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In this deeply insightful episode of the Motherhood Mentor Podcast, Becca sits down with author and mental health expert David Bedrick to explore the complex emotions of shame, guilt, boundaries, and dealing with your inner critic. Drawing on his extensive experience, David offers a compassionate approach to understanding these emotions and experiences—not as flaws to fix, but as meaningful messages and medicine that guide us toward healing.

David introduces the concept of the "Unshaming Way"—a paradigm shift that encourages us to embrace imperfections and release the self-criticism that often keeps us stuck. Together, they explore how shame isn’t just an emotion but an internalized witness that distorts our reality, creating barriers to self-acceptance and healing. David and Becca discuss some of the highlights of David's new book “The Unshaming Way”

In this episode, you’ll learn:

1. Healing Shame and Guilt: How to break free from the cycle of mom guilt and self-blame, embracing a compassionate relationship with yourself.
2. Perfectionism and Its Roots: How generational trauma and societal expectations fuel perfectionism in mothers, and how to release the pressure to be “perfect.”
3. Managing Parental Anger: How anger in motherhood isn’t a sign of failure but a signal of unmet needs—and how to express it in healthy ways.
4. Generational Healing: How to break the cycle of intergenerational trauma and create a new legacy of self-acceptance, authentic connection, and empowerment.

David emphasizes the importance of boundaries and self-compassion in healing, teaching us how to recognize the root of our anger and use it as a tool for reclaiming our voice and space. He shares powerful insights on how authentic relationships—not perfection—are the key to healing past wounds and cultivating resilience as a mother.

If you’ve ever struggled with the weight of perfectionism, the guilt of yelling at your kids, or the feeling that you're not enough, or the exhausting constant inner critic- this episode is a must-listen. Tune in to discover how to release shame, embrace your humanity, and step into a more empowered, compassionate version of yourself.

Meet David:
David Bedrick, JD, Dipl. PW, is a teacher, counselor, and attorney. He grew up in family marked by violence. While his father’s brutality was physical and verbal, his mother’s denial and gaslighting had its own covert power. This formative context introduced David early to the etiology of shame and instilled an urge to unshame.

Professionally, he was on the faculty for the University of Phoenix and the Process Work Institute in the U.S. and Poland and is the founder of the Santa Fe Institute for Shame-based Studies where he trains therapists, coaches and healers and offers workshops.

David writes for Psychology Today and is the author of three books: Talking Back to Dr. Phil: Alternatives to Mainstream Psychology and Revisioning Activism: Bringing Depth, Dialogue, and Diversity to Individual and Social Change. His new book is You Can’t Judge a Body by Its Cover: 17 Women’s Stories of Hunger, Body Shame and Redemption. His recent book, The Unshaming Way, published in November of 2024 by North Atlantic books.

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In this empowering episode of the Motherhood Mentor Podcast, Becca dives into the phrase “ If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a hell no” and how that is often not true for her. When is “no” a boundary- and when is it a self imposed limiting belief, or even a safety response from avoiding discomfort or activation? Join me as I share a transformative journey from fear to freedom, exploring how imposter syndrome and self-doubt hold us back in motherhood, business, and personal growth.

Becca shares her personal story of overcoming people-pleasing tendencies, navigating visibility fears, and learning to trust herself as she steps into new opportunities. Through engaging narratives, including a metaphor about her fear of heights and starting her podcast, Becca shows how fear can often disguise itself as a barrier to growth, when in fact it’s an invitation to step into something greater.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

1. How to recognize and dismantle imposter syndrome in your life.
2. The power of self-trust and how to build it in motherhood and beyond.
3. Why embracing life’s "gray areas" and mundane tasks can lead to deep personal growth.
4. The importance of setting boundaries and understanding your capacity, both in motherhood and in daily life.
5. How to move beyond the “hell yes or hell no” mentality and make empowered decisions that serve your personal values.

Join Becca as she explores the nuances of fear, consent, and decision-making, offering insights and practical tools for mothers and women seeking to grow with intention and authenticity.

Ready to trust yourself more and embrace the messy, beautiful journey of personal growth? Tune in now and let’s navigate these transformative steps together!

Chapter Markers:

Embracing Fear and Trusting Self

00:11:10

Understanding Consent and Capacity Levels

00:22:40

Navigating Life's Gray Areas

00:30:50

Empowering Moms Through Podcast Support

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In this episode of the Motherhood Mentor Podcast, we explore how perfectionism can shift from being a paralyzing pressure to a powerful permission for growth. In this solo episode with Becca, a somatic healing practitioner and holistic life coach, we dive into the complex ways perfectionism shows up in both motherhood, relationships, and entrepreneurship—often as fear masked by high standards and a consistent awareness in the gap. The gap between our ideals and desires- and the reality. We discuss how perfectionism can become a tool for personal growth rather than a barrier. We’ll look at different types of perfectionists—intense, procrastinator, messy—and how they impact our creativity, relationships, and self-worth.

Becca shares practical tips and real-life experiences to help you reframe perfectionism. You’ll learn how to embrace imperfection, release unrealistic expectations, and create a more fulfilling life with both ambition and compassion. And most of all, finally feel good enough with where you are- present with what is messy and magic.

If you're ready to stop letting perfectionism hold you back and start giving yourself permission to grow in your messy, beautiful human experience—this episode is for you!

Resources and Recommendations from this episode:

Liz Gilbert : Big Magic

Anne Lamott

Types of Perfectionism from The Perfectionists Guide to Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler

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Chapter Markers

• 0:02- Navigating Perfectionism
• 3:34- Battling Perfectionism in Everyday Life
• 10:56- Embracing and Balancing Perfectionism
• 27:31- Navigating Unrealistic Expectations of Motherhood
• 32:53- Understanding and Embracing Perfectionism Types
• 44:51- Trusting and Healing Perfectionism

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