In this episode of 'Tantric Sex for Lovers and Others', host Anne Bland welcomes intimacy expert Susan Bratton to discuss the importance of nurturing intimacy and connection during the holiday season. They explore how societal expectations can create stress and pressure, and how individuals can reclaim their joy and pleasure. Susan shares practical tips for lovers to enhance their relationship, emphasising the significance of communication and understanding personal desires. The conversation also touches on techniques for deepening intimacy, personal reflections on pleasure, and thoughts on New Year's resolutions.

Highlights

• The holiday season is a time to design your own joy and connection.
• It's essential to stop doing things that don't resonate with you during the holidays.
• Food can be a powerful expression of love and connection.
• Understanding your parasympathetic profile can help manage stress.
• Holding and being held can enhance intimacy and connection.
• Communication is key to understanding desires in relationships.
• Women often need a slower approach to intimacy compared to men.
• Personal pleasure should be prioritised for a fulfilling life.
• Recognising societal pressures can help reclaim personal joy.
• New Year's resolutions can be a time for introspection and personal growth.

Chapters

00:00 Navigating Holiday Pressures: Tips for Couples

12:04 Understanding Stress Responses: The Role of Intimacy

18:27 The Soulmate Embrace: A Tantric Technique

27:20 New Year, New Intentions: Embracing Change

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In this deeply compassionate and transformative episode, Anne Bland tackles a listener-requested topic: porn addiction and how it impacts our relationships, intimacy, and sense of self. While pornography is widely consumed, compulsive use can lead to disconnection, shame, and challenges in real-life relationships. But there is hope! Tantra offers a powerful, mindful, and healing path to break free from addiction and rediscover connection, presence, and pleasure.

Highlights

• Understanding porn addiction

Anne explores the rise of porn addiction, sharing eye-opening statistics and its emotional and neurological impact on individuals and relationships.

• The root of addiction

Discover what often lies beneath compulsive behaviors: emotional disconnection, stress, and avoidance of vulnerability - and how awareness is the first step to healing.

• How Tantra helps

Learn how Tantric principles can support you in:

• Reconnecting with your body through breathwork and mindfulness.

• Rebalancing energy with conscious self-pleasure practices.

• Healing emotional patterns and learning to sit with uncomfortable feelings.

• Rebuilding trust and intimacy in relationships through presence, mindful touch, and shared practices.

• A personal story

Anne shares a powerful client transformation where Tantric tools replaced shame and performance pressure with connection and authentic pleasure.

• Special highlight

Anne invites listeners to listen to the next episode which is her insightful conversation with intimacy expert Susan Bratton, who offers practical tools for overcoming intimacy blocks and rekindling passion.

Practical tools you’ll learn in this episode

1. How to start a mindful, Tantric self-pleasure practice to re-sensitise your body.

2. Using breathwork to regulate the nervous system and calm overstimulation.

3. Creating emotional safety and trust in relationships.

4. Exploring intimacy as a journey—not a performance.

If this episode resonates with you or someone you care about, please share it. Healing is possible, and you don’t have to walk this path alone. Leave a review on your favorite podcast app, share your thoughts, and let Anne know what topics you’d like to hear next.

Episode disclaimer

This podcast is for informational purposes only and does not substitute professional advice. If you are struggling with addiction, consider seeking guidance from a qualified therapist or coach.

Closing thought

Healing from porn addiction isn’t about shame or blame. It’s about rediscovering connection, presence, and love for yourself and your partner. Tantra offers a profound path to break free and embrace intimacy with an open heart.

You are not broken. Healing begins with presence, patience, and compassion.

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Redefining Erectile Dysfunction with Tantra on our 50th Episode!

In this milestone 50th episode of Tantric Sex for Lovers and Others, Anne Bland celebrates the shared journey and dives deep into erectile dysfunction, or as she reframes it, “flexible erection.” Rather than focusing on performance, this episode invites us to explore ED from a Tantra-inspired perspective that emphasises connection, presence, and mindful intimacy.

Episode Highlights

Reflecting on 50 episodes

Anne Bland shares the story of the podcast’s growth, inspired by listener feedback and a vision to destigmatise and enrich conversations around Tantra, intimacy, and personal growth.

Rethinking erectile dysfunction

Discover how ED, often seen as a “dysfunction,” can instead be viewed as an invitation to deeper connection. Anne offers a fresh perspective, steering away from performance pressure towards intimacy that isn’t defined by traditional markers of success.

A personal listener story

Anne reads a heartfelt listener email that beautifully captures how Tantra has transformed one man’s intimate life, showcasing the power of holistic practices.

Invitations to Pleasure Quests

Anne’s new eight-week courses, “Pleasure Quests,” one for males and one for females, are designed to support a deeper journey into self-pleasure, connection, and vitality. They build on her eBook "Pleasure is Your Birthright - 7 Holistic Sex Tools".

Whether you experience ED, know someone who does, or want to deepen your understanding of holistic intimacy, this episode offers invaluable insights. Join Anne as she redefines male and female experiences of arousal, expands the conversation around masculinity, and introduces gentle yet powerful Tantric tools for embracing a full-body approach to pleasure.

What you can do next is to:

• Join the Female Pleasure Quest and the Male Pleasure Quest here: https://www.selfishlyhappyyou.com/pleasure-quest

• Download the “Pleasure is Your Birthright” ebook: https://www.selfishlyhappyyou.com/pleasure-is-your-birthright

• Leave a review to share your favourite episode or moment from the podcast!

Anne would love to hear from you! What’s been your favourite insight so far? Let her know via social media or email, and stay tuned as she continues delivering this podcast for the next 50 episodes.

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In this episode, Anne Bland tackles premature ejaculation (PE) from a fresh and compassionate perspective. Rather than focusing on the problem, she explores how Tantra offers a path to deeper connection, sexual mastery, and prolonged pleasure. Learn how to harmonize your sexual energy, dismantle common myths about PE, and move from performance anxiety to authentic, empowered intimacy.

Key Topics Covered:

- Reframing Premature Ejaculation: Anne introduces a new term, "Harmonised Pleasure," to shift the focus from performance to pleasure, aligning with the principles of Tantra.

- Causes of PE: A deep dive into the psychological and biological factors that can lead to PE, including anxiety, stress, hormonal imbalances, and physical illness.

- Tantric Techniques for Sexual Mastery: Discover practical tools like breathwork, mindful touch, and the stop-start method to help manage sexual energy and prolong pleasure.

- 7 Holistic Sex Tools: Insights from Anne's eBook, Pleasure Is Your Birthright, that you can use to enhance your sexual experiences, including intention, breath, and energy awareness.

- Tantric Affirmations for Confidence such as: "In this moment, I honour my body, my energy, and my pleasure. I am whole, I am empowered, and I am in harmony with myself and my partner."

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In today's episode, a young listener shares her struggles with modern dating and the pressure to move too quickly into sex. Anne Bland discusses how Tantra can help create deeper connections through practices that encourage intimacy beyond just the physical. Techniques such as conscious communication, mindful touch, and shared activities build emotional bonds.

Introduction to Requested Men’s Sexual Problems Series: This episode also serves as an introduction to the upcoming episodes focusing on men’s sexual problems. Anne will explore how Tantra can address these issues in future episodes, offering practical advice and holistic approaches to help men overcome common challenges.

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In this Midsummer episode, Anne Bland explores the magic and sensuality of Midsummer. Drawing from recent listener feedback on polyamory and swinging, Anne delves into the pressures and misconceptions surrounding these practices and offers practical advice for groups, couples and singles. Celebrate the beauty of Midsummer with rituals, solo, couple or group practices, and mindful connections that honour your sensuality, and erotism in a way that feels aligned with you, and fosters emotional wholeness. Rituals, erotic practices, creative processes and meditations are all part of this significant time of the year wherever you are in the world. Happy Juhannus!

If you have any questions or topics you’d like us to cover in future episodes, please reach out to Anne at annebland (at) selfishlyhappyyou.com or send a voice message through SpeakPipe: https://www.speakpipe.com/SelfishlyHappy

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In this PART 2, Anne Bland discusses what according to her experience are the emotional and energetic dynamics in non-monogamous, one-night stands, and even in some Tantric relationships from the women's perspectives. To make her point, Anne uses stereotypes. However, every person and relationship is unique and requires a tailored approach. Anne emphasises discernment and invites listeners to join her on the podcast to discuss their points of view. Anne finishes with potential solutions and coping strategies.

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