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Points to Ponder as you listen:

• How can you be gentle with yourself during this season?
• How can you honor your loved one during this season?
• How can you create new memories or traditions to help cope with a loss of a season?
• How can you be less judgmental with your ideas of grief?

Support Groups:
GriefShare
Christi Center
The Austin Center for Grief & Loss

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Points to Ponder as you listen:

• What are safe topics to talk about?
• What are your boundaries regarding talking topics?
• How can you communicate your boundaries preventatively?
• How can you connect with someone of different views (human to human)?

Remember if there is harrassment and verbal abuse or aggression that is unacceptable. Refer back to the emotiionally immature people episode. These suggestions are for those that are not in extreme conflict.

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“All I know is that my life is better when I assume that people are doing their best. It keeps me out of judgment and lets me focus on what is, and not what should or could be.”― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

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Points to Ponder as you listen:

• Has there been a change in the family that would require a shift in traditions?
• How can flexibility occur to support these changes?
• How can you communicate with the family well to honor these changes?
• What is the "why" for your holiday needs?
• What are the boundaries to respect?

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― Brené Brown, Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

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Points to Ponder as you listen:

• What traditions do you want to establish as you start a family?
• What is most important to your kids' memories of the holidays?
• How do you want your kids to remember you around the holidays?
• How can you let your kids weigh in on holiday traditions?
• What is your ultimate goal as a parent around the holidays?

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Points to Ponder as you listen:

• When can you schedule a calendar meeting with your partner?
• What topics need to be included (budget, division of labor, connection time)?
• Are there holiday chores you can reframe as events or fun activities in order to intentionally connect with one another?

Fair Play
Couple's Therapy episode

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Points to Ponder as you listen:

• What's most importnat to you during the holidays?
• What causes you stress?
• Do you judge how you feel during the holidays?
• What are your expectations? Have you communicated these?

The Lazy Genius Collective (just peruse her episodes--guarantee you'll find something of interest)
Quick Check In: Self Care episode

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Points to Ponder as you listen:

• What feeling comes up for you when you set boundaries or even when you think about setting boundaries?
• What are unspoken boundaries you can set?
• What are spoken ones you can plan for during your holiday gatherings?
• If boundaries are violated does a decision about a relationship need to be made?

Boundaries, Henry Cloud & John Townsend

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Points to Ponder as you listen:

• Who will you interact with this holiday that might fall under this description of an Emotionally Immature Person (EIP)?
• What expectations can you reframe to help protect yourself in the relationship?
• What plans can you make going into this interaction with an EIP based on what you hear in this episode?
• How can you practice emotional intimacy in other, safe relationships?

Lindsay C. Gibson's books

We Can Do Hard Things, Episode 263
We Can Do Hard Things, Episode 264

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