In this episode Ella touches base with Rufai “Roo” Ajala and explores the world of Intimacy Coordination, Roo’s journey into it and the lessons for our wider culture

"Please note that this conversation explores personal experiences of sexual violence and emotional abuse, as well as the healing journeys of survivors. Below is information in the liner notes about trusted UK organisations who can support you if you have experienced violence - and please know that you are not alone.

https://mindlinetrans.org.uk

https://www.mind.org.uk

https://www.safeline.org.uk

https://www.mankind.org.uk

https://www.refuge.org.uk

https://www.womensaid.org.uk

https://rapecrisis.org.uk

https://lgbt.foundation

Rufai at a glance:

They/Them

Rufai has journeyed from troubled beginnings and in an epic journey of self-discovery and healing from trauma, is now a cinematographer and lighting technician and a trained Intimacy Coordinator. They have a passion for safeguarding especially as it pertains to Queer Trans and Non-Binary Gender people of colour

Show Notes:

The dichotomy of finding joy in your work

Mitigating harm

Making peace with yourself

Bitterness and anger

An unexpected route into the industry – from troubled youth, to industry professional and Intimacy coordination

Healing through the work & support

Safeguarding & vulnerability on set

Mechanics of IC Boundaries –

Belonging to yourself

To kiss or not to kiss – permissions & consents

The 10 step question

Listen to the show

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Find Rufai:

http://intimacyconsultancy.com/

https://www.instagram.com/rufaiajala/

https://www.instagram.com/intimacywithroo

https://rufaiajala.com/

Learn more about Ella - https://www.ellajarmanpinto.com/

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