In this episode, we are going to have a heartfelt conversation about toxic positivity—how it’s different from healthy optimism and how it can inadvertently shut down the very people we want to support. We’ll explore the harm caused by well-meaning platitudes that dismiss or minimize real pain. You’ll hear honest reflections on how insisting that someone “look on the bright side” or focus on “gratitude” can deepen their isolation, making them feel unseen and unheard. None of us are immune: sometimes, we’ve been on the receiving end of toxic positivity, and sometimes, we’ve dished it out simply because we didn’t know what else to say.

But this conversation doesn’t stop at pointing out the problem—it offers a roadmap toward deeper compassion, connection, and genuine emotional presence. We’ll find practical ways to sit with discomfort instead of rushing to fix or gloss over it and how to gently speak up when someone’s overly positive approach feels hurtful. True acceptance allows us to hold space for all parts of ourselves and others—whether we’re feeling strong, scared, angry, or anything in between. By the end of the episode, my hope is that you’ll feel encouraged to explore your own habits, communicate your needs more openly, and cultivate healthier, more authentic relationships.

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Let's explore the pressures of “new year, new me,” the illusion of control, and how life rarely follows our carefully laid plans while making room for compassion—both toward ourselves and others—when setbacks and unexpected detours arise. Throughout this episode, we'll question the stories we tell ourselves about “deserving” or “earning” hardship, and find the hidden gifts in uncertainty. Let's move through life’s inevitable twists and turns with more kindness, curiosity, and acceptance.

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Discover the transformative power of the age-old adage "Keep what you have by giving it away.” In this episode, we explore how this simple yet profound concept can shift our perspective on self, relationships, limitations, deprivation, boundaries, motives, and life's challenges. Through candid anecdotes and reflections, we identify opportunities to apply this principle in everyday situations, from navigating workplace dynamics to facing fears of scarcity and loss. With thought-provoking insights and practical guidance, this episode prompts introspection, encouraging listeners to examine their motives, challenge ingrained beliefs, and cultivate a mindset of abundance and interconnectedness. Tune in to discover how the act of giving can lead to profound personal growth and meaningful connections in both expected and unexpected ways.

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“If the only tool you have in your emotional toolkit is a hammer, then everything in your life will look like a nail.”

Explore the depths of emotional sobriety and learn practical tools to navigate life's challenges and opportunities with serenity, empathy, and resilience. From professional endeavors to personal relationships, discover how emotional sobriety can transform our approach to conflict, self-awareness, and compassion. Tune in for actionable insights and real-life examples on this liberating journey toward emotional sobriety.

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This week, I spoke with Dylan Hundley, an artist, mother, punk, and lover. Dylan is the lead singer of the New York post-punk/new wave band Lulu Lewis. We discuss mental health, including addiction, PTSD, and panic disorder, the importance of creating spaces where people feel seen, heard, and valued, the transformative power of extending a compassionate hand to others (and ourselves), and the liberating (and sometimes profoundly challenging) experience of letting go, whether that is a relationship, a job, or even a version of ourselves that no longer fits. Dylan shares about the impact of trauma, the healing work that brings us back to life, and the surprising opportunity to meet new and unexpected versions of ourselves. P.S. Her love letter made me cry

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Is wellness an extra treat we allow ourselves when we think we deserve it, or is it sustainable, transformative, and nourishing? Does our healing journey have to be aesthetic and social media-friendly to be impactful? I spoke with Sabrina Rollo of @VigorAndSage (https://www.instagram.com/vigorandsage) about how so many of the lessons we learn through holistic practices have clear applications in our everyday lives, including boundaries, mindfulness, and creating sustainable practices and supportive communities that align with the reality of our lives. We explore the beauty and challenges associated with witnessing real-life trauma and transformations and the complex (and often misunderstood) nature of healing. Very rarely is it a one-time event. Can we show up for ourselves and others with empathy and understanding when we are hit with yet another wave of shame and grief? Learn more about Sabrina at https://www.vigorandsage.com/.

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I decided to share more about my recent journey of navigating life on life’s terms, including medical emergencies, relationships, fears, and judgments, while contemplating the power of showing up with willingness and compassion. Let’s explore our struggles with societal expectations of how and when we choose to do this, the healing power of surrender, and the transformative experience of challenging our habitual judgments. We’ll unpack the mental chatter that prevents us from setting down our emotional weapons and embracing vulnerability, curiosity, and generosity in daily interactions, highlighting that growth happens when we show up authentically and extend understanding to ourselves and others, even in the face of uncertainty. This episode is an invitation to reflect on how assumptions shape our perceptions and the potential for positive change when we choose empathy and connection over judgment.

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Is it possible to find self-acceptance and wholeness in relationships, workplaces, and locations where we don’t belong? The relationship is ending, we need to find a new job, and we should have started packing our things and looking for a new home weeks ago. Instead of tenderly connecting with our wholeness, our flaws, or the parts of ourselves we’re insecure about, we lean into perfectionism. We attempt to control outcomes and not let anyone see that our outsides don’t match our insides. We’ve all had moments where we felt out of place and encountered self-doubt and fear, and burned ourselves out in the pursuit of perfection. Every one of us has gone to extreme lengths to fit into certain areas of our lives, to connect with people or groups where, in order to stay, we had to wear a mask, and it was incredibly heavy. In this episode, we explore how uncomfortable, self-denying, and self-defeating it is to force something to work when it is clearly not working. Instead of shaming ourselves for not fitting in, we offer a tender invitation and acknowledgment that maybe the mess of our very human experience, the parts of ourselves we’d rather hide, are exactly what the world needs. Let’s rediscover the inherent worthiness of simply being our authentic selves.

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