• Ep. 04 | "Pain tells us if it's working" + other effectiveness tests
    Mar 12 2021

    This episode explores using the amount of pain as an external marker. "Pain tells us if it's working" (mainstream option) vs. "Ease tells us if it's working" (fringe option). I offer some personal examples including college basketball, living in New York City, and how I navigated medical school. We dive deep into common fears and hurdles to build enough context to see past the highly endorsed assumption: "The most difficult path will offer the most longterm value." As always, you don't have to change your life - this is simply a context builder and chance to see dynamics play out in specific examples. No Rapid Fire Round this week, I didn't feel like it.

    Timestamps: 

    2:52 - Why pain is an important external marker to talk about 

    5:39 - Mainstream "Pain tells us if it's working" option

    21:04 - Fringe "Ease tells us if it's working" option 

    26:48 - Midrange options + how to approach from the middle 

    29:23 - Deeper Theme: Justice 

     

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    42 mins
  • Ep. 03 | "Family is always right" & other options that exist
    Feb 12 2021

    This episode explores the common assumption "Family is always right" (mainstream) and the varying degrees of other options. We consider  "I am always right" (fringe) and the advantages of the range that falls in-between. We dive deep into common fears and hurdles that arise when facing close family ties. I offer you updated perspectives and recommended pivots - just in case a part of your family dynamic isn't quite working for you the way it should. (Spoiler: You don't have to throw out your family altogether!)  And finally, the Rapid Fire Round is an idea brainstorm of yes/no questions so you can check in about where you stand. 

    Timestamps: 

    0:46 A real-life example of what "family is always right" looks like  - subtle! 

    8:48 Defending the mainstream option. 

    15:27 Defending the fringe option. 

    19:10 Defending and exploring the mid-range options. 

    24:06 Deeper theme of Loyalty & 3 ways to fight against a family-related mindset, "That's just the way it is" (it's BS)

    38:53 The Rapid Fire Round

     

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    45 mins
  • Ep. 02 | "Bubble Baths Are Self Care" ew, can't.
    Feb 5 2021

    This episode explores other options in "self-care" because we all don't care about bubble baths. Baths are great - yes, but what about taking the long way home? Going to the movies on your own? Internet rabbit holes? "Self-care" would be more useful if we updated the idea of what counts. In this episode, we explore common misconceptions, a masculine vs. feminine perspective, and alternative juicy options so that you have access to all the choices you need to show yourself the love you deserve. The Rapid Fire Round is an idea brainstorm at the end. Timestamps: 1:14 What counts as self-care? Introduction to Mainstream, midrange, & fringe options | 3:34 Yin vs. Yang & Feminine vs. Masculine / 8:07 Examples across the range of the options / 15:04 Recognizing that self-care will vary depending on how you naturally process the world / 17:37 Today's deeper theme - Honor. / 20:06 3 ways to keep your confidence if you choose to try something uncharted / 29:44 Rapid Fire Round ---- Link to 1:1 session description: https://withcourageguide.com/sessions/

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    35 mins
  • Ep. 01 | Age tells us how wise you are.
    Jan 22 2021

    This episode explores using the marker of age as an indication of how trustworthy or valuable a person's insights may be. How can defaulting to age help? How does it hold us back? 0:15 The time I was scammed because I used the wrong marker / 2:43 Speed-walkers vs. block-wanderers & perspective of “the block” / 4:16 Tricky aspects of blind loyalty & a sports analogy / 10:53 Tricky situations & 3 possible reframes / 15:35 Rapid Fire Round. 

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    20 mins
  • Ep. 00 | Ground Rules & Why "Options"
    Dec 3 2020

    We are hopping right in! 

    0:21  Ground Rules / 15:59  Why 'Options'

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    24 mins