This teaching by Matthew Vander Els at Founded in Truth Fellowship examines the dynamics between husbands and wives. Contrary to the modern assumption that women in ancient Near Eastern cultures, including those depicted in the Bible, were oppressed and lacked rights, the speaker suggests that women held a different but equally important role. Vander Els stresses that, biblically, a husband should see his wife as his most prized possession, similar to how a father views his daughter in ancient cultures.

Just as Isaac prayed for Rebecca's fertility, husbands should intercede for their wives, recognizing their needs and petitioning God on their behalf. Vander Els underscores this responsibility by mentioning a verse he considers "convicting": "And Isaac prayed to the Lord for his wife because she was barren, and the Lord granted his prayer, and Rebekah his wife conceived".

When a woman marries, her husband assumes a responsibility akin to a father's. This transition, often symbolized by the giving away of the bride in wedding ceremonies, is a contract of care and provision.

Drawing on scriptural examples like Psalms 128, Vander Els emphasizes that a wife's well-being and joy are directly linked to her husband's reverence for God. This isn't to say women can't be spiritually strong on their own, but it highlights a husband's primary duty to lead his family with righteousness, setting a worthy example for his wife and children.

Vander Els argues that modern interpretations of wifely submission, particularly in Colossians 3:18, often miss the nuance of the original Greek word. Instead of a military-style subservience, he suggests it implies a voluntary and collaborative approach where the wife actively shares the burdens and responsibilities of the household as her husband's helpmate.

Vander Els seeks to dismantle the notion of women as mere possessions in a marriage. He points to the Hebrew word for "helpmate," arguing that it denotes an equal and powerful counterpart who supports and defends her husband, particularly in times of vulnerability. He uses the analogy of a soldier needing backup to illustrate the strength and protectiveness this term implies.

• Regularly pray for your wives, seeking God's blessings upon their lives and recognizing your responsibility to support them spiritually.
• Treat your wives with honor and respect, understanding that you are entrusted with their well-being. Remember the value placed upon a daughter in ancient cultures and extend that same esteem to your wife.
• Strive to lead your families in righteousness, setting a godly example that your wife and children can willingly follow.
• Embrace the true meaning of "helpmate" by recognizing and appreciating your wife's strength, support, and partnership in marriage.

• Support your husbands and assist them in fulfilling their responsibilities as spiritual leaders in the home.
• Pray for your husbands and your families, seeking God's guidance and blessing on your household.

• Genesis 25:21: "And Isaac prayed to the Lord for his wife because she was barren, and the Lord granted his prayer, and Rebekah his wife conceived".
• Psalms 128
• Colossians 3:18
• 2 Corinthians 5:21
• Proverbs 31
• Hebrews 11:7

Note: This summary reflects the perspective presented by the speaker in the provided source. Other interpretations of scripture and historical contexts regarding the role of women in ancient Near Eastern cultures may exist.

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