Waking Up to Narcissism

By: Tony Overbay LMFT
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  • "Waking Up to Narcissism" is a podcast hosted by Tony Overbay, LMFT, host of the award-winning Virtual Couch podcast, dedicated to helping individuals recognize and navigate narcissistic traits and tendencies in their relationships and within themselves. With a focus on emotional immaturity versus narcissism, Tony provides tools and guidance for personal growth and managing relationships with narcissistic or emotionally immature individuals, even if that individual is you!
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  • Twas the Season of Emotional Strain: Merry Narcissistic Christmas and Happy Emotionally Immature New Year!

    Twas the Season of Emotional Strain: Merry Narcissistic Christmas and Happy Emotionally Immature New Year!
    Dec 19 2024
    Tony explores the complex dynamics of narcissism and emotional immaturity in a special “Holiday Edition” of the “Death By a Thousand Cuts” series. Through stories shared by listeners, Tony delves into how such behaviors can overshadow festive occasions, creating a lingering emotional toll. He also highlights the importance of awareness and growth, encouraging listeners to participate in healthier, more fulfilling holiday traditions. Featuring a unique narrative inspired by 'Twas the Night Before Christmas,' written by Claude AI, this episode sheds light on the subtleties of narcissistic manipulation and control during what are typically hoped to be seen as celebratory times. 00:00 A Twisted Christmas Tale 02:36 Introduction and Welcome 02:52 Announcements and Updates 04:19 Listener Stories: Holiday Struggles 06:39 Story 1: Control and Manipulation 12:12 Story 2: The Christmas Face 16:34 Story 3: The Dream Trip Conflict 20:35 Story 4: Missing Milestones 27:17 Story 5: Passive Aggressive Holidays 34:22 Story 6: Inappropriate Gifts 36:21 Reflections and Closing Thoughts Find more from Tony Overbay: Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/virtualcouch TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@virtualcouch Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/virtual.couch/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tonyoverbaylmft/ Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-virtual-couch/id1275153998 Website: https://www.tonyoverbay.com/ Link Tree: https://linktr.ee/virtualcouch If you are interested in joining Tony's private Facebook group for women in narcissistic or emotionally immature relationships of any type, please reach out to him at contact@tonyoverbay.com or through the form on the website, HTTP://www.tonyoverbay.com If you are a man interested in joining Tony's "Emotional Architects" group to learn how to better navigate your relationship with a narcissistic or emotionally immature partner or learn how to become more emotionally mature yourself, please reach out to Tony at contact@tonyoverbay.com or through the form on the website, HTTP:www.tonyoverbay.com
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    44 mins
  • BONUS Virtual Couch - The Balancing Act: Self-Esteem vs. Self-Compassion

    BONUS Virtual Couch - The Balancing Act: Self-Esteem vs. Self-Compassion
    Dec 6 2024
    Are you tired of the endless pursuit of perfection? Do you question why your self-esteem seems more tied to others' opinions than your own self-worth? In this transformative episode, Tony explores the crucial difference between self-esteem and self-compassion, drawing from Dr. Kristin Neff's groundbreaking research. Through personal experiences and scientific insights, Tony challenges our cultural obsession with self-esteem, revealing why the constant pressure to be "above average" creates an impossible and unhealthy standard for well-being. Learn how self-compassion offers a more sustainable path to genuine self-acceptance through its three core components: self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness. Tony delves into the fascinating neuroscience behind mindfulness practices, explaining how they physically rewire our brain for greater emotional regulation and self-awareness. Drawing from Viktor Frankl's profound insights as a Holocaust survivor and author of "Man's Search for Meaning," Tony illustrates how finding meaning in our struggles can transform our relationship with ourselves and others. This episode provides both the scientific framework and practical tools needed to develop self-compassion in daily life. Whether you struggle with perfectionism, find yourself caught in comparison traps, or simply want to develop a more stable sense of self-worth, you'll discover why self-compassion offers all the benefits of high self-esteem without its potential downsides. Join Tony as he shares actionable strategies for transforming your relationship with yourself and finding peace in the simple truth that you're not broken - you're human. 00:00 Introduction and Personal Story 01:46 The Therapist's Dilemma: Hope vs. Reality 04:33 Exploring Self-Esteem and Self-Compassion 07:01 The Impact of Comparison and External Validation 11:02 Value-Based Goal Setting and Radical Acceptance 13:08 Parental Support and Secure Attachment 15:25 Listener Insights on Self-Esteem 16:32 Embracing Self-Compassion 23:22 Seeking Validation and Self-Compassion 24:16 Confessions of an Ultramarathoner 26:18 Accepting Mediocrity in Running 29:19 The Power of Self-Compassion 33:25 Mindfulness and Self-Kindness 35:19 A Personal Podcasting Challenge 39:21 Viktor Frankl's Wisdom on Meaning 45:23 The Journey of Self-Compassion
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    47 mins
  • UPDATED Death By a Thousand Cuts Ocho (8) - Healing, Growing, and Thriving Through Emotional Wounds

    UPDATED Death By a Thousand Cuts Ocho (8) - Healing, Growing, and Thriving Through Emotional Wounds
    Dec 3 2024
    Tony Overbay, LMFT, explores how seemingly minor slights and manipulations in relationships can accumulate to cause significant emotional harm. Welcome to the 8th installment of Waking Up to Narcissism’s “Death by 1,000 Cuts” series. In this episode, Tony delves deep into the subtle yet severe world of emotional abuse. Whether you're dealing with a narcissistic partner, emotionally immature family members, or challenging work colleagues, this episode is full of relatable stories and practical advice to help you understand and navigate these treacherous waters. Tony shares listener-submitted poems and limericks that perfectly capture the pain and frustration of enduring countless small but stinging slights. He also shares personal anecdotes and listener stories to illustrate how these seemingly minor offenses can pile up, causing significant emotional damage over time. Discover invaluable strategies for maintaining your emotional health, such as self-compassion, differentiating yourself emotionally, and setting healthy boundaries. You'll also learn the importance of documenting behavior patterns and trusting your gut feelings to reclaim your reality and foster your healing journey. Find more from Tony Overbay: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@virtualcouch Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/virtual.couch/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tonyoverbaylmft/ Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-virtual-couch/id1275153998 Website: https://www.tonyoverbay.com/ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/virtualcouch Stream Riley Hope's song 'Not My Job' and follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/musicbyrileyhope/ 00:00 Deathbycuts8 07:13 Introduction and Acknowledgements 08:06 Listener Contributions: Poems and Limericks 09:13 Understanding Emotional Cuts in Relationships 09:33 Host Introduction and Podcast Overview 11:36 The Free Throw Analogy: Preparation vs. Real Life 16:44 Applying Relationship Skills in Real Life 24:30 Listener Stories: Death by a Thousand Cuts 31:21 Roommate Frustrations 31:46 Financial Manipulation 32:21 Co-Parenting Conflicts 32:55 Family Event Disruptions 33:43 Emotional Immaturity in Relationships 42:03 Professional Sabotage 45:00 Phone Surveillance 47:08 Achievement Diminishment 48:07 Weaponized Routines 48:45 Financial Manipulation Revisited 50:30 Co-Parenting Undermining 51:09 Recognizing Patterns of Control 54:16 The Importance of Self-Compassion
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    58 mins

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