• Trigger Proof Transmissions (Cyclebreaker Collective)

  • By: Dr. Nima Rahmany
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Trigger Proof Transmissions (Cyclebreaker Collective)

By: Dr. Nima Rahmany
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  • Welcome to the TriggerProof podcast. This is the first season of the Podcast which are audio renditions of Facebook Live Video Transmissions done for the “TriggerProof” Facebook Community. These were set up by request of our community members who wanted an opportunity to listen to insights, tools, and strategies to help heal relationship dynamics, deepen intimacy, and master the fine art of Autonomic Nervous System Regulation so that we can build resilience, heal from the past, and become active operators of our mind, body, and life. This first season wasn’t designed to be a podcast, so you’ll notice the audio isn’t Professional Studio Quality (like it is on season 2 as we’ve upgraded incrementally). These trainings are designed to introduce and deepen you to the most critical 2 skills we’ve never been taught: 1) The skill and practice of taking our triggers (Nervous System Activations) and turning them into deeper safety and self-love, 2) The skill and practice of taking conflict (that happens in any relationship) and turning them into deeper intimacy between the parties involved. Not learning these two critical skills at this time in history costs us dearly: Physical and Mental health is on the DECLINE. Doing this deep level of healing work can break the cycle of Intergenerational Trauma that didn’t start with you. It didn’t start with you, but it can end with you, #Cyclebreaker. ______________________________________________________________________ Join my Facebook Group to help you understand yourself, control your triggers, regulate your nervous system and know what's keeping you stuck in these times of crisis: https://www.facebook.com/groups/triggerproof
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  • How Dads Help Build Secure Attachments in Children

    How Dads Help Build Secure Attachments in Children
    Jan 23 2025
    I was talking with Dr. Russ about parenting, and something hit me like a ton of bricks:Our kids don’t just inherit our genes—they inherit our patterns.Let that sink in for a moment.Your child doesn’t just pick up your smile or your laugh. They pick up your unresolved wounds, your triggers, and the ways you’ve learned (or failed) to self-regulate.If you’ve ever caught your child responding with the same anxiety,frustration, or avoidance you recognize in yourself, you know exactly what I’m talking about.It’s hard to see a child act out of their own fears, insecurities, and lack of self worth.What’s worse is when you know damn well where they got it from.It’s like looking into a mirror you didn’t ask for.See if any of this resonates:The moments when you see your child shut down during conflict, just like you may do.Or when they explode in frustration, unable to express what they’re feeling—just like you might recognize within yourself.And as parents, we love them so fiercely, but sometimes we find ourselves repeating the very patterns we swore we’d never pass on:Yelling when they don’t listen.Avoiding conflict because we don’t want to feel like the “bad guy.”Over-apologizing or over-explaining because we can’t bear to see them upset.We may catch ourselves and think: Where did that come from?And then it hits: It’s me. It’s all me.That shame can be paralyzing.Tell me if this relates at all.THE ROLE OF A FATHER (AND THE SECRET TO BREAKING THE CYCLE)In my journey as a dad, I’ve had a game-changing realization:My most important job isn’t to teach Dominic how to be secure.IT’S TO MODEL IT. That means learning how to self-regulate so I don’t pass down the anxious and reactive patterns I grew up with.It means showing him, through my actions, what it looks like to be calm, grounded, attuned, present, empathetic,and EMOTIONALLY SAFE parent.It means supporting his mother in every way possibleso she can pour into him from a full battery.The early years of his life are critical, not just for him, but for me too.If I want to raise a child who feels secure,loved, and capable,I have to do the inner work to become the man who models those things.Because here’s the truth:Kids don’t listen to what you say.THEY ABSORB WHO YOU ARE.As adults, we all carry the wounds of our childhood—unmet needs, unresolved emotions, and the patterns we learned to survive.When we become parents, we either:Heal those wounds, so our kids don’t inherit them.Or we pass them on, unconsciously repeating the cycle.And let’s be honest:Unless you had Unicorn parents,No one taught us how to do this.How to navigate big emotions, set elegant boundaries, or face our shadows.But we have a choice.One Simple PracticeHere’s something I’ve been doing to shift the energy in my home:When Dominic has a meltdown or an emotional outburst, and I feel myself getting rattled, I pause and ask myself:“What am I making this mean about me?”This question alone shifts me into my “observer” consciousness.And I can quickly assess: Am I reacting from my own anxiety, frustration, or unresolved pain?Or am I holding space for him to feel seen, safe, and understood?It’s not easy, and I don’t always get it right.But every time I pause, I break the pattern just a little bit more.Here’s what I’ve learned:The greatest gift you can give your child isn’t toys, opportunities, or a private education.IT’S A REGULATED, SELF-LOVING PARENT.When you learn to meet your own needs, navigate your emotions, and set elegant boundaries, you create a ripple effect.Your kids grow up feeling safe to be themselves because they’re not absorbing your unresolved chaos.You stop passing down the patterns that kept you stuck—and you start raising a child who knows their worth, trusts their voice, and feels at home in their own skin.This is the promise: You CAN break the cycle.No matter how messy or overwhelming it feels right now, healing is always possible.Standing in unwavering belief in your capacity,Your wingman on the adventure,Nima_______________________________________________If you’re ready to take the first step toward healing these patterns—for yourself, your partner, and your kids—I’ve got something special coming up.Starting next month, I’m leading a 3-week journey called “From Chaos to Connection: A Shadow Work Experience.”This immersive mini-course is being run in February and will help you:Understand the hidden dynamics in your relationships—with your partner, kids, and most importantly, yourself.Break free from the cycles of conflict and disconnection by uncovering and integrating your shadow.Learn how to create safety and connection in your home, starting with YOU.This isn’t just another personal development course.It’s a deep dive into the unseen forces driving your relationship patterns—so you can stop the chaos and start building a life of ...
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  • How I Became Emotionally Trigger-Proof: Shoshanna's Transformation Story

    How I Became Emotionally Trigger-Proof: Shoshanna's Transformation Story
    Jan 21 2025
    If you’ve spent years on personal growth—books, seminars, courses, even therapy—and still find yourself struggling with the same patterns, you’re not alone.I know this because I was there too.Landmark. NLP. Polarity courses. Masculine/Feminine communication workshops. Byron Katie.John Demartini.You name it, I’d tried it. I spent hundreds of thousands of dollars chasing transformation, convinced that if I could just fix myself enough, I’d finally feel worthy, confident, and free— and have a healthy relationship with someone I wasn’t so avoidant with.What I didn’t know: None of these cognitive methods ever taught me how to break free from the deeper, more invisible chains—the ones I couldn’t think or talk my way out of.The ones that were there long before I had the language to describe it.They didn’t teach me how to process my anger, disappointment, or frustration in real time — without reacting and making things worse.They didn’t teach me the difference between my intuition and a trauma response.They didn’t teach me how to respond to the chaos in my relationships instead of getting sucked into it.And they definitely didn’t teach me how to break free from the grip of codependency, trauma bonds and enmeshment.It wasn’t until I stepped back and asked a critical question:Why is all this personal development still leaving me stuck in the same emotional loops?The answer was shocking.Because I was trying to learn these skills the wrong way.I had a critical piece that was missing:Embodiment practice. It’s like trying to teach firefighters how to battle a blaze by handing them a book or having them vent in a therapy session. Sure, the theory might make sense—but when the heat is on, theory won’t put out the flames.What firefighters need are fire drills. They need to practice—over and over again—until responding with poise to a fire becomes second nature.The same is true for relationships, emotional regulation, and healing attachment woundsespecially where codependency is concerned.This is what so many of us have been missing: the nuance, the subtle distinctions, the embodied practice. You can’t just read about secure relationships or watch a video on emotional regulation and expect your nervous system to magically fall in line.These are high level SKILLS—and they must be practiced in real time, much like a dance. You can’t learn the Tango from a podcast. You have to feel your way through it, making adjustments, stumbling, and finding your rhythm until it becomes natural.That’s the missing piece most personal development programs and weekly talk therapy sessions don’t address.ShoSho's story is a perfect example. She had done it all—Landmark, coaching, seminars, and still found herself feeling like she was crawling through a desert. She described her nervous system as being in a constant state of hypervigilance, consumed by global anger and self-doubt.Anything you try to learn under that context doesn’t quite land, does it.“I didn’t realize how much of my life was being run by unprocessed emotions,” she said. “This course was like a buffet of well-curated, nutrient-dense items I didn’t know I needed but had been starving for.”Through the work, ShoSho didn’t just learn new concepts. She rewired her nervous system, discovered how to process her emotions instead of shutting them downor being consumed by them, integrated her shadows, and met the parts of herself she was using courses and seminars to try to destroy, and as a result she was able tobuild the capacity to respond to life’s challenges without losing herself.Her relationship with her aging mother completely shifted.She stopped using personal growth as a covert form of self-hate and started practicing compassion, self regulation, and connection—things no book or seminar could teach her.This is the work of becoming Trigger-Proof.When you take this step:You stop reacting from autopilot and start creating relationships built on connection and safety.You learn to hold space for your emotions—and those of your loved ones—without being consumed by them. And you finally experience the peace and freedom that comes with breaking free from the cycle of chaos and codependency.Most importantly, you don’t just change your life—you create a ripple effect. You transform the way your loved ones experience you, and you model what’s possible for those around you.The greatest gift you can give your children, your partner, and yourself isn’t perfection—it’s self-love. It’s the courage to meet your darker parts with compassion, to navigate your emotions with grace, and to rewrite the story of your worth.This isn’t about fixing what’s broken; it’s about remembering who you are beneath the conditioning, the self-doubt, and the fear. It’s about stepping into an identity that no longer reacts to life on autopilot but instead...
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  • Where Our Dysfunctional Relationship With Our Emotions Come From

    Where Our Dysfunctional Relationship With Our Emotions Come From
    Jan 18 2025
    Parents who admit to already having a dysfunctional relationship with their own emotions,have been asking me about their challenges with their children.This led me to want to bring something to your attention if you’re a parent who cares about raising healthy and resilient children.When your child comes to you with tears in their eyes, do you find yourself saying, “You’re fine, don’t cry”?When they act out, do you catch yourself losing patience—or even control?When they’re scared or angry, do you struggle to just sit with them without trying to fix it?These are the moments that define their inner world.Without knowing it, most of us have been conditioned to create a dysfunctional relationshipwith our own emotions— and are passing it down to our kids.Look in the past few months at the space within your home.Is your home a space of safety, or is it more like a battlefield?It’s not intentional. No parent wants this.But when we are reactive from our own unhealed wounds, the home becomes a place of tension, disconnection, and unpredictable emotions.And kids-- They absorb it. Every bit of it.What happens when kids grow up in homes without emotional safety?They learn to doubt themselves, just like we do.Anxiety: They start FEARING their emotions because no one taught them how to handle fear.Self-doubt: They question their worth because they never felt truly seen or valued.Emotional suppression: They hide their feelings because they see us doing the same—or worse, because we told them to.And they grow up with beliefs like: “I’m too much.” “If I cry, I’m weak.” “My feelings are a burden.” “To be loved, I have to be perfect.”These aren’t just thoughts—they become identities.If you can relate to them, and haven’t sorted them out,chances are you’re unknowingly passing it down to the next generation.Generations of us were raised on dismissive parenting practices.“Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about.”“You’re fine. Don’t be so dramatic.”“That’s nothing to be scared of.”“STOP BEING SO ANGRY."We were taught—directly or indirectly—that emotions are problems to fix, not experiences to feel.Zero tolerance for frustration, sadness, or fear,so we try to protect them from it— unknowingly setting them up to be fragile, with no self worth or self trust.Can you relate to feeling this way with the same challenges?And now, despite our best intentions, we’re unconsciously teaching our kids the same thing.We model it in the way we suppress our sadness or numb our anger.We react to their big emotions because we’ve never learned how to handle our own.We perpetuate the belief that emotions make us weak.And it’s no wonder:We didn’t learn how to become Trigger-Proof.Now, add this to the mix:Kids today are being raised on screens that hijack their nervous systems with endless dopamine.TikTok. Instagram. YouTube.They’re overstimulated, emotionally dysregulated, and starving for connection.If we, as parents, aren’t regulated ourselves, we can’t create the safety they need to navigate this world.And without safety, kids are left to fend for themselves in a storm of self-doubt, anxiety, and disconnection.It’s not hereditary—it’s conditioning.The Opportunity:The greatest gift you can give your child is a self-loving parent.(Read that again).When you heal your own attachment wounds, you break the cycle.When you learn how to regulate your nervous system, your kids feel safer with you. Their truth becomes safer with you,so their connection with themselves (and you) becomes stronger.When you create safety in your own emotions, you create safety in your home.This isn’t about being a perfect parent.It’s about becoming the parent your child needs—a regulated, compassionate, and present one.Imagine raising kids who:Trust their emotions instead of fearing them.Know their worth without questioning it.Feel safe to express themselves without shame.Grow up with a secure identity, unburdened by trauma.That’s what happens when you take the time to heal.When you step into this work, everything changes.You stop reacting and start responding. You create relationships that thrive on connection instead of chaos.You model self-worth, resilience, and emotional intelligence.This work isn’t just for your kids—it’s for you.Because you deserve to live in a home that feels like a sanctuary, not a battlefield.And you have the power to make it happen.Your wingman on the adventure.Nima__________________________________________________________________P.S. If this message resonates, and you’re ready to break the cycle and create a home where your children feel safe, secure, and seen, let’s talk.A Blind Spot Call is a 30-minute session designed to help you: Identify how your childhood conditioning is affecting your parenting.Understand why your reactions are impacting your home dynamic—and how to shift them.Gain ...
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