Ready for the brutal truth this week? I'm seeing way too many brilliant women holding themselves back, leaving money on the table simply because they think they are too fat and hate how they look!

In this episode I'm exposing the effect societies expectations on women has on your self confidence and how this is stopping you from getting near your business goals.

I want you to take action but you don't need another course or advice from a guru because its actually your self loathing thats stopping you, not lack of knowledge.

You can't hate yourself into a thinner body and even if you could do that, you'd still find something to criticise because thats how beauty standards work - it's never enough.

So if you are struggling to get more visible, show up on social media, get the speaking gigs etc this episode will shake you out of the self loathing and into action.

Key Topics:

podcasting, women in business, body image, self-worth, financial independence, visibility, self-acceptance, diet culture, menopause, career advancement

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In this episode I recorded a chat with Emily Spilman for her community and decided to share it here on the podcast as rage is such a common symptom and I dont think its talked about enough.

We share our personal experiences and exchange notes on how we have got through it with young kids, partners and work. I open up about how the perimenopause affected my family life and led to a complete collapse of my career. We discuss how to cope if this is what you are experiencing too, the importance of self-care, setting boundaries, and getting support from partners and loved ones.

key topics we discuss;

Menopause, rage, self-image, self-worth, self-confidence, relationships, career, support, boundaries, self-care

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Jamie Pei, my lovely friend and fabulous work play coach, joins us this week to chat about the importance of undoing the societal expectations and 'shoulds' around work and life.

Finding joy and play and ease in amongst the daily grind is essential in perimenopause to avoid burn out and making symptoms worse.

We both share our experiences of hustle culture and how this just hasn't brought us fulfilment in our day to day lives. This chat touches on the parallels between diet culture and work culture, and how both are rooted in 'shoulds' and external ideals. All of these things stop us from truly being able to be ourselves because we are drawn in to performing life the way society expects us to.

Jamie helps us ditch the expectations and puts a fresh take what it means to sleep our way to the top through rest!

About Jamie Pei:

With over two decades of experience in the media, fashion, religion and academia, Jamie knows a thing or two about living under the shadow and control of a big, influential institution. She finally made the firm decision to leave all of that behind to start her own coaching business and step into her main-character-energy era!

Jamie is now a work/play coach, supporting self-employed folk to curate a worklife that’s full of ease and play, and aligns with WHAT THEY WANT for their lives. A big part of this work includes helping you find your best way to say “fuck it” to the shoulds - in other words, to recognise which ‘shoulds’, expectations and ideals are still keeping you small, so you can shrug them off for good and start living exactly how YOU want.

An offer for Podcast listeners:

Come hang out with me in a free 45-minute work/play audit, where we’ll deep-dive what’s going on in your work-life and find at least one actionable step you can take to start enjoying more rest and play in your days: https://calendly.com/jamiepei/work-play-audit

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• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamiepei/
• Instagram: @@heyjamiepei
• Substack: averymessylife.substack.com
• Website: jamiepei.com

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