In this episode of The Identity Work Podcast, we dive into that persistent tug-of-war between seeking ambitious goals and feeling truly content where we are right now. We explore why it can feel like two opposing voices—one telling us to push harder, achieve more, and leave nothing on the table, and the other whispering that we’re already enough as is.

Expect honest reflections on navigating these dual urges, sprinkled with humor (like the time we lamented not being listed among the “sexiest podcasters,” but decided to find solace in our push-up prowess). We share personal stories, discuss the concept of seasons in life, and highlight how intentional reflection can help you see meaning in whatever stage you’re in.

You’ll hear strategies for embracing both your inner achiever and your restful spirit. Most importantly, you’ll learn that contentment and ambition need not be enemies.

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In this episode of The Identity Work Podcast, we dive into the habit of debating hypothetical future decisions and whether it's a waste of time or a helpful exercise. Adam shares his experience of spending countless hours pondering which business school to attend—Harvard or Stanford—even though he never applied to either. We discuss how high achievers often escape into future fantasies to cope with present stress, and how this can be both a source of joy and a hindrance.

We explore the fine line between hopeful dreaming and unproductive rumination, touching on how focusing on specific actions we can control brings us back to the present. Stephen relates this to his own experiences in dating, highlighting how overthinking future possibilities can overshadow enjoying the moment.

Join us as we balance embracing future aspirations and staying grounded in today. Where can you let go of 'what ifs' to find more meaning in your work right now?

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In this episode of The Identity Work Podcast, we explore my friend Max's transformative journey. Max shares how a severe back injury in college left him unable to sit for five years, forcing him to rethink his beliefs and approach to life and work. We explore how this experience shifted his perspective from idealism to pragmatism, leading him to question whether meaning is inherent or created.

Max candidly discusses his childhood love for adventure, his struggle with chronic pain, and his unconventional career path—from law to biotech startups to consulting. He opens up about the importance of relationships, new experiences, and the disciplines he adopted to manage his pain and reclaim his life. Join us as we unpack how Max turned adversity into an opportunity to create meaning on his terms.

Where can you begin to create meaning in your life today?

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In this episode of The Identity Work Podcast, we reflect on the classic career dilemma: Should you settle for "good enough" now to pave the way for "great" later? Hosts Stephen and Adam explore the tension between short-term sacrifices and long-term aspirations, sharing personal anecdotes and practical insights on how to make career decisions with intention.

Adam unpacks his journey of testing hypotheses about meaningful work and balancing the desire for autonomy with the reality of gaining experience. They discuss the importance of knowing what you’re striving toward, why paying dues can sometimes feel aimless, and how to make it more purposeful.

Listeners will learn strategies for navigating career uncertainty, testing ideas before fully committing, and finding gratitude even in the hard parts of the journey.

As you wrap up this episode, consider: What’s one door you could open with a bit more effort today?

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In this episode of The Identity Work Podcast, we welcome our first guest, Jack—a high achiever navigating the complexities of meaningful work during life transitions. Jack shares his journey from Princeton to private equity at Carlyle, earning an MBA from Stanford, and his experience as a startup entrepreneur. We discuss the tensions between striving and enjoying the present, freedom, and connection and finding personal meaning in both the journey and the destination.

Jack discusses his experimental approach to discovering what feels right, emphasizing the importance of knowing oneself and embracing inevitable trade-offs. We explore insights from books like "Four Thousand Weeks" by Oliver Burkeman and "The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control," examining how cultural narratives shape our pursuit of fulfillment. Join us as we unpack how embracing these tensions can lead to a more authentic and meaningful work life.

Where can you embrace the tensions in your journey to find more meaning in your work today?

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In this episode of the "Identity Work Podcast," we explore how workplace relationships shape our sense of meaning. Stephen suggests that relationships might be the biggest factor in meaningful work, and Adam brings in research to examine this idea.

We discuss the four dimensions of workplace relationships—social support, external interactions, task interdependence, and feedback—and why just being friendly isn't enough. Adam shares his experiences, realizing that meaningful work relationships are about effective collaboration.

We offer practical strategies for improving relationships at work, especially when dealing with challenging bosses or teams, and how to assess potential relationships during job interviews.

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In this episode of the "Identity Work Podcast," we explore the intricate relationship between our identity, happiness, and meaningful work.

This episode is all about balancing happiness and meaningfulness, and how both can coexist in our lives. We'll share personal stories about fatherhood, coping with stress, and finding joy in simple pleasures like watching TV.

Learn strategies to navigate life's complexities, embrace challenges, and separate the pursuits of happiness and meaningfulness for a more fulfilling life.

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In this episode of the "Identity Work Podcast," we explore the complex transitions from sabbaticals back to everyday life, the struggle with rising expectations and anxieties, and the balance between financial goals and personal fulfillment.

We share our personal experiences on maintaining self-worth amidst successes and failures, offering insights from Henry Nowen’s 'Life of the Beloved' and discussing practical tips for finding stability and joy.

Join us as we discuss the importance of living in the present, coping with negative self-talk, and achieving a more meaningful and fulfilling career and life.

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