Fiji and Autumn check in this week with Revolt world, new jobs, seasonal allergies, and being off my meds.

Next, we dive into this week’s podcast/ video essay topic: sugar dating.

We’re talking: The history of sugar dating, types of sugar daddies, Seeking, transactional relationships, who are sugar babies, Lola, The Girlfriend Experience, how we portray sex workers in the media, sugar baby experiences, tiktok creators giving how to advice, the glamorization of sugar dating, the realities of sugar dating, listener stories, and more!👀

Suggested episodes:

https://youtu.be/j3GlbzodE0k?si=Bv6aclJl-O6FB5eU

https://youtu.be/ncTa7JTXDhw?si=tIiDWZsMg9au5IHP

https://youtu.be/Y1kRMxoO6Uc?si=cRBG4-T_vvLHyASy

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Sources:

https://docs.google.com/document/d/1AjX2_2R7NBr-S-iszG1Tc0GPM_ud2R6ALLzxici6-H4/edit

Intro 00:00:00 - 00:03:33

What’s got us s0 wet and s0 dry this week 00:03:33 - 00:09:04

Defining sugar relationships and the history of sugar relationships 00:09:04 - 00:28:48

Sugar relationship stats 00:28:48 - 00:50:07

Types of sugar daddies 00:50:07 - 00:59:53

The power dynamics of sugar relationships 00:59:53 - 01:16:23

Breaking down Seeking the sugar daddy app 01:16:23 - 01:27:46

Sugar baby and benefactor experiences 01:27:46 - 02:06:54

The Girlfriend Experience 02:06:54 - 02:14:55

The problem with sugar baby tiktok and glamorization 02:14:55 - 02:29:34

The stigma around sugar dating 02:29:34 - 02:50:45

What’s got us wet, dry, and still confused about sugar relationships 02:50:45 - 03:03:48

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Autumn (host, editor)

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twitter: @autumnkaira

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Fiji (host, editor)

instagram: @s0wet

twitter: @s0wet

tiktok: @fijithesiren

youtube: @s0wet

Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist)

instagram: @xlaomedia

email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com

A.I.R. (Music Producer)

instagram: @airgoincrazy

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Fiji and Autumn check in this week with finding literature and arts events in Atlanta, love from our supporters, technical difficulties, and missing stripping.

Next, we dive into this week’s topic: humiliation content and the influencer to OnlyFans pipeline.

We’re talking: the LMS for a rate era, smash or pass, top OnlyFans earners, is OnlyFans easy work?, influencers struggling to make money, the rise in popularity of OnlyFans, 20 girls 1 rapper, pop the balloon, promo opportunities, what humiliation content says about our society, the impact on the black community, male validation, natural bodies vs BBLs, does this content reflect the dating scene?, using the system to your advantage, Huak Tuah, the downsides of OnlyFans, the whatever podcast, the manosphere, incels, ant-sex work beliefs, listener stories, and more!👀

Suggested episodes:

https://youtu.be/6fHrPNyd0jw?si=0VzFI8QENED37ZI5

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ncTa7JTXDhw&t=2273s

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lb035NeGKLs&t=6103s

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bWGww4hdgp4&t=1689s

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Sources: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1HcxSQ-3dxNBhf18OElcFzhqLfgmHSs6jn1rYg7V9Ts0/edit

Survival is a Promise: The Eternal Life of Audre Lorde by Alexis Pauline Gumbs: https://www.amazon.com/Survival-Promise-Eternal-Audre-Lorde-ebook/dp/B0CV41CBD8

Intro 00:00:00-00:02:33

What’s got us s0 wet and s0 dry this week 00:02:33 - 00:09:51

Early stages of dating/ relationship content 00:09:51 - 00:12:30

Some background and history of OnlyFans and the Influencer to OnlyFans pipeline 00:12:30 - 00:37:10

New age dating content aka humiliation content: 20 girls 1 rapper, pop the balloon, and more 00:37:10 - 01:33:56

Why do women do onlyfans? 01:33:56 - 02:02:09

Manosphere podcasts and onlyfans creators 02:02:09 - 02:40:56

Humiliation and onlyfans content’’s impact on society 02:40:56 - 02:59:28

Wrap Up: What’s got us wet, dry, and still confused about the topic 02:59:28 - 03:15:39

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Fiji (host, editor)

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twitter: @s0wet

tiktok: @fijithesiren

youtube: @s0wet

Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist)

instagram: @xlaomedia

email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com

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instagram: @airgoincrazy

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Fiji and Autumn check in this week with finding new events in the city, sex dreams, high levels of stress, and another quarter life crisis

Next, we dive into this week’s topic: the pursuit of beauty and the paradox of effortlessness.

We’re talking: beauty sickness, the double-bind of beauty, our early memories of beauty, are men beautiful?, beauty vs comfort, pretty privilege, the art of beauty, is beauty anti-feminist?, white-washed beauty standards, how to engage in beauty in a healthy way, natural beauty vs botox beauty, Love Island UK, plastic surgeon tiktok, beauty influencers, anti-aging products, why the media doesn’t want older women, the cost of beauty, Kylie Jenner, the feeling of being perceived, the correlations between botox and relationships, perception drift, listener stories, and more!👀

Suggested episodes:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hu2NZI-oK_E&t=3268s

https://youtu.be/6fHrPNyd0jw?si=0VzFI8QENED37ZI5

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Sources: https://docs.google.com/document/d/15KMnnC5F9caehTM6z4c34ye2fEf05wBRXKEE6hTV5iM/edit

Intro 00:00:00- 00:02:42

What’s got us s0 wet and s0 dry this week 00:02:42 - 00:08:13

What is the pursuit of beauty? 00:08:13 - 00:17:11

Would life be better if we weren’t in pursuit of beauty? 00:17:11 -00:29:00

Should women live in the pursuit of beauty? 00:29:00 - 00:36:00

Beauty obsession and beauty sickness 00:36:00 - 00:51:47

Plastic surgery and reality TV 00:51:47 - 01:18:48

The double-bind of beauty and the allure of effortlessness 01:18:48 - 01:37:06

Who is to blame? 01:37:06 - 01:58:23

The Correlations between Botox and Relationships 01:58:23 -02:09:24

Wrap up: What’s got us wet, dry, and confused about the topic 02:09:24 02:19:53

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Autumn (host, editor)

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twitter: @autumnkaira

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Fiji (host, editor)

instagram: @s0wet

twitter: @s0wet

tiktok: @fijithesiren

youtube: @s0wet

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instagram: @airgoincrazy

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Fiji and Autumn check in this week with F.D Signifier’s video essays, How I Met Your Mother, free online concerts, a failed night out, and having a hard time sleeping.

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Next, we dive into this week’s topic: trauma dumping and oversharing as entertainment.

We’re talking: The gendered and internet history of “oversharing”, oversharing memes, social media as a third space, finstas, the right to tell your story, storytelling as an art form, profiting off of oversharing/ trauma dumping, Reesa Tessa, Brooke Schofield, Who tf did I marry, Hayley Baylee, truth vs fiction, creators as entrepreneurs/ artists, put a finger down tiktok, Tana Mongeau, Alex Cooper and Call Her Daddy, exploiting your life for money, watching creators grow up in real-time, the addiction loop of posting, the trauma plot, the traumaification of reality tv, Joey the Bachelor, the trauma candy salad, does trauma make you funny?, listener stories, and more!👀

Suggested episodes:

https://youtu.be/6fHrPNyd0jw?si=0VzFI8QENED37ZI5

https://youtu.be/Rclk6K9alZU?si=tiHDOPTPtiW2-uCC

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Sources: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Oq68JJ_-Vg54a29_BsvhVLsGxncw5UMlyBEFTzNqdkQ/edit

Intro 00:00:00 - 00:02:41

What’s got us s0 wet and s0 dry this week 00:02:41 - 00:08:13

The gendered and internet history of “oversharing” 00:08:13 - 00:13:15

What is oversharing online? 00:13:15 - 00:25:53

Who tf did I marry tiktok: the ethics of oversharing and trauma dumping as storytelling 00:25:53 - 00:39:50

The rise of the storytime era: Tana Mongeau and Oversharing as storytelling 00:39:50 - 00:47:51

The addiction loop of exploiting yourself online and monetizing oversharing: Call Her Daddy 00:47:51 - 01:06:47

The case against the trauma plot: personal testimony as art and the traumaification of reality tv 01:06:47 - 01:51:53

The regularization of trauma dumping on tiktok: trauma candy salads and other trends 01:51:53 - 02:13:32

The audience for trauma dumping and the intention of the creator 02:13:32 - 02:33:31

What’s got us wet, dry, and still confused about trauma dumping and oversharing as entertainment 02:33:31 - 02:49:23

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Autumn (host, editor)

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Fiji (host, editor)

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twitter: @s0wet

tiktok: @fijithesiren

youtube: @s0wet

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Fiji and Autumn check in this week with money trees exploding, meeting Drew Afualo, projectile vomiting on my bathroom floor, and breaking someone’s window. . Next, we dive into this week’s topic: dating paranoia content. We’re talking: Ellen Degeneres, coming out back in the day, are there more queer women now than ever?, lesbian icons, Jojo Siwa, Shea Mitchell, Billie Eilish, coming out casually, being outed, Becca Moore and Shannon Beveridge, Becca Tilley and Hayley Kiyoko, hard launches vs soft launches, Renee Rapp, Mean Girls, Chappell Roan, queer representation in the media, Julia Fox, is being queer trendy?, the backlash from queer culture becoming more mainstream, trans representation,listener stories, and more!👀 Suggested episode: https://youtu.be/LJ__usfbGuA?si=-mCnbQ4_ljt5UvET Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵 Sources: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1SQh4ioILedj6OXP-vxesBx7G9ehO6YcvbJ23HxZnZ4Q/edit Intro 00:00:00 - 00:01:53 What’s got us s0 wet and s0 dry this week 00:01:53 - 00:10:33 How coming out has changed 00:10:33 -00:15:21 Are lesbians thriving right now? 00:15:21 - 00:24:20 Coming out casually 00:24:20 - 00:49:49 How is so many people coming out effecting the culture? 00:49:49 - 01:14:08 The pressure to come out: is it easier now than ever? 01:14:08 - 01:15:26 What’s got us wet, dry, and still confused about the topic 01:15:26 - 01:39:29 follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry the s0 wet s0 dry team: Autumn (host, editor) instagram: @autumnkaira twitter: @autumnkaira tiktok: @autumnkaira Fiji (host, editor) instagram: @s0wet twitter: @s0wet tiktok: @fijithesiren youtube: @s0wet Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist) instagram: @xlaomedia email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com A.I.R. (Music Producer) instagram: @airgoincrazy

Fiji and Autumn check in this week with people testing me, Wednesday, Wicked, good conversations, Brooke Schofield and Clinton Kane, and decision-making paralysis.

Next, we dive into this week’s topic: dating paranoia content.

We’re talking: Relationship paranoia, trust issues, the orange peel theory, the bird test, the strawberry test, the invisible string theory, If he wanted to he would, tiktok relationship theories and tests, the bar is on the floor culture, embarrassing your partner online, rage bait, women’s unvoiced needs, how women are socialized, the comment section, comparing your relationship to what you see online, airplane guy, new fears unlocked, cheating paranoia, hurt people, Shera Seven, The Wizard Liz, Manifestelle, high-value men and women, manifestation, parasocial relationships, the patriarchy, media literacy, the gender wars, listener stories, and more!👀

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Sources: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1sFMxcCCJ-lh603rwUWAN4pqNWcG0BZ0ZZoAV5VEc31Q/edit

Intro 00:00:00 - 00:01:35

What’s got us s0 wet and s0 dry this week 00:01:35 - 00:08:16

Where type of sex and relationship content are people consuming the most? 00:08:16 - 00:12:52

What is dating paranoia content? 00:12:52 - 00:16:51

If he wanted to he would and tiktok relationship theories and tests 00:16:51 - 00:49:32

Cheating paranoia content on tikTok: story times, horror stories, red flags 00:49:32 - 01:20:17

Guru Girlies: Manifestelle, Shera Seven, and The Wizard Liz 01:20:17 - 01:48:29

Dating paranoia content’s impact on the culture 01:48:29 - 02:11:40

What’s got us wet, dry, and still confused about dating paranoia content 02:11:40 - 02:27:25

Songs used:

Darker Than This-13856 by Emile Mosseri

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Autumn (host, editor)

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twitter: @autumnkaira

tiktok: @autumnkaira

Fiji (host, editor)

instagram: @s0wet

twitter: @s0wet

tiktok: @fijithesiren

youtube: @s0wet

Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist)

instagram: @xlaomedia

email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com

A.I.R. (Music Producer)

instagram: @airgoincrazy

Fiji and Autumn check in this week with a new tattoo, Billie Eilish, Bear, and allergic reactions.

Next, we dive into this week’s topic: political apathy and dating someone with different political views than your own, is it possible?

We’re talking: Mistaking limerence for love, parasocial relationships, projecting onto other people, what limerence fills in your life, queer yearning, sapphic limerence, unrequited love, crushes on straight people, falling for someone before you know that you’re compatible, when love is super intense, putting people on a pedestal, ups and downs in relationships, advice for people experiencing limerence, listener stories, and more!👀

Suggested episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DB7lnTs-K8A&t=1s Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵 Sources: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Hgth5uPnVsxLqwaHeCoKHRvECAM64c6t3bsG96vBiwk/edit

Intro 00:00:00 - 00:02:07

What’s got us s0 wet and s0 dry this week 00:02:07 - 00:10:13

What is limerence? Love vs limerence 00:10:13 - 00:34:25

How our culture encourages limerence 00:34:25 - 00:42:28

When is limerence fun vs harmful? 00:42:28 - 00:52:18

The queer yearn and sapphic limerence 00:52:18 -01:15:49

Putting people on a pedestal and ups and downs in relationships 01:15:49 - 01:28:58

Advice for people experiencing limerence 01:28:58 - 01:39:22

What’s got us wet, dry, and still confused about limerence 01:39:22 - 01:51:52

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Autumn (host, editor)

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twitter: @autumnkaira

tiktok: @autumnkaira

Fiji (host, editor)

instagram: @s0wet

twitter: @s0wet

tiktok: @fijithesiren

youtube: @s0wet

Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist)

instagram: @xlaomedia

email: xlaomedi4@gmail.com

A.I.R. (Music Producer)

instagram: @airgoincrazy