In this episode, Corey Keyes explores the concept of languishing vs. flourishing and how to feel alive again He delves into the often-overlooked emotional state that exists between mental illness and thriving and discusses how many of us can feel worn down by life and stuck in a gray zone of stagnation. Corey shares his insights on the importance of mindset and how changing the way we think about our daily tasks can lead us to a more fulfilling life. The discussion touches on the critical aspects of purpose, connection, and vitality, offering listeners strategies to move from languishing to flourishing.

Key Takeaways:

• 00:05:29 – The Role of Positive Psychology and Mental Health
• 00:06:46 – Corey’s Background and the Successful Aging Research Network
• 00:08:08 – The Purpose of Positive Psychology and Addressing Languishing
• 00:09:25 – Flourishing Despite Mental Health Conditions
• 00:10:08 – The Relationship Between Flourishing and Mental Illness
• 00:12:49 – The Challenge of Defining Recovery in Addiction and Mental Health
• 00:14:02 – The Lack of Peer Support Groups for Depression
• 00:15:05 – The Role of Experts in Mental Health
• 00:16:15 – The Difference Between Sharing with Experts and Peer Support
• 00:17:07 – The Importance of Having a Clear Program in Support Groups
• 00:18:04 – The Need for a New Approach to Mental Health Support Programs
• 00:19:01 – Defining Languishing and Its Distinction from Depression
• 00:20:36 – The Overlap Between Languishing and Depression
• 00:22:29 – The Impact of Languishing on Mental Health
• 00:23:39 – Personal Reflections on Eliminating Suffering and Seeking Joy
• 00:25:04 – The Challenge of Recalibrating After Addiction
• 00:25:58 – The Importance of Functioning Well
• 00:28:05 – The Nuances of Feeling Good vs. Functioning Well
• 00:30:09 – The Difference Between Satisfaction and Momentary Feelings
• 00:31:04 – The Role of Storytelling in Perceived Well-Being
• 00:32:49 – The Importance of Meaning and Values Over Mood
• 00:33:59 – Allowing Self-Assessment in Measuring Well-Being
• 00:35:53 – The Criteria for Flourishing and Languishing
• 00:37:08 – Encouraging Reflection and Integration for Listeners
• 00:38:18 – The Importance of Functioning Well in Achieving Flourishing
• 00:40:28 – The Difficulty of Achieving Social Well-Being
• 00:41:10 – The Five Vitamins of Flourishing
• 00:42:01 – Integrating Flourishing Activities into Daily Life
• 00:45:05 – The Importance of Mindset in Achieving Flourishing
• 00:47:09 – Research on Mindsets and Practical Applications

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In this episode, Dr. Ethan Kross discusses how to shift your emotions and move from chaos to clarity. Ethan delves into the complexities of emotions, challenging traditional views that label them as obstacles to overcome. Instead, he presents a fresh perspective, suggesting that emotions can be valuable tools when understood and managed effectively. This conversation explores how our thoughts often skew towards negativity and how conscious effort is required to cultivate a fulfilling life.

Key Takeaways:

• 00:02:30 – Introduction to Dr. Ethan Kross and His Work
• 00:03:30 – The Parable of the Two Wolves
• 00:05:22 – Emotions as Valuable Companions
• 00:06:07 – The Complexity of Emotions
• 00:07:51 – No One-Size-Fits-All Solutions
• 00:10:21 – The Metaphor of Physical Fitness
• 00:12:25 – Variability in Emotional Tools
• 00:13:34 – The Complexity of Human Emotions
• 00:16:35 – The Control of Emotions
• 00:18:43 – The Serenity Prayer and Emotional Control
• 00:27:00 – The Role of Self-Experimentation
• 00:30:34 – Tools for Shifting Emotions
• 00:31:00 – Attention as a Tool
• 00:34:28 – The Role of Avoidance and Approach
• 00:38:12 – Perspective Shifting
• 00:44:11 – Shifting Your Environment
• 00:48:07 – Using Environmental Cues for Emotional Regulation

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In this episode, Terri Cole discusses how to break the people-pleasing cycle and set healthy boundaries. She explores the fine line between kindness and people- pleasing and how sometimes, what feels like generosity might actually be an attempt to control someone else’s reaction or avoid conflict altogether. Terri also explains why so many of us fall into this “peace at any cost” mentality and the toll it takes on us. She offers powerful tools to help us break free from that compulsion and get clear on what we’re really responsible for, and how to show up authentically in our relationships.

Key Takeaways:

• 00:03:03 – Tending to the Shadow Side
• 00:04:12 – Finding Balance: Reacting vs. Responding
• 00:06:06 – The Resentment Inventory
• 00:10:04 – Taking Responsibility for Our Feelings
• 00:11:14 – Understanding Activation and Transference
• 00:15:43 – The Impact of Past Relationships
• 00:19:01 – Defining High Functioning Codependency
• 00:20:15 – Characteristics of High Functioning Codependents
• 00:26:38 – The Importance of Mindful Habit Changes
• 00:27:32 – Distinguishing Kindness from Codependency
• 00:29:04 – Questions to Differentiate Responsibility
• 00:34:48 – The Role of Boundaries in Relationships
• 00:37:01 – The Challenge of Letting Go
• 00:40:28 – The Power of Asking the Right Questions
• 00:43:41 – Conclusion: The Balance of Giving and Receiving

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