Interview with Jan & Jillian Yuhas: Mastering Boundaries for Personal and Professional Growth Episode Summary: In this episode, Dr. Allen Lycka welcomes Jan and Jillian Yuhas, relationship and conflict resolution consultants, and international best-selling authors of the book Boundary Badass. The Yuhas twins share their journey from a small-town upbringing to becoming experts in boundary setting, and they discuss the significance of boundaries in maintaining healthy relationships. They also delve into the differences between boundaries and ultimatums, the role of self-awareness, and offer practical advice for teaching children about boundaries. Key Topics Discussed: 1. Introduction to Jan and Jillian Yuhas Background: Raised in a rural farm town and later moved to a metropolitan city.Career Path: Volunteering at a crisis hotline led to their interest in mediation and conflict resolution.Professional Credentials: Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy, certified mediators, and authors. 2. Understanding Boundaries Personal Experience: Moving from a small town to a big city highlighted their need for stronger boundaries.Key Insight: Boundaries are essential for self-respect and maintaining healthy relationships. 3. Differences Between Boundaries and Ultimatums Boundaries: Negotiating shared values and creating mutual respect in relationships.Ultimatums: Imposing demands that can damage trust and breed resentment. 4. The 'We' Mindset vs. the 'Me' Mindset 'Me' Mindset: Ego-driven, focusing solely on personal needs and wants.'We' Mindset: Collaborative, focusing on shared goals and mutual respect. 5. The ASAP Method for Setting Boundaries Acronym: Assess, Set, Agree, Proceed.Application: Addressing boundary violations promptly to maintain relationship integrity. 6. The Impact of Cultural and Familial Backgrounds on Boundaries Influence: Many people learn boundary-setting skills later in life due to lack of education in this area during childhood.Future Outlook: Society is increasingly recognizing the importance of boundaries, especially for children. 7. Boundaries in Long-Term Relationships Evolving Needs: Boundaries must adapt as individuals and relationships grow.Professional Application: Setting clear communication boundaries in business relationships. 8. Teaching Children About Boundaries Strategies: Use simple language, teach emotional regulation, and help children identify and articulate their values.Importance: Early education on boundaries can lead to healthier adult relationships. 9. Self-Awareness and Boundary Setting Self-Reflection: Understanding personal limits, emotional triggers, and values is crucial for effective boundary setting.Building Self-Esteem: Daily actions aligned with personal values help rebuild confidence and self-trust. 10. Boundaries for a Fantastic Life Personal Growth: Boundaries provide emotional freedom, inner peace, and ease in navigating life's challenges.Professional Success: Clear boundaries lead to better communication, cooperation, and collaboration. BIO: Jan Yuhas, M.A., MFT and Jillian Yuhas, M.A., MFT are Relationship and Conflict Resolution Consultants, and international best-selling authors of Boundary Badass: A Powerful Method For Elevating Your Value and Relationships. Jan and Jillian have coached highly ambitious entrepreneurs, companies, and families for more than a decade on building stronger relationships, elevating growth, and mastering the art of setting boundaries both personally and professionally. Social Media: IG: https://www.instagram.com/janandjillian/ https://www.instagram.com/twentyeightconsultancy/ Book Link: https://a.co/d/ckG4Rli Website: janandjillian.com / twentyeightconsultancy.com FB: https://www.facebook.com/janandjillian LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/janyuhas/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/jillianyuhas/
