• #154 - One Reason Your Needs Aren't Being Met
    Jan 20 2025

    Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. They explore why courage is essential for expressing your needs and creating deeper intimacy. Through real-life stories, playful anecdotes, and actionable advice, they discuss how fear and past rejection shape our ability to ask for what we need. Learn how to identify your core needs, overcome the fear of rejection, and build a more balanced partnership, perfect for couples and individuals committed to personal growth and meaningful connections.

    Show notes:
    (2:24) Funny story: Courage at a dance club
    (6:29) What is courage, and why does it matter?
    (8:31) The “Rainbow Slide” explanation
    (14:37) How rejection shapes our fear of asking
    (16:43) Alicia shares her experience with Relationship Talks
    (19:21) Identifying unmet needs in relationships
    (22:49) Balancing conflicting needs in partnerships
    (24:58) Risks of being overly selfless or selfish
    (30:11) The "growth gap" in relationships
    (32:18) Outro

    Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
    https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching

    Join us at Relationship Talks #44 on Thursday, February 20th, 2025, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “Getting on the Same Page About Personal Growth" - https://bit.ly/4jz6bZ0

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    Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

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    33 mins
  • #153 - One Powerful Tool That's Changed Our Relationship
    Jan 13 2025

    Frustrations aren’t just complaints—they’re pathways to innovation! In today’s episode, Emilia and Alan share a powerful tool that transformed their connection and deepened their understanding of each other. Learn why expressing gratitude and frustrations is key to building psychological safety and fostering collaboration in your relationship. They discuss how unspoken frustrations can create unseen wedges, the importance of honest communication, and how gratitude can coexist with constructive criticism. Whether single or in a relationship, this episode offers practical tips to foster openness and growth with your partner.

    Show notes:
    (2:25) The powerful relationship tool
    (5:16) The “home theater” story and frustrations
    (9:09) The role of psychological safety in relationships
    (14:34) Bonnie says this about Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Talks.
    (17:09) Why frustrations spark creativity and innovation
    (24:24) The genius of the “and” in communication
    (28:19) Relationship coaching and upcoming events
    (30:22) Outro

    Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
    https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching

    Join us at Relationship Talks #43 on Thursday, January 16th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be More Courageous with Your Partner” - https://bit.ly/3BJUqhi

    ___________________________

    Follow us on Instagram:
    Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
    Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

    *Email:* 💬
    alan@theweuniversity.com
    emilia@theweuniversity.com

    Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

    Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

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    31 mins
  • #152 - Does Your Partner Love All of You?
    Jan 6 2025

    Are you being your true self in your relationship, or are parts of you hiding to fit in? In this episode, Emilia and Alan discuss what it means for your partner to love all of you genuinely—your past, present, and future selves. With relatable stories and actionable advice, they’ll inspire you to reflect on your relationships and teach you how to foster more profound, authentic connections. Whether you’re single, dating, or in a long-term relationship, this episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking a deeper, more authentic bond.

    Show notes:
    (2:39) The sun and planets analogy for true self
    (5:37) Hiding your true self in relationships
    (10:04) How fear impacts authenticity
    (12:13) Looking back: growth over time
    (14:12) Sherysse, another satisfied client, shares her beautiful journey with Alan and Emilia.
    (20:06) Does your partner love all of you?
    (25:25) Courageous conversations and authenticity
    (27:41) Outro

    Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
    https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching

    Join us at Relationship Talks #43 on Thursday, January 16th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be More Courageous with Your Partner” - https://bit.ly/3BJUqhi

    ___________________________

    Follow us on Instagram:
    Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
    Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

    *Email:* 💬
    alan@theweuniversity.com
    emilia@theweuniversity.com

    Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

    Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

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    28 mins
  • #151 - Why You Might Be Feeling Disconnected
    Dec 30 2024

    Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In today’s episode, they share personal stories, practical tips, and thoughtful insights on setting boundaries to enhance emotional intimacy. Discover how small, intentional changes—like moving your devices to another room—can transform how you connect with your partner. From putting your phone aside to establishing healthier screen-time habits, this episode offers actionable tools to help you and your loved one prioritize meaningful moments together. Tune in now to reconnect and strengthen your bond!

    Show notes:
    (3:36) Personal strategies to limit distractions
    (5:50) Understanding “Brain Rot” and “Digiphrenia”
    (7:31) Choosing your partner over your screen
    (10:29) Identifying your biggest distractions
    (11:32) Listen to Jason’s and Lisa’s testimonial on Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching
    (14:48) Impact of unmet needs on relationships
    (19:15) Setting boundaries for a deeper connection
    (21:15) Courageous communication with your partner
    (23:09) Outro

    Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
    https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching

    Join us at Relationship Talks #43 on Thursday, January 16th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be More Courageous with Your Partner” - https://bit.ly/3BJUqhi

    ___________________________

    Follow us on Instagram:
    Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
    Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

    *Email:* 💬
    alan@theweuniversity.com
    emilia@theweuniversity.com

    Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

    Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

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    24 mins
  • #150 - How to Start 2025 Off on the Same Page
    Dec 23 2024

    Transform your relationship goals into reality! In this heartfelt episode, Emilia and Alan guide couples through the “Three C’s” for building a strong, fulfilling relationship in the new year. They share inspiring client stories, practical tips, and exercises to help couples align on goals, create sustainable plans, and support each other through challenges. Whether planning for a home, a wedding, or a fitness goal, these tools will help you and your partner align your visions and create lasting memories.

    Show notes:
    (2:12) Highlighting client success
    (4:16) The iceberg analogy: Visible results Vs. Hidden work
    (9:25) The three C’s
    (14:05) Here’s Angela and Caleb sharing their Relationship Talk experience
    (17:18) Overcoming mental blocks around goal-setting
    (24:05) Real-life examples of the three C’s in action
    (30:13) Outro

    Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
    https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching

    Join us at Relationship Talks #43 on Thursday, January 16th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Be More Courageous with Your Partner” - https://bit.ly/3BJUqhi

    ___________________________

    Follow us on Instagram:
    Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
    Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

    *Email:* 💬
    alan@theweuniversity.com
    emilia@theweuniversity.com

    Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

    Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

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    31 mins
  • #149 - Does Your Partner Always Think They're Right
    Dec 16 2024

    Are you stuck in a never-ending tug-of-war over who’s ‘right’ in your relationship? What if the goal wasn’t to win the argument but to uncover the truth? In this episode, Emilia and Alan reveal how shifting your mindset can transform your connection. Through real-life stories, practical examples, and the powerful metaphor of a ‘truth chamber,’ they’ll show you how to build trust, accept feedback gracefully, and align your goals for a thriving partnership. Tune in to discover simple strategies to grow closer and flourish as a team.

    Show notes:
    (2:30) A humorous story about feedback in relationships
    (6:56) Personal growth through embracing past mistakes
    (10:09) The “truth chamber” metaphor for objective communication
    (14:59) Listen to what Amy and Chris have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
    (18:45) Aligning goals as a couple for mutual success
    (25:26) Invitation to the upcoming RTE
    (27:03) Outro

    Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
    https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching

    Join us at Relationship Talks #42 on Friday, December 19th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Align You & Your Partner’s Goals for 2025” - https://bit.ly/4i5oG6r

    ___________________________

    Follow us on Instagram:
    Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
    Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

    *Email:* 💬
    alan@theweuniversity.com
    emilia@theweuniversity.com

    Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

    Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

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    28 mins
  • #148 - How "Protecting Your Partner" Can Backfire
    Dec 9 2024

    Welcome to The Conscious Couples Podcast with Emilia Smith and Alan Lazaros. In this episode, they explore how protective relationship behaviors can unintentionally create tension and hinder growth. They discuss the dangers of shielding your partner from constructive feedback out of fear of their reaction—a behavior that often leads to resentment and emotional disconnection. Through real-life examples, Emilia and Alan highlight the importance of courage and vulnerability in addressing challenges, prioritizing emotional safety, and fostering meaningful communication. Tune in to discover practical ways to strengthen your bond and grow together, not apart.

    Show notes:
    (2:14) The “resentment formula” explained
    (4:37) Struggling with boundaries and feedback.
    (7:18) Balancing personal growth and protecting the family dynamic
    (10:57) How generational beliefs shape relationship behaviors
    (12:56) Listen to what Branden and Hannah have to say about Alan and Emilia and the Relationship Talk
    (15:22) The power of courage and vulnerability in feedback
    (22:21) Aligning goals and communication for a flourishing relationship.
    (26:27) Outro

    Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
    https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching

    Join us at Relationship Talks #42 on Friday, December 19th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Align You & Your Partner’s Goals for 2025” - https://bit.ly/4i5oG6r

    ___________________________

    Follow us on Instagram:
    Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
    Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

    *Email:* 💬
    alan@theweuniversity.com
    emilia@theweuniversity.com

    Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

    Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

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    27 mins
  • #147 - One Conversation That Will Make Your Holiday Great
    Dec 2 2024

    Turn holiday chaos into a bonding experience! Emilia and Alan share simple, effective strategies to reduce stress and strengthen your relationship during the busiest time of the year. Discover three must-ask questions to prioritize what matters, support each other meaningfully, and enjoy the holidays peacefully and purposefully. Don’t let holiday stress pull you apart—learn how to grow together and end the year feeling more connected.

    Show notes:
    (1:51) The holiday season: Why it often brings relationship challenges
    (5:22) What’s most important to you during the holidays?
    (9:07) What does support look like for you during this time?
    (11:56) Lucas and Antonie talk about Alan and Emilia’s Relationship Coaching.
    (15:39) What do we need to do now to be proactive?
    (20:01) Building peaceful holiday routines
    (22:45) Outro

    Book a FREE Relationship Talk:
    https://calendly.com/alanlazaros/30-minute-relationships-talk-coaching

    Join us at Relationship Talks #42 on Friday, December 19th, 2024, at 05:00 pm Eastern Time: “How to Align You & Your Partner’s Goals for 2025” - https://bit.ly/4i5oG6r

    ___________________________

    Follow us on Instagram:
    Emilia Smith @evolvewithemilia
    Alan Lazaros @alazaros88

    *Email:* 💬
    alan@theweuniversity.com
    emilia@theweuniversity.com

    Learn more about The Conscious Couples: http://www.theweuniversity.com.

    Thanks for joining us for another episode of The Conscious Couples Podcast. We love connecting with the Conscious Couples community, so please make sure you follow us on Instagram. If you enjoyed this episode and would like to hear more, it would mean the world if you subscribed, left us a review, and shared this with someone you love and care about. Until next time, remember, it’s not about you or me; it’s about The We!

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    24 mins