The Connection Codes Team are talking about the topic of male sexuality and vulnerability. With insights from listener feedback and an open discussion, they take a look at the hidden messages men receive about sex and desire—messages that create shame and emotional distance. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis share personal experiences and clinical observations on how societal pressures force men to conceal their struggles, while Tera brings a fresh perspective on how these issues affect marriages. Together, they discuss how acknowledging and unpacking these messages can lead to healthier connections and break down emotional barriers.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Starting the Conversation on Male Sexuality
• 00:00:49 - Listener’s Challenge Sparks a Deep Dive
• 00:04:01 - Untold Stories and Hidden Experiences
• 00:05:27 - The Influence of Cultural Messages
• 00:12:34 - Unpacking Lust and Attraction
• 00:21:45 - Navigating Purity Culture’s Impact
• 00:31:54 - Biblical Takes on Lust: A Fresh Look
• 00:36:59 - Understanding the Greek Roots of Lust
• 00:38:06 - When Does Lust Become Sin?
• 00:39:08 - Attraction Stories That Shape Us
• 00:42:23 - What It Means to Be "Missing" in Marriage
• 00:45:05 - Surprising Insights from Pre-Marriage Talks
• 00:50:00 - Honest Conversations in Pre-Marriage Counseling
• 00:56:08 - How Honesty Reshapes Relationships
• 01:03:14 - Wrapping Up with Core Emotion Reflections

Tera and Phyllis talk about overcoming long-standing taboos around sexual exploration in relationships. They discuss listener questions about intimacy and vulnerability, reflecting on personal stories of breaking through fear and shame. The conversation emphasizes the importance of open communication, mutual trust, and being adventurous in the bedroom—whether that means trying pole dancing, exploring phone sex, or simply processing long-held fears. This episode challenges listeners to move past societal judgments and find what works for them and their partners, pointing out that every couple’s journey is unique.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Chapters

• 00:00:00 Introduction: Girl Time Vibes
• 00:00:50 Welcome to the Connection Codes
• 00:01:36 Unveiling a Listener's Email
• 00:03:26 Phyllis’s U-Haul Truck Adventure
• 00:05:12 Pushing the Boundaries in Sexual Adventure
• 00:07:44 Freeing Yourself from Shame and Judgment
• 00:12:52 Opening Up: Boundaries and Personal Comfort
• 00:14:10 Why Communication Is the Key to Intimacy
• 00:18:26 Chair Dancing: Phyllis’s Unexpected Confidence Boost
• 00:20:27 Staying Intimately Connected Across Distance
• 00:21:47 Girlfriends Sharing Bold Relationship Tips
• 00:23:34 Facing Shame and Embracing Vulnerability
• 00:24:03 The Joy of Fiction: A Surprising Tool for Sexual Exploration
• 00:26:32 From Theater to Bedroom: Removing Barriers
• 00:28:19 Self-Awareness: A Pathway to Sexual Exploration
• 00:31:00 Adventure in the Bedroom at Any Age
• 00:35:21 Processing Emotions Surrounding Sex
• 00:42:34 How to Build Safety and Curiosity in Relationships
• 00:44:13 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Therapist and author Sam Jolman joins Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill to discuss the topic of masculine sexuality. They discuss the ways men’s sexual identities are shaped by early experiences, cultural messages, and religious teachings. Sam shares stories and insights on how men can reclaim their sexuality by embracing vulnerability, addressing shame, and learning to see sex as a form of play rather than performance. The conversation also touches on common challenges in sexual relationships, the importance of open communication, and how better sexual education can lead to deeper emotional connections.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠⁠

Connect with Sam:

• Sam Jolman: https://www.samjolman.com/
• Sam on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/samjolman/
• Sam on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/samjolmancounseling
• Sam’s Substack - the heart of it: https://samjolman.substack.com/
• The Sex Talk You Never Got by Sam Jolman: https://tinyurl.com/4s7b47pr
• Story Formed by Sam Jolman: https://tinyurl.com/53sy8amx

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 – Setting the Stage: Why This Episode Stands Out
• 00:01:38 – Meet Sam Jolman: A New Voice in Masculine Sexuality
• 00:03:48 – Redefining Masculine Sexuality Through Personal Stories
• 00:06:52 – Real-Life Experiences That Shape Our Sexual Identity
• 00:09:55 – Why Sexual Education Is More Important Than Ever
• 00:14:03 – Navigating Challenges in Today’s Sexual Relationships
• 00:20:20 – The Strength in Vulnerability: Opening Up About Sexuality
• 00:25:01 – How to Clearly Communicate Your Sexual Needs
• 00:27:29 – Breaking Down Sexual Play and Its Importance in Relationships
• 00:28:28 – Understanding the Boundaries: Consent and Desire
• 00:29:37 – The Neurological Basis for Play and Vulnerability
• 00:32:32 – The Root of Miscommunication in Sexual Relationships
• 00:34:24 – Overcoming Fear and Embracing Playfulness in Intimacy
• 00:47:13 – The Hidden Power of Non-Sexual Play in Strengthening Bonds
• 00:48:37 – Wrapping It Up: Key Takeaways from the Conversation