In today’s episode, we dive into one of the toughest questions many daughters of narcissistic mothers face: Do I need to hate my narcissistic mother in order to heal?

It’s a question that comes with a lot of layers—shame, guilt, anger, and confusion. But the truth is, healing doesn’t have to be built on hatred or resentment. It’s about finding your own path to peace and recognizing the power you have to move beyond the trauma.

Whether you’re struggling with the weight of your mother’s behavior or wondering how to move forward in your own healing, this episode will help you reframe your relationship with your past and find new ways of looking at your future.

Resources Mentioned in this Episode:

Mayhem Daughters – Join our supportive community of daughters who understand what you're going through. We continue the conversation after each episode and share our healing journeys together.

Tuesday Group – If you’re looking for a safe space to talk about these topics, gain support, and learn from others who’ve been there, my Tuesday Group is here for you.

Question for the show? Heather@ DaughtersNPD.com

In this episode of Mother Mayhem, we’re talking about what it means to truly “feel your feelings” and how to start better connecting to yourself—and why it’s more than just a cliché.

For daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers, connecting with your emotions can feel overwhelming or even unsafe. But this process is essential to healing and finding a life of meaning and connection after the abuse.

Join Our Community: Healing doesn’t happen in isolation—it happens in connection. That’s why I created Mayhem Daughters. We already believe you and you already belong. If you’re ready to lean into support from others who understand your journey, you are welcome to join HERE.

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Also mentioned: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things.

Setting boundaries with a difficult or emotionally limited mother can be one of the most challenging steps in your healing journey. The fear of pushback, guilt, or rejection often keeps us stuck in unhealthy dynamics.

In this episode, I walk you through:

Why setting boundaries feels so scary

How to recognize the fear and navigate it with more confidence

Practical tips to stand your ground while staying true to yourself

You deserve relationships that respect your needs. Let’s explore how to set boundaries without letting fear hold you back.

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Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things