• I Need More. Now What?
    Oct 6 2024

    This excerpt from "A Guide to Loving Yourself and Getting What You Need as The Mindful Modern Mistress" examines the complexities of open relationships and affairs, arguing that while they are not for everyone, they can be navigated ethically if done thoughtfully and with careful consideration for all involved. The author, a sex and dating coach, emphasizes the importance of strong communication, open and honest conversations about desires and needs, and a willingness to explore feelings beyond the traditional model of monogamy. She cautions readers to consider the potential for hurt and jealousy in such scenarios, suggesting that they may be better suited for couples who have established a solid foundation of trust and compersion, the ability to feel happiness for another person's success. However, she asserts that fulfilling one's needs through an extramarital relationship can be achieved while maintaining respect and kindness, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling and less stressful primary relationship.

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    7 mins
  • Ethics and Unmet Needs: Who's To Blame?
    Oct 6 2024

    This podcast challenges conventional notions of ethical behavior in relationships, particularly when it comes to sex. The author argues that societal expectations often unfairly prioritize one partner's needs over the other's, potentially leading to an imbalance where one partner's needs are routinely ignored. Specifically, she challenges the idea that it is ethical for one partner to suppress their sexual needs in the name of love while the other partner is free to withhold intimacy. The author asserts that both partners have a responsibility to meet each other's basic needs, and that compromise should be a collaborative effort, not a one-sided sacrifice.

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    4 mins
  • Flipping the Narrative: Ethics and Relationships
    Oct 6 2024

    The Mindful Modern Mistress, a dating and sex coach, challenges traditional views on ethical behavior in relationships, particularly regarding infidelity. She argues that society unfairly prioritizes the needs of one partner over the other, often leading to a partner feeling neglected or deprived of basic needs. The author contends that a partner who withholds sex, emotional support, or connection from their partner is no more ethical than a partner who seeks those needs outside the relationship. She encourages a more balanced and open dialogue about the importance of meeting both partners' needs in relationships.

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    3 mins
  • History of the Word "Mistress"
    Oct 6 2024

    This podcast explores the history and evolving meaning of the word "mistress," highlighting its transformation from a term signifying female authority and control to its modern association with infidelity. Taken from the first chapter of a guide written by The Mindful Modern Mistress, the author traces the word's origins through various historical periods, showcasing its diverse uses and cultural contexts. The text also challenges traditional views on open relationships and mistresses, advocating for a more nuanced understanding of individual choices and moral complexities. The author emphasizes the need for open-mindedness and acceptance, suggesting that relationships and love can take diverse forms, and encourages readers to consider their own beliefs and values in light of this broader perspective.

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    8 mins
  • Perceived Perfection in Relationships
    Oct 6 2024

    The blog post, titled "Love Ain't No Thing," uses the song "Love is a Verb" by John Mayer to critique a story shared on social media about a husband who suspects his wife is cheating on him after finding out she is pregnant. The husband, who spends nearly 77% of the year traveling for work, questions the paternity of the child and requests a paternity test despite being largely absent from his wife's life. The post's author argues that the husband's behavior and expectations are unethical, as he fails to meet his wife's needs for physical and emotional support while she works and takes care of their home. The author suggests that the husband's absence may be a factor in his wife's supposed infidelity and raises questions about societal double standards regarding infidelity and the importance of active communication in relationships.

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    8 mins
  • Prioritizing Love
    Oct 6 2024

    The blog post, titled "Love Ain't No Thing," uses the song "Love is a Verb" by John Mayer to critique a story shared on social media about a husband who suspects his wife is cheating on him after finding out she is pregnant. The husband, who spends nearly 77% of the year traveling for work, questions the paternity of the child and requests a paternity test despite being largely absent from his wife's life. The post's author argues that the husband's behavior and expectations are unethical, as he fails to meet his wife's needs for physical and emotional support while she works and takes care of their home. The author suggests that the husband's absence may be a factor in his wife's supposed infidelity and raises questions about societal double standards regarding infidelity and the importance of active communication in relationships.

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    10 mins
  • Love and Choices
    Oct 6 2024

    The blog post, titled "Love Ain't No Thing," uses the song "Love is a Verb" by John Mayer to critique a story shared on social media about a husband who suspects his wife is cheating on him after finding out she is pregnant. The husband, who spends nearly 77% of the year traveling for work, questions the paternity of the child and requests a paternity test despite being largely absent from his wife's life. The post's author argues that the husband's behavior and expectations are unethical, as he fails to meet his wife's needs for physical and emotional support while she works and takes care of their home. The author suggests that the husband's absence may be a factor in his wife's supposed infidelity and raises questions about societal double standards regarding infidelity and the importance of active communication in relationships.

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    9 mins