Bob Falconer survived sexual abuse from his mother, father and his father's gay partners amongst others while growing up in middle class New York. Today, he is the leading voice on the part of Internal Family Systems therapy that deals with exorcising or unburdening external spirit entities that might have lodged themselves in the client during moments of sexual violation amongst other things.

In this episode, we dive into his history of abuse, his trauma healing journey and how he relates to Spirit in service of healing himself and others.

I had an unburdening with him over a year ago, which is how I crossed paths with him. I have always admired his openness and capacity to talk clearly about his sexual abuse history without getting disheveled or numbed out.

I'd love to hear what this episode evokes in you and any follow up questions you might have for me or Bob.

You can find him at https://robertfalconer.us/

#childhoodsexualtrauma #ifs #exorcisms #childhoodsexualabuse

This past weekend in Asheville was quite a grief portal for me, triggered by my first instance of being on the receiving end of verbal racism since I've moved here. I trudged the now familiar road from shock, numbness to grief release to exhaustion, fatigue to suicidality to vengeance fantasization. In this video, I describe how allowing myself to fantasize about vengeance has helped relieve a lot of the tension that can emerge in moments of deep trauma triggers. I reference a tool in the video called aspecting. Here's an essay describing how I used it to release all charge towards my maternal grandfather for his role in my #childhoodsexualabuse. https://vighneshrege.substack.com/p/aspecting-a-tool-for-healing-trauma?utm_source=youtube I also reference IFS, a healing modality that helps create greater harmony amongst all the varied conflicting parts that we as adult survivors can have. If you'd like to book an IFS session with me, go here – https://cal.com/vighnesh-rege/ifs Please like and share this video if you found it useful and comment below on what kind of content you'd like to see.