• YNMF Spring Recap - Overcoming Challenges and Embracing Growth
    Jun 11 2024

    In this episode, Thomas Greenman shares personal stories about his daughter being bullied and his desire to be a positive influence in the lives of children. He discusses the importance of standing up for your children and being involved in their lives. Thomas also opens up about his relationship with his estranged son and his hope for reconciliation. He reflects on the blessings in his life and his desire to mentor and support children who may not have a strong father figure. Thomas contemplates his role as a guitarist and seeks guidance on God's plan for him. In this conversation, Thomas Greenman discusses his journey of finding purpose and fulfillment through serving in his church and taking control of his health. He shares his experiences of joining the worship team, volunteering in children's ministry, and hiring a new employee for his business. Thomas also opens up about his struggles with weight and his recent diagnosis of borderline diabetes, and how he is taking steps to improve his health through the keto diet and exercise.


    Keywords: bullying, fatherhood, mentorship, estranged son, blessings, guitar, God's plan, purpose, fulfillment, serving, church, worship team, children's ministry, hiring, business, weight struggles, diabetes, keto diet, exercise


    Takeaways:

    • Stand up for your children and protect them from bullying and abuse.
    • Be involved in your children's lives and provide a positive influence.
    • Pray for and reach out to estranged family members, offering love and support.
    • Count your blessings and be grateful for the people who have made a positive impact in your life.
    • Consider how you can mentor and support children who may not have a strong father figure.
    • Seek guidance from God on your purpose and how to use your talents for His plan. Finding purpose and fulfillment can come from serving others and being involved in meaningful activities.
    • Taking control of one's health is important for overall well-being and can lead to a more fulfilling life.
    • Challenges and setbacks can be opportunities for growth and self-improvement.
    • Having faith and trusting in God's plan can provide strength and motivation during difficult times.


    Sound Bites:

    • "Stand up for your children, be the father that you need to be."
    • "I still pray that he's doing well and that someday I'll get a chance to be a part of his life."
    • "Instead of adopting one child, I'm adopting all these kids that are going to come through our lives over the years."
    • "We're all just a bunch of kids rolling around with beards or responsibilities and jobs and stuff like that."
    • "I'm doing something that actually is impactful in somebody else's life. I'm helping them."
    • "I gave him a chance that I don't think anybody else would."


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    56 mins
  • YNMF Interview: The Real Tyler Young
    May 13 2024

    This Week on You’re Not My Father: Building Resilience & Finding Strength in Family with Tyler Young

    Entrepreneur and father Tyler Young joins host Thomas Greenman for an inspiring conversation about family, overcoming challenges, and finding success.

    Key Takeaways:

    • Tyler's mom's strength, raising three boys while one battled leukemia, shaped his view on life.
    • His father, a hardworking role model, taught him to tackle challenges.
    • He learned to embrace discomfort and push through fear of failure.
    • Empathy and emotional control are key to healthy relationships (he teaches his son this!).
    • Choose a supportive partner who challenges you, prioritizing children's well-being.
    • Live in the present and make lasting memories.

    Looking for guidance on resilience, overcoming challenges, and building strong relationships? This episode is for you!

    Sound Bites

    "I had a crazy amazing mother growing up. She took on the world. She had three boys. Me and my younger brother are only 16 months apart. She had her oldest, my older brother diagnosed leukemia at 23 months while she was pregnant with me."

    "My dad is my hero. My dad is my best friend, but he wasn't always. And he is today. My dad is an example of what it is to be a man, a father, a husband, and he did it through very challenging times."

    "My dad is one of those people I could tell everything. He never was jealous. He never talked down to me. He only lifted me up."

    "I lost all my talent, just like in Space Jam."

    "I have nerves, which is different. Fear can stop you in your tracks."

    "If you match and mirror that upsetness, you're only going to lead to more conflict and frustration for yourself."



    Chapters

    00:00

    Introduction and Background

    02:02

    The Strength of a Mother

    03:19

    A Father's Influence

    12:36

    Lessons from Tyler's Dad

    30:08

    Navigating Personal Challenges

    33:49

    Overcoming Fear of Failure and Embracing Discomfort

    35:44

    Teaching Empathy and Emotional Control to Children

    37:19

    The Importance of Trust and Commitment in Marriage

    41:37

    Choosing a Partner Who Prioritizes Children

    45:28

    Living in the Present and Creating Meaningful Memories

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    1 hr and 4 mins
  • The Impact Fathers Have on Shaping Your Character with Travis Hare - YNMF XXL Edition
    Apr 23 2024

    In this XXL episode, we explore the importance of father figures in Thomas Greenman's interview with Travis Hare. Travis describes his close relationship with his hearing-impaired father, who instilled in him the value of family and prioritizing relationships. He shares anecdotes about his unconventional but loving upbringing, highlighting his parents' selflessness and teamwork. Travis reflects on his father's battle with cancer and the strength he displayed. Stay until the end ot hear them discuss why its critical to understand each other, the importance of physical touch in any relationship, and the challenges and rewards of parenting.

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    2 hrs and 5 mins
  • Parenting Advice with Tyler Young of Tonic POS - YNMF
    Mar 11 2024

    In this episode, Thomas Greenman interviews Tyler Young, CEO & Founder at VersiTech and Tonic POS & BOLD Integrated Payments - he’s even a listener of the show! They discuss the purpose of the podcast and the importance of taking it seriously. Together, they explore a ton of challenges that father’s work through not just with themselves but their children. Come for the deep dive in parental advice and stay for Tyler’s master class on eating Ben & Jerry’s Ice Cream. This is one episode you don’t want to miss! Takeaways: * This podcast means something - I need to take it seriously and commit to its purpose * Tough love is important in raising children and helping them develop resilience * Children can teach valuable lessons and inspire personal growth * Recording personal stories and experiences can create a lasting legacy * Preparation and intentionality are key in delivering meaningful podcast episodes * Childhood toys can hold deeper lessons and memories *GO JOE!* * Accepting change and being authentic are essential for personal growth Words have a significant impact on children's confidence and self-esteem. * Building confidence in children requires understanding their unique personalities and adapting parenting approaches accordingly. * Balancing confidence and humility is essential in raising well-rounded individuals. * Compassion plays a crucial role in teaching children to care for others. * Rebuilding a relationship with an estranged child requires effort, understanding, and humility. Financial challenges can arise when discovering and navigating fatherhood, but it is important to do what it takes to be involved in your child's life. * Fighting for your child is crucial, even if the other parent does not agree. Show up, be respectful, and be determined to be there for your child. * Consistency and compassion are key in building a strong relationship with your child. Be there for them, even if they are not ready to acknowledge or accept you. * Educate yourself and seek advice from mentors to overcome the fear and uncertainty of fatherhood. Surround yourself with good people who can support and guide you. * Being present and consistent in your child's life can have a profound impact on their well-being and development. Show them unconditional love and support. * Enjoy the journey of parenthood and explore life with your children. Be open to new experiences and learn from the challenges and joys of raising a family. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 03:44 The Purpose of the Podcast 06:35 The Importance of Tough Love 10:07 Learning from Children 12:46 The Origins of 'You're Not My Father' 23:48 The Deep Conversation about G.I. Joe 26:00 Accepting Change and Being Authentic 27:34 Losing Hair and Embracing Change 28:55 The Impact of Words 29:18 Building Confidence in Children 32:03 Insecurities and Impact 33:00 Different Approaches for Different Children 35:33 Balancing Confidence and Humility 38:36 Helping Children Learn Compassion 45:32 The Struggle of Being Estranged from a Child 53:08 Advice for Rebuilding a Relationship 56:23 The Financial Burden 57:15 The Importance of Fighting for Your Child 58:09 Advice for New Parents 01:00:09 The Emotional Toll 01:01:30 Lessons Learned 01:04:34 The Power of Being There 01:06:05 Consistency and Compassion 01:09:19 The Role of a Father 01:10:09 The Importance of Trying Harder 01:12:26 Being Present for Our Children 01:15:06 Protecting Our Children from Hurt 01:18:09 The Impact of Consistency 01:19:01 The Art of Eating Ben & Jerry's 01:23:25 Exploring Life and Parenthood

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    1 hr and 23 mins
  • The Story of Brandon - A Real Life Email Story - YNMF
    Mar 8 2024

    The story of Brandon revolves around the misuse of my email address by a complete stranger and my initial frustration with the situation which I really, really, want to throw gasoline onto!. However, as the story unfolds, I soften up and notice the similarities between me and Brandon. Sure it'd be easy to turn this into a funny viral moment but what if I did something else? Takeaways: * Everyone makes mistakes and deserves grace and understanding. * Reflecting on our own imperfections can help us empathize with others. * Extending kindness and guidance can have a positive impact on someone's life. * The story of Brandon serves as a metaphor for the importance of treating strangers with kindness and understanding. Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Background 00:31 The Story of Brandon Begins 01:21 Brandon's Misuse of the Email Address 04:08 The Temptation to Respond 05:04 Reflection on Similarities with Brandon 06:09 Recognizing Imperfections 07:04 The Potential for Growth 08:17 Maturity and Mistakes 09:30 Extending Grace and Guidance 10:07 The Story of Brandon as a Metaphor 11:40 Lessons in Kindness and Understanding

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    11 mins
  • Being a Father to a Daughter in Alaska| YNMF
    Feb 13 2024

    This Alaskan father and daughter duo: Sophia and Thomas, get real with what a Father is to a Daughter (real examples), father/daughter banquet, getting your driver's license, why higher math is a waste of time for most middle and high school students, some lessons from father to son and now to daughter and more! Tell us what you think - don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe.

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    40 mins
  • You're Not My Father! Our first Video Podcast, Flying to Puerto Rico, How I Travel, and the future.
    Feb 7 2024

    @yourenotmyfather 's first VIDEO Podcast! I've been cranking out audio only podcasts for awhile now so we've made the jump. In this episode I give a preview of what my trip to Puerto Rico was like but some of my favorite content is seeing how other people do everyday things - so in this episode I show you how I travel (some of it at least). I also talk about how much of challenge it is moving to video, opening up to others, and a bit of why I'm doing this. I hope you enjoy and learn something!


    Check out our other videos at https://www.youtube.com/@yourenotmyfather

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    40 mins
  • YNMF: Season Finale / Out of Phase
    Jan 20 2024

    It's the end of the season as we know it - and I feel great!

    • End of year vacation recap
    • Carnival cruise - not good for picky sleepers
    • Conch in Bahamas? Bring a flyswatter
    • Memories - do you archive them or hold on to them forever?
    • Phases of life - Frank Sinatra's straight to the point advice
    • My advice - respect the past but down let it drown you
    • Season 6 - the revolution will be televised! On YouTube


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    41 mins