• The Odyssey: Parenting. Caregiving. Disability.

  • By: Erin Croyle
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The Odyssey: Parenting. Caregiving. Disability.

By: Erin Croyle
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  • The Odyssey podcast explores the unique journey we're sent on when a loved one has a disability. We dig deep into the joys and hardships. We celebrate how amazing the odyssey of parenting, caregiving, and disability are. But we don't shy away from the tough stuff either. Each episode will explore topics that hit a little different because of our life experience. Our guests' perspective will sometimes bring comfort and other times challenge the way we see the world. centerforfamilyinvolvementblog.org
    2023
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  • 2024 Airing of Grievances: Sharing our Secret Lives

    2024 Airing of Grievances: Sharing our Secret Lives
    Dec 23 2024
    We're trying something different this episode: our first ever anonymous "airing of grievances." Many of us exist in our own information bubbles, completely ignorant of what those around us might be going through. This is especially true for people with disabilities and the family, friends, and professionals who love and support them. When The Odyssey's creator and host Erin Croyle asked, "What is something you wish others understood about your experience that you don't (or can't) talk about publicly?" - folks did NOT hold back. What about you? What secrets do you wish you could share? The Odyssey: Parenting. Caregiving. Disability. The Center for Family Involvement at VCU School of Education's Partnership for People with Disabilities provides informational and emotional support to people with disabilities and their families. All of our services are free. We just want to help. We know how hard this can be because we're in it with you. TRANSCRIPTION: 01:00:06:19 - 01:00:36:11 Erin Croyle Welcome to The Odyssey. Parenting, Caregiving, Disability. I'm Erin Croyle, the creator and host of the Odyssey podcast explores how our lives change when a loved one has a disability. I was lucky enough to join the club, so to speak, when my first child was born with Down's syndrome in 2010. Now I work with the Center for Family Involvement at VCU's Partnership for People with Disabilities. 01:00:36:13 - 01:01:03:16 Erin Croyle One of the mantras often shared in the Down's Syndrome community is more alike than different. While that is absolutely true for humans across the board, disabled or not, we do ourselves a disservice by not acknowledging how different our life experiences are. I've felt this deeply over the years. The society we live in, not just in the United States but globally, fails at understanding and accepting disability. 01:01:03:18 - 01:01:35:14 Erin Croyle It's often viewed as something to fix or overcome, which is often impossible, usually unnecessary and frankly, ridiculous and insulting. Disability is one of the many things that makes us who we are. It is natural and normal. The daily struggle that people with disabilities and their families face is exhausting. It's not just about those shopping carts we see left in accessible spaces or having someone drop the R word and mixed company as if it's as innocuous as talking about the weather. 01:01:35:16 - 01:02:04:18 Erin Croyle It's that loneliness we feel because many of the hardships we face are so private and painful that we don't speak of them. Out of respect for a child's autonomy or because we don't want to rehash it, it's the blatant ableism embedded in our systems and mindsets. It's painful microaggressions that slide largely under the radar. But not today. In honor of Festivus, I've reached out to peers who are impacted by disability. 01:02:04:20 - 01:02:21:05 Erin Croyle For an anonymous airing of grievances, asking them what they wish others understood about their experiences, that is rarely mentioned in the public arena. 01:02:21:07 - 01:02:45:01 Erin Croyle My husband and I are the youngest in each of our families. We became an aunt and an uncle before we became parents. And as I mentioned, I'm pretty much every podcast. Arlo, our first child, has multiple disabilities and medical complexities. Down syndrome is just the most obvious. Observing the family and friend dynamics over the years has been interesting, to say the least. 01:02:45:03 - 01:03:13:14 Erin Croyle Arlo is more alike than different for sure, but yeesh, the way people react to him or treat him ranges from weird to downright unacceptable. The times I've tried to address the able ism we experience in our own inner circle has been met with hostility. Over the years, I've learned to just avoid certain situations and people, especially since my own neurodiversity and mama bear rage, makes it hard to simply bite my tongue. 01:03:13:16 - 01:03:45:13 Erin Croyle And that brings us to the heart of today's episode an airing of grievances just in time for Festivus. Festivus, for those who don't know, is a secular holiday celebrated on December 23rd. Festivus came into the mainstream thanks to the sitcom Seinfeld and an episode that aired in 1997, The character Frank Costanza, played by comedy legend Jerry Stiller, delivers the iconic motto, A Festivus for the rest of us. 01:03:45:15 - 01:04:14:11 Erin Croyle What I did not know until working on this episode is that Festivus is an actual holiday. It's based on a tradition that one of the Seinfeld show writers, fathers invented as early as 1966. For this episode of The Odyssey, There will be no flagpole and no feats of strength. Wrestling matches. Instead, it's an honest, real and raw airing of grievances, but also pain, joy and humor. 01:04:14:13 - 01:04:48:13 Erin Croyle Because sometimes the things that are better left unsaid are also things that others need to know if they want to be fully...
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    18 mins
  • Caregiving and Parenting Are NOT the Same

    Caregiving and Parenting Are NOT the Same
    Nov 18 2024
    Right now in the United States, more than 53 million family members are providing unpaid and mostly unseen care to the loved ones in our lives. According to the National Council on Aging, that's an economic value that totals more than $470 billion. Since November is National Family Caregivers Month, we wanted to highlight what it means to be a caregiver and why everyone should be looking out for the caregivers in their lives. The Odyssey: Parenting. Caregiving. Disability. The Center for Family Involvement at VCU School of Education's Partnership for People with Disabilities provides informational and emotional support to people with disabilities and their families. All of our services are free. We just want to help. We know how hard this can be because we're in it with you. SHOW NOTES: Read more about how different caregiving and parenting are on the Center for Family Involvement's blog: CAREGIVING AND PARENTING ARE NOT THE SAME CAREGIVING AND PARENTING ARE NOT THE SAME: BACK TO SCHOOL EDITION Learn more about disability services and how to become a paid caregiver. TRANSCRIPT: Welcome to The Odyssey. Parenting, Caregiving, Disability. I'm Erin Croyle, the creator and host. The Odyssey podcast explores how our lives change when someone we love has a disability. I was lucky enough to head down this less traveled road when my first child was born with Down's Syndrome in 2010. Now I work with the Center for Family Involvement and VCU's Partnership for People with Disabilities. 01:00:37:05 - 01:00:47:20 Erin Croyle I started this podcast because the media rarely highlights the issues that impact us so deeply. Caregiving is one of them. 01:00:47:22 - 01:01:10:03 Erin Croyle More and more, we're seeing the term caregiving lumped in with general parenting duties, diluting what it truly means to be a caregiver. In honor of November being National Family Caregivers Month. I'm going to break down how parenting and caregiving are fundamentally different. 01:01:10:05 - 01:01:38:17 Erin Croyle I'm going to keep it real with you. Listener. This episode is really late. It should have been out last month and that episode is still coming. It's in honor of October being National Disability Employment Awareness Month, and I've interviewed two wonderful guests already and that will be out soon. But like so many parents and caregivers, I know things are just relentless. 01:01:38:19 - 01:02:07:08 Erin Croyle And I am at the point in my life where I recognize that it is impossible to meet all of the demands placed on us as parents who are also caregivers. But it's almost as impossible to realize that what we as parents and caregivers come to know is our normal is not the norm and it is so important to point this out, not to wallow in how hard it can be because nobody has time to wallow. 01:02:07:14 - 01:02:33:23 Erin Croyle And who the heck wants to anyway, right? But it's important to validate the feelings of overwhelm and burnout and exhaustion and sadness and frustration that we feel this society we live in isn't designed for kids like ours, and it's not kind to caregivers either. Even politics. And we don't really get into politics, right? I leave that out of this. 01:02:34:00 - 01:03:03:20 Erin Croyle But for caregivers, there are things you need to know during voting cycles about the way that our government structures work that most people don't even know are there. You have to understand health care and Medicaid and waivers and supports that your children will need when you're gone. And you have to face the extreme difficulty of knowing that you could very well outlive your child. 01:03:03:22 - 01:03:33:20 Erin Croyle Do you have to set up things for when you're gone to make sure that your kid is going to be okay? It's something else. And I don't think that as caregivers, we really talk about that openly. That kind of melancholy that we live in. And this isn't just about those significant disabilities where someone will need care their whole life. 01:03:33:21 - 01:04:08:11 Erin Croyle I mean, that's certainly part of it. But I've got to be honest, my own able isn't blind in me to how difficult it can be to care for someone with ADHD or mental health struggles. Neurodiversity. Physical Disabilities. Even though someone will be able to live on their own one day with less supports does not mean that the caregiving to get them to that point is not substantial. 01:04:08:13 - 01:04:41:04 Erin Croyle It's a lot. And just getting a diagnosis for these invisible disabilities in rare conditions is really hard. And that alone takes time. Believe me, I'm there. I have three kids and neurodiversity is through and through in our household. And and we didn't really see that until later because my oldest child's needs were so great. The idea that there was neurodiversity in my youngest, I don't think that I picked that up soon enough. 01:04:41:04 - 01:05:12:15 Erin Croyle And I'm still ...
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    23 mins
  • Are Inclusive Schools Even Possible? Part 2

    Are Inclusive Schools Even Possible? Part 2
    Oct 1 2024
    Meaningful inclusion is possible, if we’re being honest though, it’s so rare that most folks don’t even know what it looks like. In part two of this episode on inclusion in public schools (be sure to check out part one!), Erin Croyle has educator and advocate Trina Allen break down what co-teaching is, how it works, and what can be done to make truly inclusive education a reality. The Odyssey: Parenting. Caregiving. Disability. The Center for Family Involvement at VCU School of Education's Partnership for People with Disabilities provides informational and emotional support to people with disabilities and their families. All of our services are free. We just want to help. We know how hard this can be because we're in it with you. SHOW NOTES: Talia A. Lewis' Working Definiciton of Ableism. How much are students with disabilities actually included? This breakdown demonstrates there is much work to be done. National Center for Education Statistics releases various annual reports and as well as topical studies. More on the Ithaca City School District. Inclusion benefits EVERYone. Learn more about the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA). TRANSCRIPT: 01:00:07:11 - 01:00:39:01 Erin Croyle Welcome to The Odyssey. Parenting, Caregiving, Disability. I'm Erin Croyle, the creator and host. The Odyssey podcast explores how our lives change when a loved one has a disability. I joined the caregiver club 14 years ago when my first child was born with Down syndrome. My journey weaved its way here, working for the Center for Family Involvement at VCU's Partnership for People with Disabilities. 01:00:39:03 - 01:01:09:07 Erin Croyle This podcast highlights the joys and hardships we face. Celebrating how amazing the odyssey of parenting, caregiving and disability can be. While examining the spiderweb of complex issues, we're tangled in, The fight for meaningful inclusion in our schools is a struggle for so many of us. In our last episode, I spoke with special education teacher advocate, activist and parent Trina Allen. 01:01:09:09 - 01:01:31:21 Erin Croyle We left off talking about how gut wrenching advocating for an inclusive education can be, especially as our kids get older. And we're picking up right there with Trina telling us not only that it can be done, but how we can do it. 01:01:31:23 - 01:01:47:19 Erin Croyle I know of a number of parents who have children who stop working and are like full on tutors for their kids to keep them on that diploma track. The thing is, like a kid with Down syndrome is one kid with Down syndrome. 01:01:47:22 - 01:01:50:04 Trina Allen Thank you! 01:01:50:06 - 01:02:17:19 Erin Croyle Yes, Autism is one kid with autism. CP And so when you have a student who is at a grade level in grade school trying to do seventh grade math, I don't know as a parent where the line is. I think that our schools, once we get to a certain level, it's not parents failing, but it's their schools not offering enough options for kids with more significant needs. 01:02:17:19 - 01:02:34:24 Erin Croyle Instead, they just shove them into a cookie cutter classroom. I don't know. I guess I don't even know what my question is. All I know is that. Trina Allen Fix it! Erin Croyle They reach a certain age and there's no choice anymore, right? No other option anymore. Trina Allen So while we're on the fight for inclusion, it cannot be on the back of our individual child and listening to what he needs in the moment is the biggest fight of ableism. Listening to him is the biggest fight of Abel's that you will ever do with him. The issue of what needs to happen is that that math class needs to not be based on an outcome of these particular things. 01:03:03:03 - 01:03:27:24 Trina Allen That math class needs to be structured on. These are the standards, and every single kid in it is at a different place and it needs to be supported in that way. And so do I think it can be done? my God. Math is like the easiest. You know, it becomes more complicated in like history and English, but it doesn't have to be if the design is universal. 01:03:28:01 - 01:03:47:17 Trina Allen Now, that's a lot of curriculum, though. That's a lot of things that need to be made and change, and that curriculum needs to be not adapted for your son. That curriculum needs to be created with him and created with the kid at a different level and created with a kid at the different level and created with the kid in a different level. 01:03:47:19 - 01:04:27:00 Trina Allen And it needs to be individualized. And that is doable with time and space. And what I do like about the current district that, you know, that we both are dealing with is that's the goal. And when the systems have not created all of those levels of curriculum and are displayed by the slide show and are displayed in all those quiet ways that are as equal and that are that his production is as integrated and valued ...
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    1 hr and 12 mins

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