really stopped me in my tracks and I had to press pause quickly and write down what I'd heard so I could mull it over. I'm not finished this audible yet and I've written so many notes, and my handwriting is terrible. I just sat back and listened to Joseph Burgo's other book about narcissists and I nodded along, it was perfect for an audible, but *this* is a work that you deserve to have in a hard copy. I can't wait for my book to arrive so I can go through it with a highlighter. I don't regret having the audible too though. It was worth doubling up on.
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