In Episode 3, Jessica parses real confidence from fake confidence, even when sometimes they can appear almost the same on the surface. Moving past ego, “aw, shucks, I’m not that good” humility, and needing validation, we arrive at a place where we can sit in our genius, simply radiate it out, and use it to make something great to gift to the world.

:30 True confidence vs. fake confidence

1:07 Timothy Chalamet & lack of ego at the top

3:08 "Aw, shucks" false humility

4:22 Fake confidence & living from the outside in

6:24 Georgia O’Keefe, the OG subtle art of not giving a fuck

8:00 Getting in your zone of genius

8:52 Devotion

9:23 Why 10,000 hours isn’t enough to be a master

9:56 The magic triumvirate for inner confidence

10:56 Being the gift vs. the prize

Quotes:

"The confidence that needs to peacock and preen, that needs to announce itself, that is not real confidence. It’s fake confidence. It’s needing to be seen as the prize. True confidence? It just IS. It’s matter of fact.”

"I think there is also a place you can get to internally where you kind of don’t give that much of a fuck anymore whether there’s flattery or criticism of you, because you like who you are more. You like who you’re being so much that that is more important to you than what people think or anything you could get from the outside world."

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In Season 2 Episode 2, Jessica recounts the surprising social media occurrence around a video posted about her grandma and reflects on the universal threads of nostalgia and the need to create meaningful things that so many of us lack in our modern lives.

:44 The unexpected viral grandma reel

2:50 Nostalgia & the need to create

5:27 Pushing (digital) papers instead of really making things

8:15 The little red coat: “Specially Fashioned by Helen”

9:34 The magic thread of love (and sewing)

Quotes:

"I think so many of us have gotten away from really creating from our hands, from our hearts, from our core, in our jobs. It’s like we’re spinning a lot of time and a lot of doing, but are we actually creating anything? Are we creating something or putting something out into the world that, ultimately, we’re proud of? A lot of people aren’t. And there’s something sort depressingly inhuman and dissatisfying about that.”

“There's this satisfaction that happens when we take a little piece of ourself—our gifts, our essence, what we love, what we’re good at, what delights us—and we make something from it and put it out into the world. There’s something primal about it, to me. I think there is a human need for that. And I think a lot of people are starving for it.”

You can find more of Jessica’s writing @jessica.ann.wilbert and her vintage creations @frim.fram.frocks on Instagram.

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After a lil’ break, the Creative Misfit Club podcast is back for Season 2!

In Episode 1, Jessica “goes there” (after navigating a depressive episode herself) and talks about how we navigate those periods of life where we might be “north of suicidal but south of ok”— both when they happen to us, and how to better support people in our lives who might be struggling.

2:04 What happened that time I “lost” joy

4:00 The problem with meds

6:00 Hiding when we’re struggling, and the problem with the “just reach out” prescription

8:00 The art of learning to just be in the muck

9:04 Connecting to our reasons to keep going

10:33 Do we really know how to answer “How are you?” And do we know what to do with an honest response?

Quotes:

“It’s still incredibly vulnerable to open up and share or ask for support when you're going through depressive episodes. It’s doubly hard when you’re in the midst of it and under those heavy clouds. It’s hard to let people see you in a dark or weak or messy place. We are so conditioned in this world to just show the glossy, Insta-ready sides of ourselves.”

"I think we would do well to better learn how to let it be more ok to not be ok. To be more open about it. To learn how to better mine for the roots underneath our 'not-ok-ness' and what they might be trying to tell us. And I think we could do a lot better at learning how to support people in our lives when they struggle, of weaving a better fabric of love and support around the people in our lives."

More writings & musings from Jessica @jessica.ann.wilbert on IG and at jessicaannwilbert.com

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