In today’s episode, we dive into one of the toughest questions many daughters of narcissistic mothers face: Do I need to hate my narcissistic mother in order to heal?

It’s a question that comes with a lot of layers—shame, guilt, anger, and confusion. But the truth is, healing doesn’t have to be built on hatred or resentment. It’s about finding your own path to peace and recognizing the power you have to move beyond the trauma.

Whether you’re struggling with the weight of your mother’s behavior or wondering how to move forward in your own healing, this episode will help you reframe your relationship with your past and find new ways of looking at your future.

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

Mayhem Daughters – Join our supportive community of daughters who understand what you're going through. We continue the conversation after each episode and share our healing journeys together.

Tuesday Group – If you’re looking for a safe space to talk about these topics, gain support, and learn from others who’ve been there, my Tuesday Group is here for you.

Question for the show? Heather@ DaughtersNPD.com

In this episode of Mother Mayhem, we’re talking about what it means to truly “feel your feelings” and how to start better connecting to yourself—and why it’s more than just a cliché.

For daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers, connecting with your emotions can feel overwhelming or even unsafe. But this process is essential to healing and finding a life of meaning and connection after the abuse.

Join Our Community: Healing doesn’t happen in isolation—it happens in connection. That’s why I created Mayhem Daughters. We already believe you and you already belong. If you’re ready to lean into support from others who understand your journey, you are welcome to join HERE.

Want to go deeper? Bring it to Group. Join Tuesday Group

Also mentioned: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things.

Setting boundaries with a difficult or emotionally limited mother can be one of the most challenging steps in your healing journey. The fear of pushback, guilt, or rejection often keeps us stuck in unhealthy dynamics.

In this episode, I walk you through:

Why setting boundaries feels so scary

How to recognize the fear and navigate it with more confidence

Practical tips to stand your ground while staying true to yourself

You deserve relationships that respect your needs. Let’s explore how to set boundaries without letting fear hold you back.

Links mentioned in this episode:

*** If you are on the Mayhem Daughters waitlist, check your email for your Founding Member rate**

Didn't get on the list on time but want to join? Here's how:

Mayhem Daughters, our online community it OPEN!

Bring it to Group: Join Tuesday Group

Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things

Introducing Mayhem Daughters: A Healing Community for Daughters of Narcissistic & Emotionally Limited Mothers

In this episode, I’m excited to introduce Mayhem Daughters, a private, online community designed specifically for daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers. If you’ve felt isolated in your healing journey, this space is built with you in mind.

Mayhem Daughters is more than just another online group. It’s a safe, trauma-informed community where you’ll find connection, support, and the opportunity to heal alongside others who truly understand your experiences. We've created a password-protected space where you can share your story, receive support, and walk alongside other daughters who get it—without the overwhelm of trauma drama.

In this episode, I walk you through:

• What Mayhem Daughters is and why it was created.

• The structure we’ve put in place to ensure a safe and supportive environment, including spaces like I Want to Be Heard and I Want to Be Helped.
• How being a founding member can give you access to special benefits, including a low monthly rate.

Right now, we’re building our group of founding members, and joining the waitlist is the only way to access the special rate of $19.99/month. There’s no commitment required to join the waitlist—it just holds your spot while you decide if this feels like the right place for you.

If you’re ready to take the next step toward healing, connection, and empowerment, join the waitlist today!

Join the ⁠Mayhem Daughters Waitlist

Tuesday Group more your thing? It isn't going anywhere. Sign up here.

In this episode, we explore how to build the empathy and care skills necessary to love and connect with those who love you—when your past hasn’t shown you how.

Growing up with emotional neglect or narcissistic parents can leave you unsure of how to nurture healthy, meaningful relationships.

Learn how to shift from trauma-driven reactions to tender, loving responses that strengthen your connections.

We’ll cover:

• The impact of growing up with emotional neglect on your ability to connect

• How to build empathy when you’ve never been taught it

• Practical steps to show love and care for others, even if it feels challenging

Join the Waitlist for Mayhem Daughters: An online healing community for daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers.

Bring it To Group. Join Tuesday Group for Daughters: A weekly support group for daughters

Also mentioned: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things

As we close out 2024 and welcome in the new year, this episode focuses on building better relationships—with yourself and with others—while embracing healing through community and connection.

Learn practical skills to help you ground yourself, reflect on your relationship goals for 2025, and start nurturing healthier interactions.

Whether you're improving your relationship with yourself, looking to foster deeper connections, or healing from narcissistic abuse, this episode offers valuable tools and insights to guide you into the new year.

Key Topics:

• Grounding techniques for emotional regulation

• Reflecting on your relationship goals for 2025

• Introducing an intentional healing community for daughters beyond social media

Join the Waitlist for Mayhem Daughters: An online healing community for daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers.

Bring it To Group: Join Tuesday group, a weekly peer support group for daughters.

• Also mentioned: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things

This morning, as much of the world unwraps gifts and celebrates, I wanted to bring you a special message of love and care. For many daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers, the holidays can be complicated.

Wherever and however you find yourselves today or in the days after, remember you belong here. All of you are in this community of women around the world who are navigating days like this and I, for sure, most definitely am in it with you, too.

• Bring it Tuesday Group for weekly encouragement and connection.
• Grab your spot on the Mayhem Daughters Community Waitlist
• Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things

Wishing you a day filled with self-compassion and peace.

With love,
Heather (& Clark!)

Today, we’re talking about the impact of growing up with a narcissistic or emotionally limited mother, particularly around the expectations that were set for you — expectations that often left you feeling like you were never enough or constantly falling short.

If you've been holding yourself to standards that don't belong to you, this episode will help you recognize and release those old beliefs. I’ll walk you through how to begin letting go of the pressure of living up to your mother’s expectations and the path to reclaiming your own voice and your own values.

• Learn how to recognize when you are still operating under those old standards.

• Begin to trust your own needs, desires, and choices — without the weight of "shoulds" or guilt.

• Explore actionable steps to let go of perfectionism and reclaim your true self.

Mentioned in This Episode:

• Bring it to Group – Join a weekly peer support group for daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers.

• Join the waitlist for our Mayhem Online Community.

• Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things