The Connection Codes Team are talking about the topic of male sexuality and vulnerability. With insights from listener feedback and an open discussion, they take a look at the hidden messages men receive about sex and desire—messages that create shame and emotional distance. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis share personal experiences and clinical observations on how societal pressures force men to conceal their struggles, while Tera brings a fresh perspective on how these issues affect marriages. Together, they discuss how acknowledging and unpacking these messages can lead to healthier connections and break down emotional barriers.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Starting the Conversation on Male Sexuality
• 00:00:49 - Listener’s Challenge Sparks a Deep Dive
• 00:04:01 - Untold Stories and Hidden Experiences
• 00:05:27 - The Influence of Cultural Messages
• 00:12:34 - Unpacking Lust and Attraction
• 00:21:45 - Navigating Purity Culture’s Impact
• 00:31:54 - Biblical Takes on Lust: A Fresh Look
• 00:36:59 - Understanding the Greek Roots of Lust
• 00:38:06 - When Does Lust Become Sin?
• 00:39:08 - Attraction Stories That Shape Us
• 00:42:23 - What It Means to Be "Missing" in Marriage
• 00:45:05 - Surprising Insights from Pre-Marriage Talks
• 00:50:00 - Honest Conversations in Pre-Marriage Counseling
• 00:56:08 - How Honesty Reshapes Relationships
• 01:03:14 - Wrapping Up with Core Emotion Reflections

Tera and Phyllis talk about overcoming long-standing taboos around sexual exploration in relationships. They discuss listener questions about intimacy and vulnerability, reflecting on personal stories of breaking through fear and shame. The conversation emphasizes the importance of open communication, mutual trust, and being adventurous in the bedroom—whether that means trying pole dancing, exploring phone sex, or simply processing long-held fears. This episode challenges listeners to move past societal judgments and find what works for them and their partners, pointing out that every couple’s journey is unique.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Chapters

• 00:00:00 Introduction: Girl Time Vibes
• 00:00:50 Welcome to the Connection Codes
• 00:01:36 Unveiling a Listener's Email
• 00:03:26 Phyllis’s U-Haul Truck Adventure
• 00:05:12 Pushing the Boundaries in Sexual Adventure
• 00:07:44 Freeing Yourself from Shame and Judgment
• 00:12:52 Opening Up: Boundaries and Personal Comfort
• 00:14:10 Why Communication Is the Key to Intimacy
• 00:18:26 Chair Dancing: Phyllis’s Unexpected Confidence Boost
• 00:20:27 Staying Intimately Connected Across Distance
• 00:21:47 Girlfriends Sharing Bold Relationship Tips
• 00:23:34 Facing Shame and Embracing Vulnerability
• 00:24:03 The Joy of Fiction: A Surprising Tool for Sexual Exploration
• 00:26:32 From Theater to Bedroom: Removing Barriers
• 00:28:19 Self-Awareness: A Pathway to Sexual Exploration
• 00:31:00 Adventure in the Bedroom at Any Age
• 00:35:21 Processing Emotions Surrounding Sex
• 00:42:34 How to Build Safety and Curiosity in Relationships
• 00:44:13 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Therapist and author Sam Jolman joins Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill to discuss the topic of masculine sexuality. They discuss the ways men’s sexual identities are shaped by early experiences, cultural messages, and religious teachings. Sam shares stories and insights on how men can reclaim their sexuality by embracing vulnerability, addressing shame, and learning to see sex as a form of play rather than performance. The conversation also touches on common challenges in sexual relationships, the importance of open communication, and how better sexual education can lead to deeper emotional connections.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠⁠

Connect with Sam:

• Sam Jolman: https://www.samjolman.com/
• Sam on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/samjolman/
• Sam on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/samjolmancounseling
• Sam’s Substack - the heart of it: https://samjolman.substack.com/
• The Sex Talk You Never Got by Sam Jolman: https://tinyurl.com/4s7b47pr
• Story Formed by Sam Jolman: https://tinyurl.com/53sy8amx

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 – Setting the Stage: Why This Episode Stands Out
• 00:01:38 – Meet Sam Jolman: A New Voice in Masculine Sexuality
• 00:03:48 – Redefining Masculine Sexuality Through Personal Stories
• 00:06:52 – Real-Life Experiences That Shape Our Sexual Identity
• 00:09:55 – Why Sexual Education Is More Important Than Ever
• 00:14:03 – Navigating Challenges in Today’s Sexual Relationships
• 00:20:20 – The Strength in Vulnerability: Opening Up About Sexuality
• 00:25:01 – How to Clearly Communicate Your Sexual Needs
• 00:27:29 – Breaking Down Sexual Play and Its Importance in Relationships
• 00:28:28 – Understanding the Boundaries: Consent and Desire
• 00:29:37 – The Neurological Basis for Play and Vulnerability
• 00:32:32 – The Root of Miscommunication in Sexual Relationships
• 00:34:24 – Overcoming Fear and Embracing Playfulness in Intimacy
• 00:47:13 – The Hidden Power of Non-Sexual Play in Strengthening Bonds
• 00:48:37 – Wrapping It Up: Key Takeaways from the Conversation

The discussion in this episode is about the dynamics of conflict in marriage, exploring how trying to "win" an argument can lead to emotional disconnection. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill unpack the idea of the "courtroom" in relationships, where couples focus on proving who's right instead of understanding each other's emotions. They discuss how this leads to loneliness, especially in areas like sex, and share tools to shift from battling over facts to building deeper emotional connection. Whether it's about resolving conflict or dealing with sexual loneliness, you’ll be offered a path to transforming your relationship.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Opening the Courtroom: How Conflicts Become Trials in Marriage
• 00:01:21 - Marriage as a Battlefield: The Story Behind the Courtroom Mentality
• 00:03:05 - The Burden of Being Right: When Winning Means Losing
• 00:04:21 - Logistics vs. Emotions: The Trap of Disconnected Arguments
• 00:09:45 - The High Cost of Winning: How Arguments Lead to Disconnection
• 00:14:36 - Exhaustion and Innocence: Why Proving Your Case Drains You
• 00:21:36 - The Unseen Toll: Navigating Emotional Chaos
• 00:22:20 - Sexual Loneliness Unveiled: A Pain Often Ignored
• 00:23:05 - Connection Through Conversation: How Words Heal
• 00:24:54 - Validation’s Power: The Key to Emotional Harmony
• 00:26:37 - Conflict as Connection: Transformative Approaches
• 00:27:40 - Practical Tools for Lasting Emotional Intimacy
• 00:29:32 - Reflecting on Past Wounds: Why Emotional Tools Matter
• 00:33:19 - Emotional Mastery: Building the Right Relationship Toolkit
• 00:37:15 - Healing Old Wounds: How Emotional Tools Transform Relationships
• 00:41:48 - Encouragement & Wrap-Up: Moving Forward with Connection

We explore the impacts of unprocessed emotions on mental health, from childhood trauma to adult struggles like OCD and anxiety. The team discusses how society’s tendency to label people, rather than understand them, leads to deeper psychological challenges. They discuss the importance of emotional regulation and use simple tools like the Core Emotion Wheel to help both adults and children process their feelings. By addressing these issues early on, we can improve emotional health and break harmful cycles across generations.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Unveiling the Spectrum of Psyche Disorders: A Journey Begins
• 00:02:06 - Navigating the Human Condition: What Shapes Us?
• 00:03:28 - Unprocessed Emotions: Silent Disruptors of Our Lives
• 00:06:45 - Real Stories, Real Struggles: Humanity in Motion
• 00:09:31 - Childhood Memories: How Early Trauma Echoes in Adulthood
• 00:12:27 - Cultural Shifts and the Rise of Pathologizing Human Experience
• 00:16:02 - Living with OCD: A Deep Dive into Personal Insights
• 00:24:57 - Parenting in the Face of Emotional Health Challenges
• 00:31:26 - Parenting Misunderstandings: The Unspoken Burdens
• 00:33:53 - Childhood Anxiety: Recognizing and Addressing It Early
• 00:36:35 - A Neighborhood Incident: Society’s Quick Judgments Exposed
• 00:40:24 - The Vital Role of Emotional Regulation in Everyday Life
• 00:47:55 - The Core Emotion Wheel: A Game-Changer for All Ages
• 00:54:14 - Personal Reflections: Processing the Emotional Journey
• 01:00:38 - Wrapping Up: Final Thoughts and Encouragement for the Road Ahead

The Connection Codes crew is taking on a listener's question about how parents can express emotions without making their kids feel like they need to earn love or approval. They explore how parents can balance showing real emotions while avoiding guilt-tripping or creating unnecessary pressure. From discussing parental guilt to finding joy in everyday moments, this episode offers you tools for maintaining emotional connection with your kids, even during tough times. Whether you're navigating emotional transparency or trying to create safe spaces for your children, this conversation offers insights on building strong, lasting family bonds. Links and Resources: Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠ To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠ To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach Chapters: 00:00:00 - Welcome to Connection Codes: Exploring Emotional Safety in Parenting 00:01:14 - Personal Reflections: Updates from Life and Gratitude 00:03:43 - Unpacking Emotions with the Connection Codes Tool 00:06:43 - Listener Q&A: Navigating Emotional Parenting 00:11:49 - Striking the Balance: Emotion and Authenticity with Your Kids 00:21:18 - Parenting Guilt: Tackling the Internal Tug of War 00:22:52 - Finding Balance: Emotional Regulation in Parenting 00:24:38 - Prioritizing Connection: The Core of Parenting Success 00:26:54 - Teaching Emotional Awareness: Why It’s Crucial for Kids 00:30:01 - The Healing Power of Processing Emotions as a Family 00:31:57 - Building Long-Term Connections: Creating Safe Spaces for Kids 00:36:51 - Joy in Parenting: Why It Matters More Than You Think 00:39:26 - Listener Love: How You’re Helping Shape Our Conversations

Tera and Wes open up about going through an emotional disconnect and how they rebuilt their relationship using the Connection Codes method. They discuss their struggles with loneliness, guilt, and fear, and how these emotions impacted their marriage and family life. Tera and Wes also explore how learning to process emotions in the moment has helped them break old patterns of conflict, ultimately leading to a stronger, more connected partnership. This episode shows us how slowing down and creating emotional safety can transform a relationship.

Links and Resources:

• Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠

• To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠

• To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠

Chapters

• 00:00:00 - The Start of Our Connection Codes Journey

• 00:02:35 - How Our Journey Began During COVID

• 00:04:22 - The Core Emotion Wheel: A Life-Changing Tool

• 00:05:07 - Real-Time Emotion Wheel: An Unfiltered Demo

• 00:09:07 - Wes Opens Up: His Path to Emotional Awareness

• 00:12:08 - Tara’s Reflection on Connection and Communication

• 00:13:51 - The Tough Stuff: Breaking Through Emotional Barriers

• 00:19:34 - Parenting with Emotional Awareness: The Real Impact

• 00:25:23 - Emotional Anchoring: How to Stay Grounded in the Chaos

• 00:26:06 - Reflecting on Old Conflicts and New Growth

• 00:27:05 - Sticking with It: Committing to Emotional Growth

• 00:28:24 - Real-Life Transformation: What It Looks Like

• 00:30:42 - Processing Emotions in Real Time: No More Bottling It Up

• 00:37:04 - Creating a Safe Space: The Key to Emotional Healing

• 00:41:30 - The Challenges of Holding Space for Each Other

• 00:45:45 - Wrapping Up: Final Thoughts and Encouragement

In this episode, the team is diving into the challenges of dealing with difficult family dynamics, focusing on the difference between disassociation and stunt doubling. The hosts share stories about how overwhelming situations, especially with family, can lead to shutting down emotionally or "faking it" just to get through. They explain how disassociation can protect us in moments of stress but can also lead to deeper problems, while stunt doubling is a conscious choice to stay present without fully opening up. They are letting you in on ways to get through these tough moments, helping you find balance between staying true to yourselves and protecting their mental well-being.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Chapters 00:00:00 - When to Show Up or Fake It: Intro to Stunt Doubling vs. Disassociation 00:01:13 - Panic on the Road: How Family Stress Can Lead to Disassociation 00:02:42 - Disassociation: The Mind’s Escape Hatch We All Use 00:04:15 - Driving Blind: Personal Stories of Emotional Shut Down 00:07:59 - Stunt Doubling: Why Pretending Might Save Your Relationships 00:11:08 - The Battle Between Authenticity and Survival 00:15:16 - Culture and Disassociation: Are We All Just Numb? 00:18:18 - Stunt Doubling: A Strategy for Emotional Survival 00:21:42 - Finding Safety: A Client’s Journey Through Stunt Doubling 00:23:51 - How to Stunt Double Without Losing Yourself 00:26:34 - Navigating Life’s Stressful Moments: When to Stunt Double vs. Disassociate 00:31:18 - Core Emotion Wheel: The Tool That Keeps You Grounded 00:34:50 - Wrapping Up: Tools and Insights for Navigating Family Dynamics