In this episode of Speak Shame, Dr Connie Kerali interviews Nichole Banks, a divorce recovery coach and host of The Nichole Banks Podcast. Nichole shares her powerful journey from enduring two divorces, facing infidelity, and struggling with severe self-doubt, to eventually being incarcerated for embezzlement. After spending time in prison, Nichole reemerged into society with an air of shame but managed to transform her life through self-prioritization, positive affirmations, and rebuilding her self-esteem. Nichole also discusses finding enduring love and emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and authentic living. The conversation is filled with actionable insights and inspiring messages for anyone dealing with similar adversities.

00:00 Introduction to Speak Shame

01:24 Meet Nichole Banks: Divorce Recovery Coach

04:42 Nichole's Journey: From Heartache to Healing

09:26 The Turning Point: Embezzlement and Incarceration

14:46 Life After Prison: Overcoming Shame and Rebuilding

16:47 Steps to Healing: Mindset and Self-Care

29:23 Embracing Self-Worth and Letting Go

29:50 Journey to Emotional Healing

31:11 Prioritizing Wellbeing

33:54 Finding Love Again

35:01 Building Trust and Vulnerability

43:21 Dating Yourself First

44:53 Summarizing the Journey

49:28 Remarkable Women and Inspirations

52:33 Final Thoughts and Resources

NICHOLE BANKS RESOURCES

• Instagram: @msnicholebanks
• The Nichole Banks Website
• The Nichole Banks Podcast
• Are You Ready to Find Love Again?

GET IN TOUCH
- Join the community:

• @DrConnieKerali on Instagram
• @SpeakShame on Instagram
• Speak Shame the private group on Facebook

- Read Speak Shame: The Blog
- Learn more about Dr Connie’s Mission 100K to share over 100,000 inspiring stories of women who have faced and overcome adversity, so that others may find strength, connection, and hope in their own journeys, and so that shame itself loses its power.
- Do you want to share your story? Email Dr Connie at info@drconniekerali.com.
- If you're a remarkable woman who wants to be empowered by your own story, book a free discovery call with me, Dr Connie Kerali.

In this episode of Speak Shame with Dr Connie Kerali, Dr Connie, a medical doctor, life coach, and survivor of sexual violence, shares her powerful story of overcoming shame and finding strength through vulnerability. Interviewed by her long-time friend and career change coach, Darleen Davies, Dr Connie recounts being silenced by shame for several years after being raped, and her path to healing through therapy and support from loved ones. The discussion highlights the importance of connection, sharing one's story with someone that you trust, and the impact of hearing Dr Christine Blasey Ford speak her truth about being sexually assaulted as a teenager. Dr Connie's mission is to share inspiring stories of women who have faced and overcome adversity, so that others may find strength, connection, and hope in their own journeys, and so that shame itself loses its power.

00:00 Introduction to Speak Shame

01:37 Dr Connie Kerali's Personal Story

04:04 The Incident and Immediate Aftermath

06:50 Struggles with Shame and Silence

11:50 The Turning Point: Dr Christine Blasey Ford

18:01 Seeking Therapy and Support

25:53 Opening Up to Friends and Family

28:57 Revealing the Trauma to Family

30:10 The Impact of Sharing on Relationships

33:48 The Healing Power of Vulnerability

34:41 Therapy and Overcoming Shame

40:24 Advice for Those Struggling with Shame

42:11 The Importance of Support Systems

44:14 Finding Purpose Through Adversity

48:39 Empowering Others Through Storytelling

53:16 Final Thoughts and Inspirations

If you need additional support after listening to this episode you can use the links below to find more information on some places to go:

• In an emergency, dial 999; for non-emergencies, dial 101 (UK only)
• Find your nearest NHS Sexual Assault Referral Centre (England only)
• Find an NHS Talking Therapy service near you (England only)
• A doctor or practice nurse at your GP surgery
• A voluntary organisation such as Rape Crisis, Women’s Aid, or Victim Support

GET IN TOUCH
- Join the community:

• @DrConnieKerali on Instagram
• @SpeakShame on Instagram
• Speak Shame the private group on Facebook

- Read Speak Shame: The Blog
- Learn more about Dr Connie Kerali’s Mission 100K to share over 100,000 inspiring stories of women who have faced and overcome adversity, so that others may find strength, connection, and hope in their own journeys, and so that shame itself loses its power.
- Do you want to share your story? Email Dr Connie Kerali at info@drconniekerali.com.
- If you're a remarkable woman who wants to be empowered by your own story, book a free discovery call with me, Dr Connie Kerali.

Hello Remarkable Woman, have you ever been silenced by shame? Have you ever believed that you’re not enough? Do you believe that you're unworthy of love or belonging? Are these beliefs holding you back in your personal or professional life? If this sounds like you, then you’re in the right place.

Speak Shame with me, Dr Connie Kerali, - medical doctor, life coach & survivor of sexual violence - is a collection of expert insights on how to rediscover your self-worth, as well as inspiring conversations with remarkable women who have faced and overcome adversity. By sharing their stories, my hope is that you may find strength, connection, and hope in your own journey, and that shame itself loses its power.

So, sit back, relax, and don't forget to like and subscribe to the show.

Speak Shame with Dr Connie Kerali will launch on Thursday 2nd January 2025.

In the meantime:

• Join the community at Dr Connie Kerali's Instagram page.
• Read Speak Shame: The Blog.
• Learn more about Dr Connie Kerali's Mission 100K to share over 100,000 inspiring stories of women who have faced and overcome adversity, so that others may find strength, connection, and hope in their own journeys, and so that shame itself loses its power.