Holding Space; open up, fear less, love more

By: Tiger Singleton
  • Summary

  • This podcast, hosted by Tiger Singleton, offers casual, direct, and compassionate explorations into the heart of life and being human. The intention is to help you open up, fear less, and love more. The bi-monthly live video broadcast occurs on the first and third Tuesday of each month and is currently free to join and watch live. Tiger shares insight and wisdom that focuses on seeing yourself, others, and all of life more clearly. The invitation is always to discern the difference between the mind's fearful or anxious imagination and connect more deeply with life as it truly is. You can enjoy show clips across our social media channels, or watch the full episodes and join us live (currently free) by subscribing at HeartBased.io This is one of 3 podcasts by Tiger Singleton & HeartBased.io, the 2 others include a collection of short and sweet guided meditations, and a podcast exclusively for HeartBased Solopreneurs looking to gain clarity, get focused, and be profitable. Learn more at HeartBased.io/podcast

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  • EP109) Let Go, Be Yourself: A Journey of Self-Awareness
    Jan 13 2025

    Recap

    Why Does It Feel So Exhausting to Be Human?

    We all know that feeling of pushing, striving, fixing. It’s easy to believe that life itself is exhausting, but is it really?

    "The exhaustion isn’t life—it’s the ego’s fight to protect an image of who you think you are."

    We talked about how the ego is always chasing something—control, validation, perfection. But what if you didn’t need to fix yourself?

    What if, instead of striving, you could relax into being exactly who you already are?

    Key insight:

    You’re not a project to fix. You’re already enough.

    The Mind’s Stories and the Noise They Create

    The mind loves to spin stories—about who we are, what we lack, and how life should be. It convinces us that we’re broken and that if we just solved this one thing, we’d finally be okay.

    "The irony? The more we try to fix the noise, the louder it gets."

    But here’s the truth: these stories are harmless, temporary, and ultimately not real.

    The mind isn’t the enemy—it’s just doing its thing.

    You don’t have to solve its noise; you can simply notice it and let it pass.

    Reflection: What stories are you holding onto that aren’t serving you?

    Trusting the Unknown

    It’s the start of a new year, and naturally, we think about plans and resolutions. But as I shared in the talk:

    "Nothing in my life has ever gone the way I thought it would—and that’s actually beautiful."

    We spend so much time trying to predict and control the future, but what if the unknown isn’t something to fear? What if it’s the very thing that makes life magical?

    Instead of controlling, trust.

    Instead of fearing, allow.

    Instead of striving, relax.

    When we stop trying to direct life, we might just notice that it’s carrying us exactly where we need to go.

    Reflections Worth Holding Onto

    Here are a few takeaways to sit with:

    “You’re already the beautiful human you think you need to become.”

    “Relax, buddy. Everything’s okay.”

    “What if you stopped trying to be God—and just let God be God?”

    An Invitation to Let Go

    If there’s one thing I hope you take from this talk, it’s this: You’re already home.

    You don’t need to strive, fix, or solve. Life isn’t a problem—it’s an invitation to see the miracle that’s already here.

    And when you’re ready, go out and love on people. Love in the most effortless, joyful, and honest way possible.



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    43 mins
  • 108) The Inherent Playfulness of Existence
    Jan 6 2025
    Life as an AdventureWe started by recognizing the human journey for what it is: a great adventure.An adventure isn’t complete without its twists and turns—the highs, lows, moments of uncertainty, and times where everything feels perfectly aligned. It’s messy, exciting, and yes, sometimes even terrifying. But that’s exactly what makes it an adventure.“For there to be any flavor of adventure, there has to be this element of fear that wonders, ‘Is it all going to be okay?’ And yet, here we are—whole and complete, untouched by anything we’ve been through.”The truth is, despite the stories we tell ourselves, everything we’ve experienced has brought us right here, right now, whole and complete.Whole and Complete: The Truth of What You AreOne of the central insights we uncovered was the realization that the real you is whole and complete.Not the version of you the mind constantly comments on—not the “you” wrapped up in your past or anxiously chasing the future. Beneath all that, there’s an untouched, unbroken reality to who you are.“The deeper reality of what you are has never been touched by what you’ve been through. Sure, the mind will tell its stories—but that’s all they are, stories. The truth of what you are is already enough.”This realization changes how we see everything. The mind loves to make life feel heavy and serious, but when we recognize that what we are has never been at risk, the seriousness starts to dissolve.Given Enough Time, Tragedy Becomes ComedyOne of the most freeing perspectives we discussed is how time softens the weight of what we’ve been through.“Give any tragedy enough time, and it eventually becomes comedy.”We’ve all had moments where something felt like the end of the world. Yet, weeks, months, or years later, we look back and laugh at how worked up we got.It’s not about dismissing pain—it’s about seeing that everything we’ve experienced is part of a grand, playful adventure.I shared the example of a child dropping their ice cream cone. For them, it feels like devastation. But from a bigger perspective, we can see the humor and lightness in it. The same is true for our lives.The Stories We Tell and Emotional PainMuch of our suffering comes not from what happens, but from the story we tell about what happens.“Your emotions don’t respond to reality—they respond to the story you’re telling about what you think is happening.”When we feel overwhelmed, anxious, or lonely, it’s not life itself causing that pain—it’s the narrative our mind creates about it.This doesn’t mean emotions aren’t valid. It means they’re an invitation to pause and ask:“What am I believing that isn’t true?”Our emotions guide us back to clarity, reminding us that we’re always whole and complete.The Playful Nature of ExistenceAt its heart, life is playful. It’s not meant to be taken too seriously.We talked about how taking the “points” in life seriously—whether it’s achievements, relationships, or struggles—makes the game feel heavy. But when we realize those “points” don’t define us, life opens up.“The more you think the points are real, the harder the game becomes. But when you see that none of it defines your worth, life becomes light, free, and playful.”Like playing Monopoly with someone who takes the game too seriously, believing the money is real, we make life unnecessarily tense. But life, like any game, is an opportunity to connect, learn, and grow.Key Takeaways to Sit WithLife is an adventure—embrace it.The fear, uncertainty, and joy are all part of the journey.You are already whole and complete.Your true self remains untouched by the stories in your mind.Given enough time, all tragedy becomes comedy.What feels heavy now will eventually reveal its playful nature.Emotions are guides, not punishments.Pain invites you to look at the story you’re telling—and to see more clearly.Play the game, but don’t take the points seriously.The real opportunity in life isn’t to “win”—it’s to connect, learn, and grow.An Invitation to See ClearlyAs we wrapped up, I shared this thought:“When you see the truth of what actually is, you can’t help but smile. And eventually… you can’t help but love everything.”This is the deeper invitation: to see life—and yourself—as inherently complete, playful, and free from the seriousness the mind tries to impose.Take these reflections with you. Play with them. And remember, this adventure you’re on isn’t something to conquer—it’s something to enjoy.Thank you for sharing this space with me.With love and playful curiosity,Tiger This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit tigmonk.substack.com
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    35 mins
  • 89) The Sacred & Conscious Design of Life
    Dec 30 2024

    In this exploration of The Sacred & Conscious Design of Life, we uncover the profound beauty and intentionality woven into the human experience. This is an invitation to pause, reflect, and see beyond the surface of our struggles and stories. Together, we’ll investigate the truth of life’s design, one that reveals there are no mistakes—only a lack of seeing the bigger picture.



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    43 mins

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