Trust is an essential part of the foundation in your marriage, but what happens when that foundation cracks—or even shatters? Maybe you’ve been hurt by the person you thought would always protect your heart. Perhaps betrayal, harsh words, or neglect have left you questioning everything. Can trust ever be rebuilt? Should you even try? If you’ve found yourself asking these questions, you’re not alone. Broken trust can feel overwhelming, leaving you guarded, uncertain, and even hopeless. But this doesn’t have to be the end of your story. There is hope for healing, even in the deepest wounds. Wives, we know that you have every reason to not trust your husband again: You might get hurt again. Even if your husband is making changes, doubts linger. What if he goes back to his old ways? What if he’s only changing to get something from me? Emotional wounds take time to heal. Maybe arguments, harsh words, or emotional distance have left you wondering: If I trust him again, will the hurt just continue? [Dear wife, please know this is in reference to emotional hurt. If physical abuse is part of your story, your safety must come first. God’s heart breaks for your pain, and He wants you to be safe. Please seek help from trusted organizations or individuals who can support you. He has been Untrustworthy in the Past Maybe your husband has broken your trust—whether it’s with finances, responsibilities, or even his faithfulness. Perhaps he’s been judgmental, leaving you feeling small and unseen. Or maybe his words have torn you down so often that you’ve built a wall to protect your heart. Your feelings are valid. The wounds are real, and they cut deep. But alongside these fears, could it also be worth asking: Are there unmet needs—on both sides—that are contributing to the pain? Here is what we want to make sure all of our readers know: Wives & Husbands need different things to thrive in a marriage. Wives need to feel safe, known, and whole-heartedly cherished. This isn’t just about physical safety; it’s emotional too. You need to feel that your thoughts, feelings, and dreams can be shared without fear of criticism or rejection. When this safety is missing, it’s hard to open your heart. Husbands need respect, admiration, and whole-hearted sexual intimacy. Many husbands feel deeply loved when they are respected and admired. If emotional safety hasn’t been on your husband’s radar, it’s possible he didn’t fully understand how much you needed it. Husbands, if you didn’t know- now you do. Use this information well and for the strengthening of your marriage and your relationship with your wife. Now that we’ve covered the reasons why you shouldn’t trust your husbands and the different needs wives and husbands have, let’s talk about the reasons why you absolutely should trust your husband and exactly how to do so. Wives, here are the reasons to trust your husband and how to do it: Forgive. “Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, ‘Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?’ Jesus answered, ‘I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.’” (Matthew 18:21-22) “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.” (Matthew 6:14-15) Forgiveness is not easy, but it’s a choice that honors God and opens the door for transformation. Your Husband Cannot Thrive in a Home Filled with Unforgiveness When bitterness fills a home, it’s hard for anyone to grow. No one can thrive in a home filled with distrust or condemnation- including your husband. If you want your marriage, your husband, and you to thrive, there must be forgiveness and there must be trust. Forgiveness and Trust Allows Room for Change The changes you long to see will not happen in a home filled with unforgiveness. Offering forgiveness allows him the room to step into the man God is calling him to be. What motivation does he currently have to lead if every attempt to do so is met with distrust? Forgive him. Trust him. And give him that room to grow into who God is calling him to be. By the grace of God, we have seen marriages transform in our program. We have seen wives forgive, give their husbands grace, and husbands in turn rise up and begin to lead and begin to love their wives well again- even better than when they were dating! We have seen it time and again. We know that it’s possible and we believe that it is possible for you too. Forgive as Christ forgave you. We love you and we are rooting for you! God bless you! Love, Belah & Team PS - If you want to start making this change in your marriage but don’t know how, we would love to chat with you: delightym.com/cc PPS - Here is a testimonial from a recent graduate: "Before DYM there was a lot of tension and stress in our marriage and ...
