Wondering if you should open up your relationship or try out polyamory? You’re not alone! More and more people seem to be having this conversation.

Ruby and Meg get into what it truly means to be non-monogamous. Ruby shares what her life looks like as a solo polyamorous babe and Meg contemplates whether non-monogamy could ever be for her. They chat about what it means to build relationships outside of the “norm” and why we’re taught to believe that love can run out. A hot Countdown collab is floated with (non-monogamous?) Carol Vorderman. Plus plot twist - Meg wonders whether she could date Ruby’s dad…

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Resources:

• Non-monogamy quiz from: https://www.askdiem.com/post/the-beginner-s-guide-to-opening-up-your-relationship-part-1

Ruby and Meg’s recommendations:

• Ruby’s new book! The Non-Monogamy Playbook https://lnk.to/thenonmonogamyplaybook
• The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy by Lola Phoenix
• Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities by Kevin A. Patterson
• How to understand your relationship by Meg-John Barker and Alex Iantaffi (Pub. 2025)

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

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Merry Christmas from Ruby and Meg! We'll be back with a full episode of The Ins and Outs on 2nd Jan

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Buckle up as Ruby and Meg reveal their Hinge and Feeld dating profiles, offering each other (and you listeners!) dating app tips along the way.

We hear about Ruby and Meg’s best and weirdest dating app stories - from Ruby’s first date at a sex party to Meg’s phase of dating furiously to get a ‘festive boyfriend’. They laugh about creating romantic fantasies about people before and after dates - “what will my wedding speech be like?!” And Meg prepares for a first date TONIGHT! Also… where is the Grindr for girls please??

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Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare

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The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.

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Stress can be a b**ch for us and our sex lives.

Ruby and Meg share what happens to their sexual desire when they’re stressed, Ruby reveals the science behind stress and they both share their tips for how to deal with stress impacting your sex life. Meg also petitions for a national holiday where only hibernation and self-love slobbing is allowed. Sounds great, no?!

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The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.

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Ruby and Meg chat to actor, comedian and writer Ash Self (best known for playing Felix in Heartstopper), who debunks the myth that disabled people either can’t have sex or don’t want to.

We hear about sex education (or lack of it) in the hospital youth ward where Ash spent some time and how he feels people expect to see him on Children in Need rather than Grindr. Ruby, Meg and Ash also debate whether Love Island is ready for a trans wheelchair user (or even just hairy armpits?!).

Ash shares his dating highs - sleeping with another trans person for the first time - and dating lows - a comically bad sex moment that he swerved, thanks to asthma and his gran!

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Ash’s recommendations:

• Disability Intimacy: Essays on Love, Care, and Desire, edited by Alice Wong

Ruby and Meg’s recommendations

• Heartstopper TV series (Netflix)

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

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Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

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There are stories akimbo in this episode as Ruby and Meg continue chatting about the holy trinity of sex topics: lube, squirting and strap-ons!

Ruby shares whether squirting is actually pee and reveals the world record for the highest volume of squirt. (Pimms jug anyone?!). Ruby and Meg exchange surprising squirting stories and discuss wearing a strap-on to… watch TV.

This is the second half of a two-part episode. Scroll back to last week’s episode for part one!

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Ruby and Meg recommendations:

• Splash Blanket
• Njoy Pure Wand Stainless Steel Dildo

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.

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Ruby and Meg tackle the holy trinity of sex topics: lube, squirting and strap-ons!

Ruby gives us the lowdown on different kinds of lube and Meg shares the moment lube got her featured in The Sun. Ruby builds up to revealing an explicit lube-related story that her book editor asked her to remove before the book was published.

This is a two-part episode. Part two out next week!

Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com

Follow Ruby on socials: @rubyrare

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Ruby and Meg’s lube recommendations:

• YES Organic lube
• Pasante lube
• Liquid silk lube

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.

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Who are you when no one else is watching? Ruby and Meg have a raw and candid discussion with their first ever guest: author and psychotherapist Charlotte Fox Weber.

From painful stories of being slut shamed to laughing at the shame you can feel for f*cked up TV crushes, Ruby, Meg and Charlotte get shame out in the open. This is a complex and tender discussion.

Sexual violence is discussed in this episode so please listen with care. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.

Email the podcast: hello@insandoutspod.com

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Links and resources:

• Charlotte Fox Weber: @charlottefoxweberpsychotherapy
• Sacred Monsters (Forthcoming) by Charlotte Fox Weber
• What We Want by Charlotte Fox Weber

Charlotte recommendations:

• Paula Rego (Artist)
• Anaïs Nin (Author)

The Ins and Outs with Ruby and Megan is a Mags Creative and Dear Media production

Producer and Content Editor for Mags Creative: Christy Callaway-Gale

Editor and Engineer: Beautiful Strangers, Podcast House

Executive Producers for Mags Creative: Faith Russell and Kit Milsom

This podcast contains adult themes that are not suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.