Episode Summary:

In this episode of The Stop Bending Over Podcast, Rita explores the transformative power of self-awareness, integrity, and radical honesty in leadership and personal growth. She shares personal stories about standing in integrity, taking responsibility, and reframing negative meanings assigned to life experiences. The focus is on how shifting perceptions and embracing accountability can lead to breakthroughs in business and personal life. Practical steps and reflective questions are provided to help listeners embody their highest potential and take quantum leaps toward success.

In This Episode:

1. The importance of integrity and radical honesty in leadership and life.
2. How blaming and complaining keep you stuck in the Drama Triangle.
3. The role of meaning-making in shaping your reality.
4. Practical steps for reframing negative stories and stepping into accountability.
5. Embodying your highest self to achieve quantum leaps in growth and success.

Practical Steps:

• Identify where you are assigning negative meaning.
• Reframe limiting beliefs with empowering perspectives.
• Take ownership of your results as proof of your commitments.
• Develop a daily habit of pausing and asking, "What meaning am I giving this, and is it serving me?"

Reflection Questions for Listeners:

1. Where in your life are you blaming or complaining?
2. How can you reclaim your power by taking responsibility for your role in the situation?
3. What old story about yourself or someone else is holding you back?
4. What would it look like to let go of that story?
5. How can you embody the next iteration of your highest self today?

Resources:

• Journal Prompt: "What meaning am I giving this, and is it serving me?"
• Journal Prompt: "Where am I holding onto an old story about myself or someone else, and what would it look like to let that story go?"
• For coaching inquiries: Visit [Rita's Website] or schedule a call.

Timestamps:

• [00:00] - Opening quote by George Bernard Shaw: The true joy of life.
• [01:02] - Introduction and personal updates.
• [03:21] - The significance of radical honesty and taking responsibility.
• [05:45] - Recognizing triggers and reframing negative experiences.
• [09:35] - Choosing higher integrity to unlock business and personal growth.
• [12:39] - Sisyphus metaphor: Breaking free from repetitive cycles.
• [15:04] - Practical steps to embody integrity and accountability.
• [19:45] - Bridging differences with compassion and shared values.
• [24:34] - Visualizing and stepping into your highest self.
• [29:17] - Shifting from "hard" stories to empowered mindsets.
• [31:42] - Closing reflections, journal prompts, and coaching opportunities.

Please be sure to tag me @RitaMarieMendez on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this episode! I'd love to hear about your experience!

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Links/Resources:

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Episode Summary:

In this episode of Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life for Radical Success, Rita dives into what it really means to feel stuck, overwhelmed, and disconnected from your dreams. She talks about how patterns of people-pleasing, rescuing, and over-committing keep us from living authentically. Rita outlines three steps—Radical Awareness, Permission to Dream, and Aligned Action—to help listeners break free from survival mode and reconnect with what truly lights them up. This episode is your reminder to slow down, get Selfish with your dreams, and take small, meaningful steps toward the life you deserve.

Notable Quotes:

"Growth and expansion aren’t just our birthright—it’s who we are. When we resist it, life becomes painful."

"The ego loves to keep us running in the same patterns. It will create distractions to keep you from slowing down and dreaming."

"Radical awareness means we stop pretending not to know what’s keeping us stuck. You can’t change what you don’t see."

"Dreaming for yourself isn’t selfish—it's necessary. When you give yourself permission to dream, you create space for your highest self to show up."

"Your word is your wand. When you keep your word to yourself, you build self-trust. The biggest betrayal isn’t from others—it’s betraying yourself."

In This Episode:

|09:29| – Action step: Take an inventory of your day—Where are you over-committing or blaming?

|19:08| – Permission to dream selfishly with a big S—Why it's essential for entrepreneurs.

|26:20| – Self-honoring choices: Saying no to draining commitments.

|28:45|– Wrap-up: Awareness, acceptance, and aligned action—Permission to dream again.

Resources:

3 Steps to Break Free from Codependent Patterns:

Step 1: Radical Awareness – Stop Pretending Not to Know
* Take inventory of your day: Are you over-helping, complaining, blaming, or feeling resentful? Write down one situation where you feel stuck, and ask yourself: Am I pretending not to know what’s really going on?

Step 2: Release the Need to Rescue or People-Please – Get Clear on What You Want
* Take a few minutes to journal: What do I want right now? Not what others need, not what you should do—what do you want? It’s okay if it feels selfish. Give yourself permission to dream.

Step 3: Take Aligned Action – Break the Cycle by Doing One Thing Differently
* Identify one small action that feels aligned with the life you want. It could be saying no, setting a boundary, or letting someone else handle things. Practice it today and notice how it feels.

Please be sure to tag me @RitaMarieMendez on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this episode! I'd love to hear about your experience!

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What Does It Take To Call In Your Dream Life?
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*Join me Monday 9/23 - 9/25/2024 10:00am PST for a Live FREE 3-Day Intensive!

Over the course of three days, I will guide you through advanced techniques to align your thoughts, emotions, and actions to bring about real, tangible change in your life and business.

Episode Summary:

In this episode of Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life for Radical Success, Rita dives into the power of authenticity and the importance of telling the truth, especially to ourselves. Sharing a personal story from her business life, she reflects on how showing up authentically and stepping out of codependent behaviors can lead to profound transformation. This episode is for anyone who feels stuck, frustrated, or unsure about where to start. Rita offers actionable steps for breaking free from rescuing tendencies, embracing self-forgiveness, and living a more fulfilled and authentic life. She also invites listeners to join her upcoming 3-Day Intensive to learn how to manifest their dreams.

Notable Quotes:
"The only way to call in and level up your life is to release the level you’ve been stuck at by telling yourself the truth."

"When you enable someone, you’re not helping them—you’re crippling them, and that keeps you stuck too."

"Forgiveness is my superpower. I forgive myself for what I’ve made things mean about me, and it sets me free."

"Your past experiences don't define you. You’re a divine being with gifts, and it’s time to stop hiding them."

In This Episode:

00:00 Unlocking Your Dream Life
03:02 The Power of Authenticity
05:49 Codependency and Its Impact
11:59 The Importance of Telling the Truth
18:11 Releasing Past Patterns
23:57 Self-Forgiveness and Growth
30:02 Manifestation and Action Steps

Resources:

Self-Forgiveness:

And so just have a simple practice for self forgiveness. It could just be I forgive myself for believing that I'm not good enough,I release the guilt of hiding my gifts and I choose to show up today with love and grace for myself and everyone else.

Affirmations:

1. I honor and embrace my truth.
2. I forgive myself for the times I've stayed small or played small.
3. I am worthy of showing up as my full authentic self.
4. I release any fear of judgment.

What Does It Take To Call In Your Dream Life?

*Join me Monday 9/23 - 9/25/2024 10:00am PST for a Live FREE 3-Day Intensive!

Please be sure to tag me @RitaMarieMendez on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this episode! I'd love to hear about your experience!

If you love the podcast please click below to rate, review and follow - thank you!
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Links/Resources:

Rita's Website: Go to the Website
Contact us here: admin@ritamarieconsulting.com