• 97 - Living the Fruit: Why the Fruits of the Spirit are Important During Recovery
    Jan 22 2025

    Life can be stressful on its own, but navigating recovery after addiction and betrayal adds layers of tension, overwhelming emotions, and uncertainty. In today’s episode, Kylene and Patrick explore how the fruits of the Spirit can serve as a powerful self-reflection tool to guide growth and healing in your recovery journey.

    By focusing on cultivating love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control, we create a foundation for lasting transformation. Let’s dive into these characteristics and discover how they can support you on your path to recovery.

    Join us as we reflect on what it means to live the fruits of the spirit after betrayal.

    Galation 5:22-23

    But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against things like this.

    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU

    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

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    On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

    On IG: @KyleneTerhune

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    49 mins
  • 96 - Sobriety vs. Recovery, What's the Difference?
    Jan 15 2025
    Is there a difference between sobriety and recovery? Is recovery just a longer version of sobriety? In this episode of RecoverU Kylene and Patrick share their perspective on the differences between sobriety and recovery and the type of actions and behaviors it takes to move into a life of recovery, and ultimately freedom, after a life of sex or porn addiction! Please fill out this (short!) feedback survey helping us to know what YOU would like to be in future episode of RecoverU! https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSflRXKKwyjB_6OkURh-O9cuPll1owZxmAbnsWUMj_3g9g3uxw/viewform?usp=sharing RecoverU Podcast Episode summary - need to find an episode based on a specific topic? We've got you covered! Click here: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSflRXKKwyjB_6OkURh-O9cuPll1owZxmAbnsWUMj_3g9g3uxw/viewform?usp=sharing Galatians 5:22-23 says, "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control." 3 Circles Recovery Exercise: https://puredesire.org/blog/tools-for-healing-three-circles/ Patrick Carnes 30 steps to Recovery: https://www.kavodrecovery.com/the-30-tasks.html

    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU

    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

    Follow Kylene:

    On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

    On IG: @KyleneTerhune

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    55 mins
  • 95 - Choosing Who You Want to be so You Don't Stay Stuck in 2025
    Jan 8 2025

    Feeling stuck and not sure how to move forward?

    In today’s episode, Kylene and Patrick discuss choosing who you want to be so you don’t stay stuck in 2025.

    They provide five practical tips and actionable resources to help you align with your values and vision for the future. Their approach emphasizes digging deeper than surface-level goals, empowering you to define your identity and who you want to become as you move forward.

    List of core values: https://simplish.co/blog/core-values-list

    Visioneering book by Andy Stanley: https://a.co/d/5ew37Np

    Are you a betrayed partner interested in working 1:1 with Kylene? Book your free discovery call here:https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU

    Follow Kylene:

    On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

    On IG: @KyleneTerhune

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    47 mins
  • 94 - Reflection & Projection - A personal exercise for continued growth at the end of the year
    Dec 18 2024

    Do you feel discouraged in your recovery journey? We encourage you to take some time to reflect on the past year. Often, when we feel stuck or frustrated, if we compare where we are today to where we were 6 months ago, or a year ago, we have a better perspective of how far we've truly come!

    the end of the year offers us a natural point to review what we have accomplished in the past year while also considering where I want to continue focusing for future growth.

    Listen to this episode for some prompts to help you get started.

    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU

    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

    Follow Kylene:

    On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

    On IG: @KyleneTerhune

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    20 mins
  • 93 - Feeling Disconnected? A Quick Conversation Starter for Couples During the Holidays
    Dec 11 2024

    Do you and your partner feel LESS connected when things get busy? Do you notice that you have less time for each other and fewer conversations?

    Communication is a top priority during recovery and we want to encourage you to prioritize it MORE when you're busy, tired or stressed instead of less.

    When we get busy and communicate less, it becomes a breeding ground for disconnection as we try to process thoughts and emotions on our own.

    While these connection points don't need to take much time, and they don't even need to be focused around recovery topics, we DO encourage that you set aside time to talk.

    Today's episode offers quick questions for you to sit down and discuss with your partner - holiday themed!

    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU

    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

    Follow Kylene:

    On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

    On IG: @KyleneTerhune

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    14 mins
  • 92 - Having Trouble Declining Invitations? 3 Polite Ways to Say No This Holiday Season
    Dec 4 2024

    Are you a people pleaser? Saying NO is hard, and we can feel extra pressure around the holidays.

    In today's episode, Kylene and Patrick offer 3, succinct and specific ways to politely decline invitations if you need some extra down time for recovery.

    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU

    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

    Follow Kylene:

    On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

    On IG: @KyleneTerhune

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    12 mins
  • 91 - Feeling Stressed? Three Ways to Support Your Mind & Body Through Betrayal
    Nov 27 2024

    Discovery is one of the most stressful experiences for both the sex/porn addict and the betrayed partner. Stress takes a significant toll on the body in this episode Kylene breaks down how stress impacts the body and 3 specific pillars of support we can bring in to support our mental and physical health through recovery.

    Kylene has some links below with recommended supplements to consider * Please always check with your own medical practitioner to confirm that these are safe for you to use, especially if you have any pre-existing medical conditions or medications you are taking:

    For the addict: https://us.fullscript.com/plans/kylenet-addiction-recovery-support

    For the betrayed partner: https://us.fullscript.com/plans/kylenet-betrayal-recovery-support

    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU

    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

    Follow Kylene:

    On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

    On IG: @KyleneTerhune

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    39 mins
  • 90 - How can my husband love me, and be a sex/porn addict?
    Nov 20 2024

    Are you a betrayed partner who has asked the question - how could my husband engage in such hurtful behaviors and still love me? If so, you're not alone!

    In this episode Kylene and Patrick talk about how this questions is really a form of communicating the pain that has been caused, the feelings of insecurity, the fear of comparison, and the reiteration of negative self beliefs for the partner.

    They also walk through understanding addiction was they begin to answer the question - how can these two things be true that my partner hurt me but loves me?

    This episode is for both the recovering addict AND the betrayed partner. While the question is from the betrayed partner side, this episode can also help the recovering addict more deeply empathize with his partners experience.

    SAST test: https://psychology-tools.com/test/sast

    If you are a betrayed partner and would like to connect with Kylene for 1:1 coaching support, please click this link and book a free connection call: https://p.bttr.to/3ttk0Ql

    Join the free RecoverU Facebook page for betrayed partners: www.facebook.com/groups/recoverU

    For addicted spouses check our puredesire.org and soulrefiner.org

    Follow Kylene:

    On TikTok: @KyleneTerhune

    On IG: @KyleneTerhune

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    42 mins