This isn’t your typical “just be kinder to yourself” conversation. We’re pulling back the curtain on perfectionism—how it’s been marketed to us, who profits from it, and why it’s not just an annoying habit, but a cultural scam designed to keep us feeling never enough.

We’ve been led to believe perfectionism is about “high standards” and “working hard,” but in reality? It’s fear in disguise. Fear of failure, fear of judgment, fear of not being worthy unless we meet impossible expectations. And what’s worse? That fear has been sold to us—by hustle culture, social media, impossible beauty standards, and even our own upbringing.

Here’s what we’re unpacking:

✨ Perfectionism isn’t just personal—it’s a product we’ve been conditioned to buy into. Let’s talk about how industries thrive on our self-doubt.
✨ Why the “high standards” excuse is a lie. You think you’re just aiming for excellence? Nope—perfectionism actually lowers performance and creativity.
✨ How perfectionism shows up in ways we don’t even realize—not just in work, but in relationships, in our bodies, and even in how we rest.
✨ Forget “just let go of perfectionism.” We’re diving into real, therapy-backed tools (CBT, ACT& more) that actually work.
✨ Why perfectionism isn’t always obvious. People assume it’s just about overachievers—but it also fuels procrastination, burnout, and even self-sabotage.

🎧 Tune in now—because perfectionism is a scam, and it’s time to break free from the script they sold you.

Women are raised to chase love, but is the world ready to give them the love they deserve?

Meanwhile, men are out here with zero training on how to connect—so how do they even start bridging that gap?

And let’s talk about dating apps—designed to keep you scrolling, not necessarily matching. How do you survive the chaos without losing your sanity?

Oh, and did you know in South Korea, people are investing in emotional intelligence courses?

This episode spills all the tea: from how Evolutionary Psychology explains modern dating to Gottman’s four relationship red flags and how emotional smarts can change the game. Don’t miss it!

Chapters:

1:23 : Evolutionary Psychology and Modern Dating Dynamics

3:48: Gender Expectations and Emotional Labour

8:05: Why it's so hard for women

11:04: Why it's so hard for men

13:55: The Dating App Tragedy

18:25: Emotional Intelligence Investments and other Practical Solutions

21:11: Attachment Styles

27:14: Creating a Culture of Love

Uncertainty stresses your brain out more than bad news. Wild, right? Instead of trying to fix it, what if we embraced it—like the Japanese concept of mujo, which sees impermanence as a natural part of life. Now, what if I told you that practicing patience through this lens isn’t about passively waiting—it’s about actively learning to navigate the chaos of the 'maybe'?

In this episode, we’re unpacking how to make this mindset shift work for you, with personal stories, research-backed insights, and practical tools to help you thrive in life’s uncertain moments. Stick around—this could change the way you see the unknown.

Chapters

00:47 Why the Brain Hates Uncertainty

05:43 Strategies to deal with Uncertainty

05:59 Practising Grounding

09:44 Patience Doesn't Mean Waiting

11:34 How Gratitude Helps

12:02 Research: Brain is more stressed by Uncertainty than known negative outcomes

13:56 Cultural Perspectives on Uncertainty

15:14 Journaling Exercise

Do you have a healthy relationship with money? How can you use money to make you happy?

In this episode, Ria Gupta explores the complex relationship between money and happiness, discussing how money can enhance well-being up to a certain point, the importance of defining personal happiness, and the societal implications of financial independence, particularly for women. She emphasizes the need for financial literacy and intentional spending to cultivate a fulfilling life.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to the Happiness Debate

01:53 The Science of Money and Happiness

04:19 How Money Adds To Happiness

05:43 Defining Happiness

07:35 Where Money Falls Short

10:08 New Chapter

13:48 Making Money Last: Financial Literacy and Budgeting

17:30 Conclusion: Balance in Money and Happiness

Struggling to keep up with the new year resolution? Want to harness the power of manifestation?

In this episode, Ria Gupta, a Student Therapist at UBC, takes us on a journey to discover what it truly means to 'glow up' on your own terms. She’ll walk you through the transformative 'miracle question' exercise, share how to set realistic goals, and explain why manifestation is only powerful when paired with real action. It’s time to stop waiting for things to fall into place and start making intentional choices. Tune in to learn how to take charge of your life, stand up for your values, and unlock your full potential."

Chapters

00:39 The Miracle Question

05:02 Setting Realistic Goals and Taking Action

08:47 New Chapter

12:15 Manifestation and the Power of Action

14:21 Standing Up for Your Values and Main Character Energy

Have you ever found yourself trapped in negative thoughts that feel overwhelming or even all-consuming? What if I told you that your thoughts are not facts, and that you have the power to challenge them?

In this episode, Ria, a Student Therapist at UBC, dives into the powerful concept of recognizing and reframing cognitive distortions. She’ll share practical tools to help you shift negative thought patterns and embrace self-compassion, all while reminding you that you're so much more than what’s going on in your mind. Tune in to discover how you can start improving your mental well-being today.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Transformative Thinking

2:58 Understanding Thoughts vs. Facts

4:45 Identifying Cognitive Distortions

7:47 Tools for Challenging Negative Thoughts

8:30 Scientific Evidence

10:50 Practising Reframing

14:25 Practicing Self-Compassion and Kindness

16:45 Conclusion and Key Takeaways

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