In this episode of The Double Win Show, Michael Hyatt and Megan Hyatt Miller sit down with leadership expert Carey Nieuwhof to explore the hidden traps of burnout, cynicism, and the tolls of unexamined motivations. Carey dives into his journey from lawyer to pastor to leadership coach, sharing how he’s learned to manage energy and avoid burnout while building an impactful career.

Carey’s insights touch on the importance of self-leadership, the dangers of “mid-grade burnout,” and strategies for setting lasting boundaries. The conversation is rich with practical advice for leaders in any field who want to achieve the Double Win—winning at work and succeeding at life.

Memorable Quotes

1. “I think unexamined motivations drive you until they destroy you.”
2. “Self-leadership is the ability to heal ourselves, to stay engaged, to stay healthy—everything from avoiding burnout and not becoming the person everyone resents to staying engaged at a meaningful level and avoiding cynicism and pride.”
3. “Just look at the internal battle of a leader, how lonely it is, how you often feel you don’t have anyone to turn to about the personal demons you’re fighting.”
4. “I worked with a lot of lawyers who were really at the top of their game. It was sort of the Wall Street of Canada, right? I realized very early on: Oh, it’s empty up here.”
5. “I think you’ve got to make a decision: I’m going to trust again. I’m going to hope again. I’m going to believe again.”
6. “Cynical people are never curious and curious people are never cynical. They seem to be mutually exclusive.”
7. “That position of feeling numb most days is a big warning sign.”
8. “We’re inundated with too many relationships and we’re overwhelmed, overworked, overcommitted.”
9. “If you’re winning at work and losing at home, you’re losing.”

Key Takeaways

1. Self-Leadership Matters: Carey explains that leading yourself well is the foundation of effective leadership.
2. The Dangers of Mid-Grade Burnout: While many recognize full-blown burnout, Carey highlights the subtler, persistent signs that show up as disengagement or apathy.
3. Prioritize Close Relationships: Carey describes the power of “3–5 deep friendships” that keep us grounded and resilient.
4. The Antidote to Cynicism: When cynicism creeps in, choosing curiosity can help leaders reconnect and stay energized.
5. Boundaries with Purpose: Categorical decisions (like “no breakfast meetings”) can help protect your peak hours and ensure work doesn’t consume your personal life.

Resources

• Didn’t See It Coming by Carey Nieuwhof
• The Carey Nieuwhof Leadership Podcast

Watch on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/lK5NYaZGm3w

This episode was produced by Sarah Vorhees Wendel of VW Sound

In this episode of The Double Win Show, Michael and Megan Hyatt Miller interview Grant Baldwin, a nationally recognized speaker, author, and founder of The Speaker Lab. Grant shares his journey from burnout to intentionally designing a life centered around balance, freedom, and his core values.

The conversation covers topics like the significance of constraints, the importance of overcoming fear, and why it’s essential to design your life instead of just living it by default. Grant's stories and insights make this episode a must-listen for anyone seeking to blend ambition with a meaningful, balanced life.

Memorable Quotes

1. “You have to regularly find things where the challenge exceeds the skill set… Over time, the skill set exceeds the challenge and you feel bored and you kind of feel like you’re going through the motions.”
2. “We design in a way that makes sense to say, ‘No, no, you can have your cake and eat it, too.’”
3. “It can’t be this open-ended thing of like, ‘I’ll do anything for anybody anywhere.’”
4. “Don’t act like a victim, saying, ‘In order to fill-in-the-blank, I have to do it this way.’ No, you absolutely do not.”
5. “This is a good life. I’ve got one shot at this thing. And so I want to make sure that a lived it well and I was satisfied with what I did.”
6. “If we are great entrepreneurs, if we’re great speakers, if we’re great authors, if we’re heart fill-in-the-blank, but we drop the ball as husbands, wives, moms, dads—if we’re a shell of a human being, we’re doing it wrong.”

Key Takeaways

1. Intentional Life Design: Your life doesn’t have to follow a set path—design it to fit your values and goals. Be intentional about the decisions you make and the priorities you set.
2. Constraints Create Freedom: Using boundaries to focus your efforts can actually create more opportunities. Grant explains why saying “no” is crucial to living a life that aligns with your values.
3. Facing Fear: Fear isn’t something to be avoided; it’s a sign that you’re about to do something significant. Grant explores how to “borrow courage” on the way to building confidence..
4. Building a Speaking Career: Grant shares a few of his best tips to build a speaking business by clarifying what you want to talk about and who you want to speak to.
5. Coaching & Mentorship: Investing in coaches can accelerate your learning and help you avoid common pitfalls—and it’s been key to Grant’s success.

Resources

• Grant Baldwin’s website: The Speaker Lab
• Follow Grant on Instagram: @grantbaldwin
• Book recommendation: “The Successful Speaker” by Grant Baldwin
• Related Episode: Ep. 19, Living Intentionally with Dan Miller

Watch on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/Hg1tCFBRoWI

In this episode of The Double Win Show, Michael and Megan Hyatt Miller sit down with bestselling author and trauma-informed coach, Mastin Kipp, to discuss the profound impact of understanding and regulating the nervous system. Mastin shares insights from his new book, Reclaim Your Nervous System, and explains how unresolved trauma and dysregulation can hinder personal and professional growth.

The conversation explores the practical applications of polyvagal theory, co-regulation, and how leaders can foster psychological safety by mastering their own nervous systems. Mastin covers everything from the body's hierarchy of responses to stress (green, yellow, and red states), to the effects of trauma on leadership, parenting, and personal well-being. By learning how to identify and manage these states, listeners can unlock a new level of performance and healing.

Memorable Quotes

1. “We have this idea that ‘If I can change my thoughts, I can change my life,’ which is accurate, but there’s a lot going on below the brain that we also want to understand.”
2. “The issue is when we have a neuroceptive mismatch, where I’m in the presence of something dangerous, but I’m not being activated to move. Or I’m not in the presence of danger, but my neuroception is telling me that I am.”
3. “I think of re-regulation as like the bicep curl or the squat. You’re going to get dysregulated automatically. So let’s re-regulate—the re-regulation is the rep.”
4. “If the leader, or CEO, or C-Suite isn’t creating that culture [of safety], then it will fall apart when there are challenges. Just like we need to have a flexible nervous system, we need to have a flexible cultural nervous system to be able to manage the flexible challenges of business also.”
5. “Trauma is any experience of threat, disconnection, isolation, or immobilization that results in the long-term or chronic dysregulation of either your endocrine system, your immune system, your emotional body, your brain, your body, your spirit—your health on any level, basically.”
6. “The problem with successful people and ambitious people is every time we level up, we increase complexity and stress, and those pathways get activated again.”
7. “Stoicism is great for growth. It’s just not great for healing.”

Key Takeaways

1. Understanding the Nervous System: The nervous system governs how we experience life. Recognizing when we are in a "fight or flight" state (yellow) or a "shut down" state (red) allows us to make conscious decisions to move back into a "ventral vagal" state (green), where we're most productive and connected.
2. The Power of Co-Regulation: Leaders, parents, and partners all play a role in co-regulating others. Learning how to stay calm and collected can positively influence those around you, fostering a more supportive and effective environment.
3. Trauma’s Role in Leadership: Unresolved trauma can cause leaders to react disproportionately, affecting their teams and overall performance. Recognizing and healing these trauma responses is essential for effective leadership.
4. Reframing Anxiety and Stress: Instead of seeing anxiety as an isolated mental challenge, Mastin explains how it's deeply tied to our physical nervous system and can be addressed by body-based approaches like somatic experiencing.
5. Neuroception and Safety: Our bodies are constantly scanning for safety or danger. Learning to re-regulate when our neuroception is triggered can help us stay present and avoid unnecessary reactions to perceived threats.
6. Reclaim Your Life: Trauma doesn't need to define your future. By understanding your nervous system, you can reclaim your happiness and make progress in all areas of life, from work to personal relationships.

Resources

• Mastin Kipp on Instagram: @mastinkipp
• Mastin Kipp’s Book: Reclaim Your Nervous System

Watch on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/hhMXVMNDCIY

In this bonus episode of The Double Win Show, Michael Hyatt sits down with Don Miller, CEO of CoachBuilder, to explore how coaches can turn their passion into a profitable business. Don shares how his platform simplifies the process of growing a coaching business by providing essential tools, from lead generation to automating client communications.

Whether you’re a seasoned coach or just starting out, Don’s insights offer a roadmap for building a successful and sustainable coaching practice.

Memorable Quotes

1. “That’s what has been missing from, you know, the market is a plug and play system you can use to actually build a successful coaching business.”
2. “Nobody hires a coach when you sell them on coaching. People hire a coach when they have a problem they know a coach can help them solve.”
3. “Every day between 4–5 p.m., I’m home. I’m present with my family. My phone is nowhere near me… Because I know my priorities. I know what I’m supposed to do.”

Key Takeaways

1. Systems for Growth: You need systems to generate and nurture leads—not just word of mouth.
2. AI in Coaching: What if AI could help you with everything from writing emails to preparing for coaching sessions? Now, it can.
3. Coaching Community: Coaches tend to have a lot in common, no matter their niche—and they’re better together.
4. CRM Essentials: Using a CRM is crucial for growth, because it can track client interactions and automate follow-ups.

Resources

CoachBuilder.com/DoubleWin

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In this episode, Michael and Megan Hyatt Miller are joined by Jordan Harper, founder and CEO of Barefaced, to discuss how she turned her expertise as a nurse practitioner into a successful skincare brand. With a philosophy of "less but better," Jordan shares how she simplifies not just her skincare routine but her life as a busy entrepreneur and mother of four young children. She dives deep into her approach to time management, delegating tasks, and the importance of systems—both at work and at home.

Jordan also talks about how using the Full Focus Planner has helped her stay organized and balanced, revealing the key productivity strategies that allow her to thrive in business while maintaining her personal life.

Memorable Quotes

1. “It’s the little things you’re doing every single day that are yielding these big results over time. They’re underestimated because they do take consistency to see results.”
2. “Especially as women, we can have this martyr mindset where everyone’s first. That might work for a week, a season, but you will get so depleted. And then what do you have?”
3. “As I’m blocking out my schedule, I’m curating the life I actually want.”
4. “There’s so much I say no to, and I love it.”
5. “You have to truly build systems for your life. I think we focus so much on systems from a business perspective, but I mean for your personal life.”
6. “One of my goals for 2024 was to stop saying, ‘I don’t have time.’ I say, ‘I don’t make time for that’ because I really believe we have time to do the things that we want to do. We can’t do everything, but that’s why you need to know what you want to do.”

Key Takeaways

1. Less But Better Philosophy: Jordan’s approach to skincare and life is rooted in minimalism—prioritizing quality over quantity in everything she does.
2. Serving the Need: How did Bareface scale to 250,000 customers in a crowded market? By centering helping over selling.
3. Importance of Time Blocking: Using the Full Focus Planner and time blocking helps her manage her business, family, and personal life effectively.
4. Outsourcing and Systems: Delegating tasks at work and home, including hiring help for household management, enables her to focus on what matters most.
5. Family and Work Balance: With four kids under five, Jordan stresses the importance of systems, outsourcing, and creating margin in her life to be present with her family.

Resources

• Jordan Harper on Instagram: @jordanharpernp
• Barefaced Skincare: barefaced.com
  Full Focus Planner: fullfocusplanner.com

Watch on YouTube at: https://youtu.be/eiuLjusUa2A

What if the key to a more fulfilling life was focusing on less, not more? Greg McKeown, author of Essentialism and Effortless, joins Michael and Megan on The Double Win Show to discuss the power of prioritizing what truly matters amidst life's chaos. Greg shares insights on navigating today’s world of constant distraction, exploring the importance of taking control over small parts of your day, learning to say "no" to non-essential commitments, and making the essential things feel easier.

This conversation will inspire you to stop defaulting to the noise and instead design a life where you focus on what truly moves the needle—both personally and professionally.

Memorable Quotes

1. “If you don't prioritize your life, someone else will.”
2. “The antidote [to a chaotic world] is the disciplined pursuit of less.”
3. “You can say: ‘Is this the most important contribution I can make?’ If it’s not a clear yes, it becomes a clear no.”
4. “Maybe you can't control everything, but if you could take control of half an hour and use that to design what you want to do, instead of operating by default, it improves the quality of life for the rest of the 23 and a half hours.”
5. “You want everything essential to be as effortless as possible. So that single question is: How can I make this effortless?”

Key Takeaways

1. The Power Half-Hour: Take control of 30 minutes of your day to focus on what matters, whether it’s in the morning or the evening, and see the ripple effect on the rest of your time.
2. Essentialism vs. Minimalism: While minimalism is about reducing physical clutter, essentialism is about reducing mental clutter—focusing only on what is truly necessary.
3. Saying No: The ability to say “no” is crucial to staying aligned with your priorities, whether that means saying no to others or even to your own distractions.
4. Effortless Execution: Reframe essential tasks to be more enjoyable and less daunting, making it easier to achieve your most important goals.
5. Radical Gratitude: Practice gratitude not just for the good things, but for all experiences, as a way to shift your mindset and discover hidden opportunities for growth.

Resources

• Greg McKeown's Website: gregmckeown.com
• Essentialism by Greg McKeown
• Effortless by Greg McKeown

In this episode of The Double Win Show, Michael Hyatt and Megan Hyatt Miller welcome Hal Elrod, author of the bestselling book The Miracle Morning. Hal shares his remarkable journey of overcoming a near-fatal car accident, a battle with cancer, and multiple life setbacks—all while maintaining unwavering faith and resilience. He details how these hardships shaped his path and inspired his global movement to help millions create life-changing morning routines. Hal also introduces his powerful “5-Minute Rule” for moving through adversity and offers practical insights for building habits that will transform your life.

Memorable Quotes

1. “I can’t change what happened, but I can choose to be at peace with what I can’t change, grateful for what I have, and focus on the things that are in my control.”
2. “The more you resist reality and wish it were different, the more pain we create for ourselves. Freedom is in acceptance. Freedom is in being at peace with what you can’t change.”
3. “Most people who experience failure probably didn’t stay with it for long enough. They didn’t have the frustration tolerance. So they just gave up and said, ‘This isn’t working.’ And it takes a while to break through.”
4. “I love that you’re starting your day with silence—peaceful, purposeful silence to get centered, to gain clarity, to calm your nervous system.”
5. “I was prioritizing the impact I could make in the world over the impact I could make in my family. It was quantity over quality. When I had cancer, it was the epiphany that the impact I could make on their three lives far superseded the impact I could make on the world.”
6. “The Miracle Morning allows me to focus on the two things I can control: Who I become every day and how I show up. It is ensuring I am fully aware of what’s going on inside me and thoughtful and intentional about showing up as my best for those I love and lead.

Key Takeaways

1. The 5-Minute Rule: Allow yourself five minutes to process difficult emotions, then let go by saying, "I can’t change it," and move forward.
2. The Power of Ritual: Implementing the Miracle Morning routine (silence, affirmations, visualization, exercise, reading, and journaling) can shift your mindset and set you up for success, no matter how busy or unpredictable life gets.
3. Writing Affirmations that Work: Passive affirmations take you nowhere, but written commitments that connect the future you want to the actions you’ll take drive transformation.
4. What Matters Most: It took a cancer scare for Hal to realize that changing the lives of his family “far superseded” changing the world.
5. Resilience Through Faith: Hal’s unshakeable belief in himself and his faith helped him defy the odds and recover from life-threatening challenges.

Resources

The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod

Hal Elrod's Website: miraclemorning.com

The Miracle Morning App

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In this episode, Dr. Gladys McGarey, a 103-year-old pioneer in holistic medicine, shares her wisdom on the connection between purpose and health. Sadly, Dr. Gladys passed away just days before the release of this episode—making her insights from her century of life all the more valuable.

She discusses her journey growing up in India, her early struggles with dyslexia, and her lifelong mission to view medicine as a tool for healing both the body and the soul. She explores the five Ls she views as the foundation of all good things we build: Life, love, laughter, labor, and listening. Dr. Gladys also speaks about her personal purpose, her 10-year plan at 103 years old, and how purpose can evolve as we move through different seasons of life.

Michael and Dr. Gladys are also joined by Gail Hyatt, and together, they explore the nuances of a well-lived life.

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