Episode Summary:

In this episode of The Stop Bending Over Podcast, Rita explores the transformative power of self-awareness, integrity, and radical honesty in leadership and personal growth. She shares personal stories about standing in integrity, taking responsibility, and reframing negative meanings assigned to life experiences. The focus is on how shifting perceptions and embracing accountability can lead to breakthroughs in business and personal life. Practical steps and reflective questions are provided to help listeners embody their highest potential and take quantum leaps toward success.

In This Episode:

1. The importance of integrity and radical honesty in leadership and life.
2. How blaming and complaining keep you stuck in the Drama Triangle.
3. The role of meaning-making in shaping your reality.
4. Practical steps for reframing negative stories and stepping into accountability.
5. Embodying your highest self to achieve quantum leaps in growth and success.

Practical Steps:

• Identify where you are assigning negative meaning.
• Reframe limiting beliefs with empowering perspectives.
• Take ownership of your results as proof of your commitments.
• Develop a daily habit of pausing and asking, "What meaning am I giving this, and is it serving me?"

Reflection Questions for Listeners:

1. Where in your life are you blaming or complaining?
2. How can you reclaim your power by taking responsibility for your role in the situation?
3. What old story about yourself or someone else is holding you back?
4. What would it look like to let go of that story?
5. How can you embody the next iteration of your highest self today?

Resources:

• Journal Prompt: "What meaning am I giving this, and is it serving me?"
• Journal Prompt: "Where am I holding onto an old story about myself or someone else, and what would it look like to let that story go?"
• For coaching inquiries: Visit [Rita's Website] or schedule a call.

Timestamps:

• [00:00] - Opening quote by George Bernard Shaw: The true joy of life.
• [01:02] - Introduction and personal updates.
• [03:21] - The significance of radical honesty and taking responsibility.
• [05:45] - Recognizing triggers and reframing negative experiences.
• [09:35] - Choosing higher integrity to unlock business and personal growth.
• [12:39] - Sisyphus metaphor: Breaking free from repetitive cycles.
• [15:04] - Practical steps to embody integrity and accountability.
• [19:45] - Bridging differences with compassion and shared values.
• [24:34] - Visualizing and stepping into your highest self.
• [29:17] - Shifting from "hard" stories to empowered mindsets.
• [31:42] - Closing reflections, journal prompts, and coaching opportunities.

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Episode Summary:

In this episode of Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life for Radical Success, Rita dives into what it really means to feel stuck, overwhelmed, and disconnected from your dreams. She talks about how patterns of people-pleasing, rescuing, and over-committing keep us from living authentically. Rita outlines three steps—Radical Awareness, Permission to Dream, and Aligned Action—to help listeners break free from survival mode and reconnect with what truly lights them up. This episode is your reminder to slow down, get Selfish with your dreams, and take small, meaningful steps toward the life you deserve.

Notable Quotes:

"Growth and expansion aren’t just our birthright—it’s who we are. When we resist it, life becomes painful."

"The ego loves to keep us running in the same patterns. It will create distractions to keep you from slowing down and dreaming."

"Radical awareness means we stop pretending not to know what’s keeping us stuck. You can’t change what you don’t see."

"Dreaming for yourself isn’t selfish—it's necessary. When you give yourself permission to dream, you create space for your highest self to show up."

"Your word is your wand. When you keep your word to yourself, you build self-trust. The biggest betrayal isn’t from others—it’s betraying yourself."

In This Episode:

|09:29| – Action step: Take an inventory of your day—Where are you over-committing or blaming?

|19:08| – Permission to dream selfishly with a big S—Why it's essential for entrepreneurs.

|26:20| – Self-honoring choices: Saying no to draining commitments.

|28:45|– Wrap-up: Awareness, acceptance, and aligned action—Permission to dream again.

Resources:

3 Steps to Break Free from Codependent Patterns:

Step 1: Radical Awareness – Stop Pretending Not to Know
* Take inventory of your day: Are you over-helping, complaining, blaming, or feeling resentful? Write down one situation where you feel stuck, and ask yourself: Am I pretending not to know what’s really going on?

Step 2: Release the Need to Rescue or People-Please – Get Clear on What You Want
* Take a few minutes to journal: What do I want right now? Not what others need, not what you should do—what do you want? It’s okay if it feels selfish. Give yourself permission to dream.

Step 3: Take Aligned Action – Break the Cycle by Doing One Thing Differently
* Identify one small action that feels aligned with the life you want. It could be saying no, setting a boundary, or letting someone else handle things. Practice it today and notice how it feels.

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What Does It Take To Call In Your Dream Life?
It's actually much simpler than you think... and I'll show you how in just 3 days!

*Join me Monday 9/23 - 9/25/2024 10:00am PST for a Live FREE 3-Day Intensive!

Over the course of three days, I will guide you through advanced techniques to align your thoughts, emotions, and actions to bring about real, tangible change in your life and business.

Episode Summary:

In this episode of Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life for Radical Success, Rita dives into the power of authenticity and the importance of telling the truth, especially to ourselves. Sharing a personal story from her business life, she reflects on how showing up authentically and stepping out of codependent behaviors can lead to profound transformation. This episode is for anyone who feels stuck, frustrated, or unsure about where to start. Rita offers actionable steps for breaking free from rescuing tendencies, embracing self-forgiveness, and living a more fulfilled and authentic life. She also invites listeners to join her upcoming 3-Day Intensive to learn how to manifest their dreams.

Notable Quotes:
"The only way to call in and level up your life is to release the level you’ve been stuck at by telling yourself the truth."

"When you enable someone, you’re not helping them—you’re crippling them, and that keeps you stuck too."

"Forgiveness is my superpower. I forgive myself for what I’ve made things mean about me, and it sets me free."

"Your past experiences don't define you. You’re a divine being with gifts, and it’s time to stop hiding them."

In This Episode:

00:00 Unlocking Your Dream Life
03:02 The Power of Authenticity
05:49 Codependency and Its Impact
11:59 The Importance of Telling the Truth
18:11 Releasing Past Patterns
23:57 Self-Forgiveness and Growth
30:02 Manifestation and Action Steps

Resources:

Self-Forgiveness:

And so just have a simple practice for self forgiveness. It could just be I forgive myself for believing that I'm not good enough,I release the guilt of hiding my gifts and I choose to show up today with love and grace for myself and everyone else.

Affirmations:

1. I honor and embrace my truth.
2. I forgive myself for the times I've stayed small or played small.
3. I am worthy of showing up as my full authentic self.
4. I release any fear of judgment.

What Does It Take To Call In Your Dream Life?

*Join me Monday 9/23 - 9/25/2024 10:00am PST for a Live FREE 3-Day Intensive!

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Episode Summary:

Welcome to another transformative episode of the "Stop Bending Over Podcast" with your host, Rita Marie Mendez. In this inspiring conversation, we dive deep into the journey of Shelton Wilder, a top-tier real estate agent and entrepreneur. Shelton shares her compelling story of overcoming personal challenges, including addiction, to become one of the most successful real estate professionals in the country.

Throughout the episode, Shelton and Rita discuss the importance of accountability, radical responsibility, and how these principles have shaped Shelton's thriving real estate career. They explore the significance of consistency, mindset, and the benefits of owning property to leverage wealth creation. Shelton also candidly addresses the eye-opening realization of her own limiting behaviors and the steps she's taking to enhance her business practices using innovative tools.

Notable Quotes:

• "I am really clear. I only want to work with people that want to work with me." - Shelton Wilder
• "Everything's happening for me, not to me. All of the things are just blessings." - Shelton Wilder
• "How you deal with the issue is the issue. It's never what we think it is." - Rita Marie Mendez

In This Episode:

8:49 | Sobriety, Marriage, and Career Transitions
13:54| Radical Responsibility and Personal Growth
|20:56| Healing Shame Through Honest Communication
|27:40| Identifying Ideal Clients and Avoiding Codependency in Business
|33:29| Navigating Buyer Broker Agreements and Overcoming Fear in Real Estate
|38:33| Overcoming Victim Mentality and Embracing Personal Responsibility
|46:00| The Importance of Homeownership and Wealth Consciousness
|49:48| Raising Your Frequency to Achieve Success
|53:07| Lessons in Wealth Consciousness and Financial Missteps
|59:36| Understanding and Overcoming Learned Helplessness
|1:02:31| Top Advice for Real Estate Agents and Entrepreneurs
|1:15:10| Healing Old Patterns Through Awareness and Self-Love

Resources:

• Shelton Wilder's Instagram: @sheltonwilderestates
• Shelton Wilder's Website: sheltonwilder.com
• Monday.com: Project management tool
• The Work by Byron Katie: thework.com
• Books Mentioned:

Your Word is Your Wand by Florence Scovel Shinn

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

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* Stay tuned for the launch of the Breakthrough Goal Academy: 90 Days To Achieve The Goal That Will Change Your Life!

Episode Summary:

In this episode, Rita discusses the importance of accountability in achieving goals and manifesting desires. The emphasis is on the need to trust oneself and make conscious choices. Unconscious manifesting leads to scarcity thinking and self-limiting beliefs. She provides steps for manifesting consciously, including getting clear on what you want, taking daily action steps, and staying committed. Rita encourages listeners to embrace their power and create the life they desire.

Quotes:

• "Overthinking comes from a lack of self-trust."
• "You don't have to be a 20 something or a teen to do what you want to do."
• "Awareness is kryptonite to looping patterns."
• "Step number one is get clear on what you want."

In This Episode:
|03:45| The Power of Accountability in Achieving Goals
|08:01| Trusting Yourself and Making Conscious Choices
|12:20| Breaking Free from Unconscious Manifesting
|19:28| Steps for Manifesting Consciously
|21:22| Embracing Your Power to Create
|23:44| Getting Clear on What You Want
|25:38| Visualization and Embodiment
|27:25| Setting Up a Plan
|30:45| Taking Small Steps
|37:18| The Power of Accountability

Resources:
Steps to Effective Manifestation:

1. Getting Clear on What You Want
2. Creating a Mental Picture
3. Setting Up a Plan
4. Meditation, Hypnosis, and Identity Work
5. Accountability

Accountability Study by Association for Talent Development

Next week's guest: Shelton Wilder - Check out her podcast!
Wilder Possibilities Podcast

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"How To Have A Million Dollar Year" Masterclass with Million Dollar Real Estate Agent Carla Clark!
When: Friday 7/19/2024 10:00am - 11:00am PST

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Episode Summary:

In this episode, Rita dives into the concept of "competing intentions," uncovering how unconscious limits formed in childhood impact adult behavior and prevent success. She provides practical steps to identify these blocks, reframe limiting beliefs, and create effective, conscious intentions. This episode is a valuable resource for women seeking to break free from self-sabotage, embrace their true potential, and achieve radical business success.

Key Takeaways:

• Identify Limiting Beliefs: Discover how unconscious childhood beliefs can impact your adult life and business success.
• Competing Intentions: Learn what competing intentions are and how they sabotage your goals.
• Awareness and Action: Utilize a three-step process—awareness, acceptance without judgment, and aligned action—to overcome internal blocks.
• Reframe for Success: Understand the power of reframing negative statements into positive, actionable affirmations.
• Self-Love as a Foundation: Embrace the importance of self-love and how it enhances business performance and personal well-being.

In This Episode:

| 0:00 - 9:00| Overcoming Self-Limiting Beliefs and Perfectionism for Success
|10:46 - 16:39| Harnessing Childhood Coping Mechanisms as Adult Superpowers
|17:48 - 22:20| Identifying and Overcoming Competing Intentions in Business
|23:27 - 33:03| Overcoming Self-Imposed Limits to Achieve Personal Success
|34:23 - 42:01| Transforming Self-Abandonment into Self-Love and Conscious Intentions
| 42:27 | Wealth and Wisdom Program for Scaling Your Business

Resources:

* Register Now!
"How To Have A Million Dollar Year" Masterclass with Million Dollar Real Estate Agent Carla Clark!
When: Friday 7/19/2024 10:00am PST

* Click here to grab your 3-Step Guide To Consistent Revenue!

* Exciting News! WEALTH & WISDOM - REGISTRATION OPENS 7/11/2024!
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3-Day Challenge: How To Create Consistent Revenue in 3 Easy Steps
(And Get Rich As F***) July 9th - 11th , 2024 10:00am PST

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Exciting News! WEALTH & WISDOM - REGISTRATION OPENS 7/11/2024!
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Episode Summary:

In this episode, Rita dives into the three-step process for creating consistent revenue, a method she reveals also aids in personal healing and growth. Achieving financial success and embracing wealth is every woman's birthright. She emphasizes the importance of self-discipline, emotional mastery, and strategic action, helping listeners to break free from limiting beliefs and self-sabotaging patterns.

In This Episode:

| 0:00 - 10:00| Three Steps to Creating Consistent Revenue and Overcoming Obstacles
|10:38 - 14:00| Healing Childhood Trauma and Reclaiming Authenticity
|14:57 - 20:00| Empowering Women to Overcome Scarcity and Embrace Wealth
|20:27 - 26:00| Emotional Mastery, Self Leadership, and Strategic Aligned Action

Key Takeaways:

• Clarity is Crucial: Knowing exactly what you want is the first step to achieving consistent revenue and personal success.
• Overcoming Obstacles: Addressing and transforming limiting beliefs and emotional blocks are essential for growth and empowerment.
• Aligned Actions: Strategic, aligned actions tailored to individual goals are key to moving the needle in business and life.
• Embrace Self-Discipline: Consistency and self-discipline in actions and thoughts create momentum and sustainable success.
• Self-Love and Reverence: Cultivating a deep sense of self-love and respect for one’s journey fosters authenticity and fulfillment.

Notable Quotes:

• "Most people are not claiming what they want because there's a part of them that doesn't think it's possible."
• "The obstacle is not in the way. The obstacle is the way."

Resources:

* 3-Day Challenge: How To Create Consistent Revenue in 3 Easy Steps
(And Get Rich As F***) July 9th - 11th , 2024 10:00am PST

* Click here to grab your 3-Step Guide To Consistent Revenue!

* Exciting News! WEALTH & WISDOM - REGISTRATION OPENS 7/11/2024!
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Take Rita's New Quiz: Money Magic: Find Your Financial Frequency!

Episode Summary:

Welcome to another insightful episode. This episode dives into the transformational journey of embracing your identity and the powerful impact of language in shaping your reality. I unpack the concept of embodying the woman you aspire to be and discuss how showing up authentically and confidently can significantly change your life.

In This Episode:

| 6:01 | Overcoming Scarcity Mindset by Closing Open Loops
|12:59| Three Steps to Overcome Decision-Making Anxiety
|15:13| Embracing Mistakes and Maintaining a Positive Mindset
|25:54| Embracing Authenticity and Courage for Personal Growth
|36:22| Embracing Authenticity and Finding Your True Identity
|40:47| Creating a Judgment Journal for Self-Reflection
|49:41| Creating Community and Support for Women Entrepreneurs
|50:53| Transforming Limiting Beliefs to Achieve Wealth and Wisdom

Key Takeaways:

• The Power of Language: Your internal dialogue shapes your reality and identity. Aligning positive, empowering statements with your goals is crucial.
• Embodying Your Vision: Step into the identity of the woman you aspire to be by aligning your actions, thoughts, and behaviors with that vision.
• Overcoming Scarcity Mindset: Reframe limiting beliefs about time, money, and possibilities to create a mindset of abundance.
• Creating a Judgment Journal: Document and transform negative self-talk.
• Importance of Community: Building a supportive network or joining communities can significantly aid in personal and professional growth.

Notable Quotes:

1. "All those things that you want in your vision are happening already right now, waiting for you to embody who that woman is."
2. "Leave behind what you don’t want, leave it behind. That might be people, circumstances, the way of doing business, the how you talk to yourself, all of it."
3. "Being inauthentic is exhausting. When you step into it, when you're authentic and fully expressed, you give other people permission to be the same."

Resources:

WEALTH & WISDOM - REGISTRATION OPENS 7/03/2024!
Join the Waitlist:
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Take Rita's New Quiz: Money Magic: Find Your Financial Frequency!

Private Facebook group opening soon - stay tuned!

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