Episodes

  • Some Submissive You Are...Understanding Differences in Power Dynamics
    Jan 11 2025

    This blog post by The Mindful Modern Mistress discusses masochism and submission, emphasizing the importance of understanding their nuances and the diversity within the kink community. It highlights the need for clear communication and careful consideration in exploring these dynamics. The author stresses that these are deeply personal experiences with a wide range of expressions, urging readers to take their time in self-discovery. The post ultimately promotes respectful and fulfilling relationships built on mutual understanding within power exchange scenarios.

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    7 mins
  • A BDSM Communication Checklist
    Oct 9 2024

    This excerpt from a book and corresponding podcast episode by The Mindful Modern Mistress offers a comprehensive guide to creating safe and consensual BDSM experiences within a group setting. The guide emphasizes the importance of thorough orientation and vetting processes, which involve open communication, establishing clear boundaries, and ongoing negotiation of consent. It also stresses the significance of self-reflection, understanding one's limits and triggers, and creating a supportive environment through trust and confidentiality. The guide provides practical steps for participants to navigate roles, responsibilities, and safety protocols, as well as resources and support networks for ongoing learning and support.

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    5 mins
  • Discussion about Group BDSM Negotiations and Safety
    Oct 9 2024

    This podcast provides a guide to creating a safe and respectful environment for BDSM groups and communities. It outlines a comprehensive orientation process that emphasizes communication, negotiation, and consent. The guide encourages participants to reflect on their boundaries, triggers, and desired roles, and to establish clear communication protocols, including the use of safe words. It also stresses the importance of ongoing consent, record-keeping, and seeking support when needed.

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    6 mins
  • Insights about Group BDSM Activities and Negotiating
    Oct 9 2024

    "Tied Up: A Beginner's Guide to BDSM Negotiations and Safety" discusses the importance of creating a safe and consensual environment for BDSM groups and communities through a thorough orientation process. The author outlines key elements to include in such an orientation, such as the importance of negotiation, clear communication, setting boundaries, establishing roles, and understanding consent. The text also emphasizes the importance of ongoing communication, respecting personal limits, and seeking support when needed.

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    3 mins
  • Aftercare in BDSM
    Oct 9 2024

    This podcast focuses on a chapter from "Tied Up: A Guide to BDSM Negotiations and Safety" that emphasizes the critical role of aftercare in BDSM practices. Aftercare is essential for both physical and emotional well-being following intense scenes, and the author details how it addresses the unique needs of different participants, including tops, bottoms, dominants, and submissives. The article also discusses the phenomena of "sub drop" and "dom drop," which describe the emotional and psychological effects that can occur after a BDSM scene, and the author emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and addressing these effects through proper aftercare practices. The text ultimately advocates for a culture of respect, communication, and empathy within the BDSM community to prioritize the safety and well-being of all participants.

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    8 mins
  • Safety Measure in BDSM Groups
    Oct 8 2024

    This podcast discusses an excerpt from "Tied Up: A Beginners Guide to BDSM Negotiations and Safety" that provides a framework for creating a safe and consensual BDSM environment through orientation and vetting processes. The text highlights the importance of clear communication, negotiation of boundaries and limits, and ongoing consent within BDSM relationships. It encourages self-reflection, emphasizes the role of trust and confidentiality, and provides resources for further learning and support. The author emphasizes the need to prioritize safety and well-being in all BDSM interactions.

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    6 mins
  • Group Communication in BDSM: Safety Negotiations
    Oct 8 2024

    This podcast discusses excerpt from the book, "Tied Up: A Beginners Guide to BDSM Negotiations and Safety," which provides guidance on conducting safe and consensual BDSM activities within a group setting. The text emphasizes the importance of a comprehensive orientation process that covers key topics such as negotiation, self-reflection, communication, establishing roles, boundaries, consent, health and safety, trust, record keeping, and resources. It encourages participants to prioritize safety and well-being by setting clear boundaries, communicating openly, and respecting the limits of others.

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    6 mins
  • Safe, Sane and Consensual and Other Levels of Edgy Play
    Oct 8 2024

    This podcast explores three different philosophies within the BDSM community: Safe, Sane, and Consensual (SSC), Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK), and Personal Responsibility Informed Consensual Kink (PRICK). These philosophies, outlined in the book "Tied Up: A Beginner's Guide to BDSM Negotiations and Safety," emphasize different approaches to safety, consent, and personal responsibility in BDSM practices. SSC focuses on creating a safe and consensual environment for all participants, RACK acknowledges and manages inherent risks, while PRICK emphasizes personal responsibility and informed choices. The text encourages individuals to choose the philosophy that best aligns with their values, boundaries, and comfort levels, ensuring safe and fulfilling BDSM experiences.

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    15 mins