Stressed about your dating life (and nosy questions) during the holidays? This episode is for you. Yes, it’s that time of year—when relatives turn the holiday dinner table into a Q&A about your dating life. Lily is sharing how to respond to every nosy question from relatives - that you don’t want to answer!

This is your guide to handling intrusive questions with confidence while staying grounded and true to yourself. Tune in for the best strategies for setting boundaries, saying “pass the peas” to nosy questions, and finding joy in the season without letting holiday stress or stress about your dating life get in the way.

You’ll learn:

• How to spot the self-judgment trap
• Why self-compassion is the antidote to self-judgement
• Boundaries that slay: “You don’t owe them your story” becomes your mantra for keeping nosy questions in check
• Active self-care strategies that keep you thriving
• How to build a joy plan that sticks

Links:

✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season

Dr. Kristin Neff - SelfCompassion.org
Self-care Activities for Women, Dr. Cicely Horsham-Brathwaite

Ready to stop emotional outsourcing and start owning your worth in dating and beyond? If you’ve ever struggled with perfectionism, people-pleasing, or the exhausting cycle of codependency, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. Lily invites her brilliant friend and colleague, Victoria Albina, to explore what it takes to recognize the patterns that no longer serve you and break free from them—so you can finally show up as the main character in your life.

Through an intersectional feminist lens, Victoria redefines the trope of codependency as “emotional outsourcing,” helping us see how it impacts not just our relationships but how we exist in the world. Together, they explore how our nervous system shapes our sense of safety and belonging, offering practical tools for reconnecting with self-love and grounding in our voice and intentions.

We get into:

• How emotional outsourcing holds you back from being your authentic self
• The three essential emotional needs: safety, belonging, and worth
• An in-depth look at the nervous system and its role in fight, flight, fawn, and freeze responses
• Grounding techniques to help you reconnect with self-love and intention
• How to expand your capacity for feeling good, seen, and safe

Links:

✨ Register for The Late Bloomer's Guide to a Confident Holiday Season

Victoria’s website

Victoria on Instagram

Feminist Wellness

Free meditations from Victoria for Date Brazen Listeners: VictoriaAlbina.com/lily

Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/healing-from-codependency-with-victoria-albina

I’m diving into how to care for yourself when life feels heavy. If you’re feeling drained or disappointed post-election—or really, after any tough experience—I’m here with a simple but powerful framework to help you reclaim your energy.

In this episode, I’ll guide you through the SOFT practice: Self-compassion, Owning your needs, Feeling your feelings, and Thoughts, not facts. I’ll share practical tools, like Dr. Kristin Neff’s self-compassion meditation, to help you navigate challenging times with more grace.

Whether it’s political stress or personal struggles, this episode is for anyone who needs a reminder that you deserve care, kindness, and support.

Links:

Free 5-minute self-compassion medication from Dr. Kristin Neff: https://self-compassion.org/self-compassion-practices/

The Loveland Foundation: https://thelovelandfoundation.org/