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Today I'm going to do a podcast on self care.

And the reason why I'm doing it now is that I find that December January time to be in some ways the hardest time.

And I just had this idea. I'm recording this a couple weeks before the Christmas and Hanukkah holidays.

And I'm like, Peter, you're going to need to really listen to this in a couple of weeks.

But yeah, I'm going to be honest. I find December and January to be tough.

December, because there's so much going on.

And January, because even if I'm in California, it's cold. Sometimes it's really rainy. And I feel sometimes overwhelmed by the entire year ahead of me.

And I hope someone out there relates to that.

I do find December and January to be the two trickiest months of the year. All the rest I'll take. But December. December, I particularly find December tough, but January's tough too.

The focus of this podcast is on self care.

What I most need to do when I'm feeling overwhelmed, whether that be because there's so much going on or because there's so much ahead of me.

A couple of phrases:

Whatever you put before taking care of yourself, you're going to lose.

And the thing you're probably gonna lose is your sanity, your peace of mind, your serenity.

Also, I find that taking care of myself pays enormous dividends.

I wish I'd mastered that one so much sooner than I did. But at least I think I've got it now.

Which is taking care of me, loving me, because I'm the person who I'm going to be spending the most amount of time with in my life, and I want to make sure that I have the best relationship with me that I possibly can.

And in order to do that, I need to take good care of myself.

The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie

There's a phrase in coaching and I believe I did a podcast episode about it called planting a seed.

It's a very powerful tool where you say to yourself, “Yeah, I don't know how I'm going to get everything done, but you know what? I know I'm going to figure it out.”

This first quote is from Language of Letting Go, and Melody says, “I don't precisely know what you need to do to take care of yourself, but I know you can figure it out.

Rest when you're tired. Take a drink of cold water when you're thirsty. Call a friend when you're lonely. Ask the universe to help when you feel overwhelmed.

Many of us have learned, many of us have learned how to deprive and neglect ourselves. Many of us have learned to push ourselves hard.

When The problem is that we've already pushed too hard. Many of us are afraid the work won't get done if we rest when we're tired. The work will get done. It will be done better than work that emerges from tiredness of soul and spirit.”

Seems obvious, but how many times do I just push through?

I think one of the things that I've learned to do is when I get really tired, is I stop for five minutes and meditate. I find that really helpful.

OMG, how many times do I let myself get dehydrated?

Take yourself out to a cafe and journal, if you've got a lot on your mind.

Thank you universe for helping me to change the story of my being overwhelmed. I invite you to support me in changing this and making a shift.

And I think more than anything for me, it's when my soul gets tired. When I literally ache in my solar plexus because I'm so spiritually tired because I've been giving so much. But not giving to myself.

Remember that balance. Find that balance. Give to yourself. It's okay to stop.

It's okay to stop and breathe. It really is.

And you know what? If something falls apart, I know, planting a seed here, you'll be able to handle it. Because we are never given more than we can handle. We are just given more than we can control.

Because guess what? Controlling is not our business.

Managing and handling is.

“Nurtured, nourished people who love themselves and care for themselves are the delight of the universe.”

And I will add to that, that good can come easily. If you're a workaholic, that's a hard one to swallow, but it is a true concept.

And that is a True that good can come easily.

“People who are nourished. and nurture themselves are well timed, efficient, and divinely led. Today, I will practice loving self care, even if it just means taking a breath.”

Today is going to be a short podcast, but it's going to be a very useful one.

I'm going to talk about morning routines.

I'm going to be using, I haven't used it in a while, the fabulous Melody Beattie.

The Language of Letting Go

And this reading that I'm going to be coaching off of is called Morning Cues. Melody says, “There is an important message for us first thing every day. Often, once we get started with the day, we may not listen as closely to ourselves and life as we do in those still moments when we first awaken.

An ideal time to listen to ourselves is when we are laying quietly, our defenses are down, and we're open and most vulnerable.”

Now, I'm going to stop there because I'm going to tell you what I do for my morning routine and then I'm going to continue to read Melody's reading.

Every morning, when I get up, I make myself a cup of tea.

That's a non negotiable.

And then,while my husband makes me a egg white omelette, as he does pretty much every single morning, He's a master at the egg white omelette. I just have to say. The guy should open up a cafe.

What I do is I go outside and I look at the mountains because I live near mountains.

And I sit and I go through two prayers.

And after I finish those two prayers, I then open up my little notebook and I read out loud the things that I want most.

And in reading those things, I am affirming them. And sometimes I'll be using visualization. Sometimes I'm just saying them. Sometimes I'm just thinking them.

But what it does is it really tunes me into what I want the focus of my life and my day to be.

And when I finish, I always say these words, “Peter Pamela Rose, suiting up, showing up, reporting for duty.”

And that duty is not only to the Universe, God, whatever you want to call it, my God, it's also to me. And it's also to my life and what is important to me, in this one brief shot I have on this earth.

So I hope that inspires you, but I'm going to go on and continue to read what the fabulous Melody Beattie says. She says, “What is the first feeling that floods through us? The feeling that perhaps we are trying to avoid during the business of the day? Are we angry, frustrated, hurt, or confused?

That is what we need to focus on and work through. That is the issue.”

We need to address and I agree that is very helpful and then go on to affirm that you will be able to do that or that you are doing it in that morning routine for me what I am filled with in the morning and this is I'm coming up on my 30th anniversary of doing this work is that I am at peace with who I am now.

And I just want to become a bigger, better, badassier version of Peter Pamela Rose than I already am.

She also asks, “What is the first idea or thought that enters your mind? Do you need to finish a timely project? Are you in need of a fun day, a restful day?”

I also think that is a great question to ask yourself, because that tells you what you most don't want to do, which becomes the number one thing you need to do to build self esteem, to build trust in yourself.

She asks, “do you feel sick and need to nurture yourself? Are you in a negative frame of mind? Do you have an issue that you need to resolve with someone?”

Again, pay attention to those first thoughts so you know where the healing needs to go.

Do you need to tell someone something? Is something bothering you?

Is something feeling particularly good? Does an idea occur to you?

That happens to me all the time while I'm affirming in the morning.

In the morning does an idea occur to you? Something you could get or something that would make you feel good? What are those things?

Embrace the good. Embrace the challenge.

Embrace the learning that you are listening to first thing in the morning.

When you awaken, what is the first issue that presents itself?

You don't have to be fearful. Be brave.

You don't have to rush. Go as slowly as you need to in order to take care of yourself. Lay. Listen. Be still. Accept the message.

And then, affirm the good.

Find that relationship between you and the universe.

And state to yourself that today, I will suit up, show up, and report for duty. Mostly to myself.

About Matthew:

Matthew Corozine is a multi-hyphenated creative artist. Not only an actor, director, producer, and teacher, Matthew is also the founding artistic director and creator of Matthew Corozine Studio (MCS), which just celebrated its 24th anniversary. He is now one of New York City’s leading Meisner-based acting coaches, teaching and creating opportunities for students to “get outta your head” in order to build a meaningful life with art. Already with an established student base in New York City, Washington DC and internationally (via online coaching), MCS has expanded to Miami .

Over the years, Matthew has coached actors and performers on Broadway, TV, Film, including platinum-selling America’s Got Talent finalist, Jackie Evancho. Matthew directed the original show “Going Through Life With No Direction” at 54 Below (NYC), produced by Alicia Keys.

Matthew recently acted in THE NORMAL HEART benefit at the legendary LGBT Center 40th Anniversary with Broadway for Arts Education playing the iconic role of “Ned Weeks”. Having just returned from teaching two sold out Master Classes in Frankfurt Germany, Matthew is looking forward to his 25th season teaching in NYC, Miami and internationally.

Pick up Matthew’s book IF YOU SURVIVED 7TH GRADE, YOU CAN BE AN ACTOR (Applying the Meisner Technique to Get out of Your Head in Acting and in Life), in paperback, ebook or audio narrated by Matthew.

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About Tim:

With more than 60,000 coaching sessions and 40+ years in the business, audition coach and premiere acting teacher Tim Phillips knows what works.

Audition For Your Career, Not The Job was written after 30 years of teaching and designed as a practical manual for the working actor. What Phillips is after are moment-by-moment, clear, specific, human truths that make you unavoidable on stage and screen, from character.

Tim Phillips ignited the careers of Emmy award-winning Richard Schiff, Golden Globe nominee Wendy Malick, Nancy Travis, the excellent Robert Wisdom, James DuMont, Bruce Nozick (...) and many others. He's also helped catapult countless actors into more satisfying, long-term, confident careers.

Today, based out of Atlanta, he brings decades of NYC and LA-based experience to artists of every caliber across the country and now, thanks to Zoom, the globe. He coaches privately over the phone, via Zoom, and through Facetime.

Phillips' ethic and his teaching is human, individual, specific, and immediately applicable.

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About Risa:

For the past 4 decades Risa has worked consistently as a director, producer, casting director, writer, and teacher, and is a founder of The BGB Studio, a training space and artistic home for actors. She’s had the great fortune to have collaborated with some of the most talented, passionate, and groundbreaking artists in the world. She’s continued to move successfully from one arena to another – from theatre to film to television and back. With two feature films in her directorial body of work – the cult classic, 200 CIGARETTES, and more recently, THE CON ARTIST, made in Canada, Risa’s also directed in television, including multiple episodes of THE TWILIGHT ZONE for the WB, and several shows for HBO, Lifetime, and Comedy Central.

Risa has cast some of the most memorable movies of the past 40 years. Risa’s résumé includes decades of classics such as DESPERATELY SEEKING SUSAN, SOMETHING WILD, THE JOY LUCK CLUB, TRUE ROMANCE, ANGEL HEART, FATAL ATTRACTION, BORN ON THE FOURTH OF JULY, JFK, WALL STREET, TALK RADIO, THE DOORS, SPEED, JACOB’S LADDER, AT CLOSE RANGE, SNEAKERS, HOW TO MAKE AN AMERICAN QUILT, DEAD PRESIDENTS, TWISTER, BENNY AND JOON, and FLIRTING WITH DISASTER.

She’s cast numerous television shows and pilots, including ROSEANNE, CSI: NY, all four seasons of the Showtime series MASTERS OF SEX, THE AFFAIR, and SEAL TEAM.

Risa served as a Producer on Oliver Stone’s films HEAVEN AND EARTH and NATURAL BORN KILLERS, movies she also cast.

Risa’s directed dozens of plays in New York (The Ensemble Studio Theatre, The Second Stage, Manhattan Theatre Club) and in Los Angeles. She calls The Ensemble Studio Theatre her original artistic home, where she’s been a member in NY for decades, producing and directing several years of the flagship festival MARATHON OF ONE-ACT PLAYS. And she founded EST-LA, a thriving Los Angeles theatre company.

Read her full bio HERE.