When big feelings are a huge feature of your life, how do you understand the people in your life who experience their emotions in different ways? And how might we communicate better so they can understand the weird emotional ways we operate?

We chat about:

• Needing responsible role models of people who feel big feelings
• Questions to ask the non-neurotics in your life when you’re tearing your hair out wondering what’s going on for them
• The illusion of empathy and how making assumptions about other people’s emotional states can be a slippery slope
• Our desperation for resolution, and learning to sit with uncertainty

Show notes:

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Being emotional is often synonymous with instability, drama and difficulty. How might we create a new narrative for emotionality that doesn't leave us branded as walking disasters?

Coming up, we dive into:

• Ash’s mindfulness spa experiment and how marathon training is like a meditation retreat
• People’s discomfort with your discomfort and the agony of being reminded “You Got This”
• Becoming emotionally bilingual with a partner whose love language involves spreadsheets
• Taking responsibility for our big feelings and exploring the quest to become more emotionally elegant

Show notes:

We love hearing from you! We’re active on Instagram @ashking & @daronlarson (find us, DM us!)

Be part of the conversation via our Instagram Channel here:

https://www.instagram.com/channel/AbaBFH6hH-ALvmgB/?igsh=cHQwcDIwOWRidTZv

You can also find us on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter?X and TikTok

Or reach us via email: ash@ashking.com.au & daron@daronlarson.com

Subscribe to Daron’s Substack: https://daronlarson.substack.com/

Check out Ash’s shop (with mental health and mindfulness goodies. Heavy Mental merch and any upcoming courses or workshops): https://www.heavymental.com.au/shop

Music by @nikitakarmen

We're often encouraged to "feel our feelings" as a route to healing and greater self-awareness, but what does it even mean? And exactly how does one go about it?

This episode explores:

• The difference between feelings and emotions
• How to tease apart physical vs emotional sensations
• Why sense-making gets in the way of us feeling feelings in our bodies
• Ash's dating life, and how it feels - literally
• And we leave you with a mini-challenge to try out in your own life, to work at becoming a better emotional connoisseur

Show notes:

“You Aren’t at the Mercy of Your Feelings—Your Brain Creates Them,” TED Talk by Lisa Feldman Barrett

“Mapping Emotions On The Body: Love Makes Us Warm All Over,” Michaeleen Doucleff, Dec. 30, 2013

100 Days of Rejection Therapy from Jia Jiang

Misattribution of Fear for Arousal (the scary bridge study), Dutton & Aron (1974) chrome-extension://efaidnbmnnnibpcajpcglclefindmkaj/https://sanlab.psych.ucla.edu/wp-content/uploads/sites/31/2016/03/Dutton-Aron-1974-arousal.pdf

Follow along with Daron's guided exercise, Emotional Meteorology: https://daronlarson.substack.com/p/emotional-meteorology

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Music by @nikitakarmen