Waking Up to Narcissism

By: Tony Overbay LMFT
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  • "Waking Up to Narcissism" is a podcast hosted by Tony Overbay, LMFT, host of the award-winning Virtual Couch podcast, dedicated to helping individuals recognize and navigate narcissistic traits and tendencies in their relationships and within themselves. With a focus on emotional immaturity versus narcissism, Tony provides tools and guidance for personal growth and managing relationships with narcissistic or emotionally immature individuals, even if that individual is you!
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  • What Do You Stand For? From People-Pleasing to Self-Discovery: A Journey of Character and Integrity

    What Do You Stand For? From People-Pleasing to Self-Discovery: A Journey of Character and Integrity
    Nov 5 2024
    Are you truly living in alignment with your values, or do the expectations of others shape you? How do you begin to define your own character when emotional immaturity and narcissism are at play in your relationships? In this episode, we dive deep into what it means to build a sense of character and integrity—especially for those who may have spent years putting others’ needs above their own. Through stories, reflection, and therapeutic insight, we’ll explore how a pathologically kind person can break free from people-pleasing patterns and begin to understand their true values and beliefs. Discover how character is not only about the values you hold but also what you’re willing to tolerate or excuse in yourself and others. We’ll unpack David Schnarch’s Four Points of Balance to guide you in building a strong, flexible sense of self, showing how true integrity is about standing steady in your own identity, even when external pressures try to sway you. Join us to learn how you can move beyond external validation, live from your core, and start showing up as your authentic self in all your relationships. You find Riley Hope's "Not My Job" streaming information here: https://linktr.ee/rileyhopematlock 00:00 Introduction and Welcome 00:17 Listener Engagement and Social Media 01:13 Riley Hope's Anthem 01:38 Evander's Story Begins 02:32 The Social Club Dilemma 04:02 Sam's Concerns and Evander's Changes 06:35 Tony's Personal Reflection 11:48 Understanding Integrity and Character 17:51 Tom and Jerry: A Case Study 29:10 Navigating Relationships with Integrity 34:53 Navigating Integrity and Character in Relationships 35:18 Challenges for the Pathologically Kind Person 37:47 Understanding Emotional Immaturity and Narcissism 46:12 Pat and Chris: Real-Life Scenarios 53:31 Breaking Free: Strategies for Pat 01:01:31 Constructing the Crucible for Personal Growth 01:08:46 Final Thoughts on Integrity and Self-Discovery Are you truly living in alignment with your values, or do the expectations of others shape you? How do you begin to define your own character when emotional immaturity and narcissism are at play in your relationships? In this episode, we dive deep into what it means to build a sense of character and integrity—especially for those who may have spent years putting others’ needs above their own. Through stories, reflection, and therapeutic insight, we’ll explore how a pathologically kind person can break free from people-pleasing patterns and begin to understand their true values and beliefs. Discover how character is not only about the values you hold but also what you’re willing to tolerate or excuse in yourself and others. We’ll unpack David Schnarch’s Four Points of Balance to guide you in building a strong, flexible sense of self, showing how true integrity is about standing steady in your own identity, even when external pressures try to sway you. Join us to learn how you can move beyond external validation, live from your core, and start showing up as your authentic self in all your relationships. You find Riley Hope's "Not My Job" streaming information here: https://linktr.ee/rileyhopematlock 00:00 Introduction and Welcome 00:17 Listener Engagement and Social Media 01:13 Riley Hope's Anthem 01:38 Evander's Story Begins 02:32 The Social Club Dilemma 04:02 Sam's Concerns and Evander's Changes 06:35 Tony's Personal Reflection 11:48 Understanding Integrity and Character 17:51 Tom and Jerry: A Case Study 29:10 Navigating Relationships with Integrity 34:53 Navigating Integrity and Character in Relationships 35:18 Challenges for the Pathologically Kind Person 37:47 Understanding Emotional Immaturity and Narcissism 46:12 Pat and Chris: Real-Life Scenarios 53:31 Breaking Free: Strategies for Pat 01:01:31 Constructing the Crucible for Personal Growth 01:08:46 Final Thoughts on Integrity and Self-Discovery
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    1 hr and 15 mins
  • Navigating Societal Expectations, Faith Crisis and Personal Growth - the Allegory “Off the Beaten Path”

    Navigating Societal Expectations, Faith Crisis and Personal Growth - the Allegory “Off the Beaten Path”
    Oct 23 2024
    Tony Overbay, LMFT explores themes of faith journeys, parental expectations, communication, differentiation, and self-discovery through an allegorical story titled 'Off the Beaten Path: Finding Love and Self in a World of Conformity.' The narrative follows a young man named Ansel, who grapples with societal expectations, familial pressures, and his journey toward self-acceptance. Through meaningful encounters and introspection, Ansel learns to embrace his individuality amidst traditional, religious, and cultural norms. This episode also highlights the importance of personal integrity the challenges of navigating faith and family systems, and encourages listeners to explore their unique talents and values. Tony invites the audience to share their stories and questions about their own faith and family journeys for future episodes. 00:00 Welcome and Introduction 01:17 “Not My Job” song by: Riley Hope 02:48 The Power of Writing and Poetry 05:26 Exploring Allegories 06:44 Off the Beaten Path: Ansul's Journey Begins 12:14 Ansul's Struggles and Self-Discovery 16:17 Meeting Maris: A New Connection 17:52 Seeking Guidance: Ansul's Dilemma 18:31 Ansul's Realization and Self-Acceptance 19:00 Building a Relationship with Maris 20:42 Themes of the Allegory: Individuality vs. Conformity 22:32 Exploring Faith and Doubt 22:53 Coming of Age and Self-Discovery 23:30 Truth, Knowledge, and Intergenerational Expectations 25:34 Curiosity, Love, and Acceptance 26:38 Personal Growth Through Discomfort 27:19 Diversity of Thought and Self-Acceptance 29:24 Navigating Difficult Journeys of Faith and Family 31:00 Encouragement for Personal Growth and Authenticity 33:02 Conclusion and Call to Action If you are interested in joining Tony's private Facebook group for women in narcissistic or emotionally immature relationships of any type, please reach out to him at contact@tonyoverbay.com or through the form on the website, HTTP://www.tonyoverbay.com If you are a man interested in joining Tony's "Emotional Architects" group to learn how to better navigate your relationship with a narcissistic or emotionally immature partner or learn how to become more emotionally mature yourself, please reach out to Tony at contact@tonyoverbay.com or through the form on the website, HTTP:www.tonyoverbay.com
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    35 mins
  • When Advice Goes Wrong: The Impact of Inaccurate Guidance in Narcissistic Relationship

    When Advice Goes Wrong: The Impact of Inaccurate Guidance in Narcissistic Relationship
    Oct 14 2024
    Tony Overbay, LMFT, discusses the potentially harmful effects of an article titled “What Is Disarming A Narcissist? 12 Simple Ways To Do So” (https://tinyurl.com/2u8d7sjb) that oversimplifies interactions with narcissists. He distinguishes between Narcissistic Personality Disorder and the broader spectrum of emotional immaturity, emphasizing the small percentage of diagnosed cases of narcissistic personality disorder. Tony critiques the casual and inflated use of the term 'narcissist' and clarifies that real narcissism and emotional immaturity come with significant implications in relationships. He breaks down the common traits of emotional immaturity, such as anger management issues and lack of accountability, and stresses the need to understand one's emotional maturity level. Tony also passionately refutes a technique involving empathy as a means to reach narcissists, highlighting its ineffectiveness and potential harm. This episode provides invaluable insights into protecting oneself from narcissistic abuse, the importance of setting healthy boundaries, and the journey toward emotional growth. 00:00 Introduction to Narcissism and Emotional Immaturity 01:44 Understanding Emotional Immaturity 05:49 The Spectrum of Emotional Maturity 06:55 A Personal Anecdote on Emotional Maturity 11:07 Exploring Empathy and Narcissism 15:45 Critique of Simplistic Solutions for Narcissism 18:52 The Complexity of Narcissistic Relationships 22:55 Ineffective Communication Strategies with Narcissists 25:42 Understanding Narcissistic Supply 27:03 Disarming a Narcissist: Tips and Challenges 29:39 The Complexity of Empathy with Narcissists 33:57 The Path to Differentiation and Self-Care 46:54 Concluding Thoughts on Narcissism If you are interested in joining Tony's private Facebook group for women in narcissistic or emotionally immature relationships of any type, please reach out to him at contact@tonyoverbay.com or through the form on the website, HTTP://www.tonyoverbay.com If you are a man interested in joining Tony's "Emotional Architects" group to learn how to better navigate your relationship with a narcissistic or emotionally immature partner or learn how to become more emotionally mature yourself, please reach out to Tony at contact@tonyoverbay.com or through the form on the website, HTTP:www.tonyoverbay.com
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    49 mins

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