You have not because you ask not.You want something but don't get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive because you ask with wrong motives that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.James 4:2-3Let’s get real. We’re pretty bad at asking for what we need. Think about it—how often do we run around trying to fix our problems on our own, only to end up frustrated, exhausted, and maybe a little hangry? James lays it out for us: “You do not have because you do not ask God.” And even when you do ask, James is like, “Yeah, but are you asking with the right motives?” Ouch. That’s like getting roasted by your favorite Bible verse.Humans are funny creatures, aren’t we? We’ve got this endless list of wants—some of them legit, like food and shelter, and some of them a little questionable, like a personal yacht or the ability to eat donuts without consequences. And what do we do? Instead of asking God, we hustle, we plot, we compare, we scroll through social media, see someone’s perfect life, and suddenly we’re spiraling. James is over here yelling, “Stop fighting and start praying.” But do we listen? Not usually.Here’s the thing: James isn’t against wanting things. He’s just calling out the way we go about it. We work ourselves into the ground, trying to control every outcome, and then wonder why we feel so empty. It’s like trying to assemble IKEA furniture without reading the instructions. Sure, you could do it your way, but you’re probably going to end up with a wobbly table and three leftover screws.Checking Your Motives in PrayerNow let’s talk about prayer. James doesn’t just tell us to pray—he tells us to pray right. And no, that doesn’t mean using fancy King James English or slipping in a “thee” and “thou” for extra points. It means checking your heart. Are you praying for God’s wisdom and guidance, or are you just trying to manifest a new car? God isn’t your personal Amazon Prime, ready to deliver your latest wish in two days or less. He’s looking at the why behind your prayer.This is where things get awkward, because let’s be honest—we’ve all prayed some questionable prayers. You know the ones. Like, “God, if you just let me win the lottery, I’ll totally donate… some of it… probably.” Or, “Lord, please let my boss call in sick so I can have a stress-free day.” James calls these out as praying with the wrong motives. God isn’t in the business of granting selfish wishes or helping you one-up your neighbor. Prayer isn’t about bending God’s will to match yours; it’s about aligning your heart with His.Here’s a fun question: How often do we completely skip the “asking God” step? Be honest. We’ll vent to our friends, write vague posts on Facebook like, “Ugh, today has been the worst,” and then drown our stress in a Netflix binge. Prayer feels too slow or too uncomfortable, so we try to fix everything ourselves. And when that doesn’t work, we treat God like the tech support guy you only call after smashing all the buttons didn’t solve the problem. “Well, nothing else worked—guess I’ll pray now!” No wonder James is like, “You have not because you ask not.”Focus on What Truly MattersBut James doesn’t stop there. He also warns about envy and comparison, and wow, does that hit home. We’re masters of the comparison game. We see someone’s vacation photos and suddenly feel like our whole life is boring. Or we hear about a coworker’s promotion and think, “Why not me?” James is telling us, “Stop it. You’re wasting your time.” Coveting what someone else has isn’t just bad for your soul—it’s a one-way ticket to frustration. Life isn’t about keeping up with the Joneses or one-upping your neighbor. It’s about seeking what God has planned for you.And let’s not forget about the church. Yep, James is coming for us too. How often do churches fall into the same traps? We pray for growth,
