• Your Parenting Mojo - Respectful, research-based parenting ideas to help kids thrive

  • By: Jen Lumanlan
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Your Parenting Mojo - Respectful, research-based parenting ideas to help kids thrive

By: Jen Lumanlan
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  • Parenting is hard…but does it have to be this hard? Wouldn’t it be better if your kids would stop pressing your buttons quite as often, and if there was a little more of you to go around (with maybe even some left over for yourself)? On the Your Parenting Mojo podcast, Jen Lumanlan M.S., M.Ed explores academic research on parenting and child development. But she doesn’t just tell you the results of the latest study - she interviews researchers at the top of their fields, and puts current information in the context of the decades of work that have come before it. An average episode reviews ~30 peer-reviewed sources, and analyzes how the research fits into our culture and values - she does all the work, so you don’t have to! Jen is the author of Parenting Beyond Power: How to Use Connection & Collaboration to Transform Your Family - and the World (Sasquatch/Penguin Random House). The podcast draws on the ideas from the book to give you practical, realistic strategies to get beyond today’s whack-a-mole of issues. Your Parenting Mojo also offers workshops and memberships to give you more support in implementing the ideas you hear on the show. The single idea that underlies all of the episodes is that our behavior is our best attempt to meet our needs. Your Parenting Mojo will help you to see through the confusing messages your child’s behavior is sending so you can parent with confidence: You’ll go from: “I don’t want to yell at you!” to “I’ve got a plan.” New episodes are released every other week - there's content for parents who have a baby on the way through kids of middle school age. Start listening now by exploring the rich library of episodes on meltdowns, sibling conflicts, parental burnout, screen time, eating vegetables, communication with your child - and your partner… and much much more!
    Jen Lumanlan - M.S., M.Ed
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Episodes
  • 234: The problem with Time Outs: Why they fail, and what to do Instead

    234: The problem with Time Outs: Why they fail, and what to do Instead
    Jan 20 2025
    The Problem with Time Outs: Why They Fail, and What to Do Instead Recently, in Part 1 of this two-part mini-series, we began looking at a question from listener Melissa: "Can time-outs ever have a place in a respectful parenting approach? (And if not, what else am I supposed to do when my kid looks me in the eye and does something he knows he’s not supposed to do?)" That episode looked at the academic research on the effectiveness of time-outs, what else might account for the research that finds them ‘effective,’ and whether time-outs might harm children even if the research says they don’t. Today’s episode builds on Part 1 by exploring why time outs often fail to address misbehavior effectively - and may harm parent-child relationships. Key points include:
    • We often don’t understand the distinction between misbehavior and emotional distress: Researchers agree that we should use time-outs when children misbehave, but not when they’re emotionally distressed. But what if we aren’t as good at telling the difference between those two states as we think we are?
    • Understanding why children do things we tell them not to do: We look specifically at what Melissa’s 3 ½-year-old son is doing - things like poking her face, throwing a toy when she’s told him not to, and dropping food on the floor during dinner, as well as pulling his sister’s hair, and hitting/kicking her.
    • How alternatives to time out are even more effective: Even in controlled lab settings, compliance after time-outs often doesn’t exceed 60%. We’ll meet parent Kendra, whose child had an Oppositional Defiant Disorder diagnosis that she no longer believes is true now she’s using the tools we discuss in this episode.

    Drawing on research and these real-life stories, this episode offers actionable insights for parents who want effective alternatives to time-outs. Whether you’re dealing with boundary-testing toddlers or older children’s challenging behaviors, this episode provides tools to help you deal with your child’s misbehavior by creating empathy and trust, rather than disconnection and resentment. Love what you’re learning? Support the show and help us keep delivering insightful episodes like this one! 👉 Click here: https://learn.yourparentingmojo.com/donate Ready to test your parenting instincts? Take our free quiz to see how these strategies could work for you! Are you often triggered by your child's behavior? In this FREE masterclass, you'll learn: Why You're So Angry with Your Child's Age-Appropriate Behavior - and what to do about it!
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    38 mins
  • 233: Time Outs: Helpful or harmful? Here’s what the research says

    233: Time Outs: Helpful or harmful? Here’s what the research says
    Jan 13 2025
    Time Outs: Helpful or harmful? Here’s what the research says Pediatricians and researchers commonly recommend that parents use time outs when kids misbehave. Time outs are promoted as an effective, evidence-based parenting strategy - although the real reason they’re so highly recommended is that they cause less damage to children than hitting. But if we’re already using respectful/gentle parenting strategies most of the time, could there be any benefit to adding time outs when our children don’t comply with more gentle methods? This episode delves into the research on:
    • Which children and families researchers think time outs are effective for (it’s not the same group of children who are usually study participants!);
    • The precise time out script that has been shown to be effective (and why it works);
    • Whether time outs harm children or not (this is one of the biggest controversies in the Gentle Parenting world)

    If you’ve heard that time out is an effective strategy to gain children’s cooperation but weren’t sure whether it fits with your Gentle Parenting approach, this episode will help you to decide for yourself whether it’s a good fit for you and your family. Other episodes mentioned:

    Episode 231: How to support baby’s development after a Wonder Week

    Episode 230: Do all babies have Wonder Weeks? Here’s what the research says

    Episode 154: Authoritative is not the best parenting style

    Episode 148: Is spanking a child really so bad?

    Episode 072: Is the 30 Million Word Gap Real: Part II

    Episode 066: Is the 30 Million Word Gap real?

    Jump to highlights: 00:03 - Introduction 10:23 - Historical context and research on timeouts 17:26 - Critical analysis of timeout research 28:36 - Effective implementation of timeouts 33:59 - Challenges and limitations of timeouts 41:49 - Jen's personal experiences and emotional impact 49:29 - Alternative perspectives and values
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    1 hr and 2 mins
  • 232: 10 game-changing parenting hacks – straight from master dog trainers

    232: 10 game-changing parenting hacks – straight from master dog trainers
    Jan 6 2025
    What Dog Trainers Know That You Don’t! Ever felt stuck figuring out how to respond to your child’s challenging behavior? What if the key lies in techniques used by master dog trainers? In this episode, we explore how strategies designed to nurture trust and communication with dogs can revolutionize the way we parent. From co-regulation to building a culture of consent, you’ll learn actionable steps to create a harmonious home environment. What you’ll learn:
    • Read dogs’ non-verbal cues to prevent bites - and how reading your child’s can prevent meltdowns.
    • Never yell at dogs—and what they do to get cooperation instead.
    • Calm anxious dogs—the same technique can reduce your child’s tantrums.
    • Build trust and gain consent with dogs—which can also strengthen your relationship with your child.
    • Stay calm under pressure—their strategies can help you navigate parenting stress as well.

    This episode ties together the science of behavior with empathy to show that parenting doesn’t have to mean power struggles. By understanding your child’s needs (just like dog trainers learn to understand their dogs), you’ll build a connection that lasts a lifetime. Don’t miss out on this unique perspective on parenting! Love what you’re learning? Support the show and help us keep delivering insightful episodes like this one! 👉 Click here: https://learn.yourparentingmojo.com/donate Ready to test your parenting instincts? Take our free Quiz to see how these strategies could work for you! Click the banner below. Book mentioned in this episode: Affiliate Links
    • The Other End of the Leash by Dr. Patricia McConnell
    • How to Be Your Dog's Best Friend by The Monks of New Skete
    • Parenting Beyond Power by Jen Lumanlan

    Mentioned Episodes

    • Episode 215: Why will no-one play with me?

    • Episode 201: How to create a culture of consent in our families


    Jump to Highlights

    00:03 Introduction to Your Parenting Mojo Podcast 03:09 Acknowledgment of Listeners and Financial Support 04:39 Jen's Experience with Dog Training at the East Bay SPCA 06:47 Introduction to Dog Training Hacks 10:30 Hack 10: Creating a Culture of Consent 10:42 Hack 9: Not...
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    54 mins

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