Episodes

  • 143 - Should I Give Up?
    Sep 19 2024

    We've been discussing the powerful statement of the Ramban, which teaches us that the opportunity to apply bitachon is completely independent of our actions. Of course, we always have to try to do our best - more mitzvos and less aveiros, whilst at the same time to internalize that the many statements that we are taught from Torah sources about the power of bitachon, that when we trust in Hashem exclusively, He comes through for us and delivers, that applies to any individual who is choosing to place their reliance and trust on Hashem independent of their actions.

    We also discussed how many Torah sources teach that emunah, bitachon and tefillah are all synonyms, and the famous example from the verse in the Torah which states that Moshe Rabbeinu's hands were emunah, are translated by the Targum Unklus, as "he spread his hands in tefillah." Because again, the more one believes, trusts and relies on Hashem, the more one will pray to Hashem.

    We also mentioned the well-known episode in the Gemara of Choni Hameagel, where there was a drought in the land of Israel, and he, being a tremendously pious and righteous individual, was called on to pray on behalf of the people. And as the Gemara recounts, he was extremely stubborn and vehement in making sure that Hashem listens to his prayer, drawing a circle around himself and swearing that he will not leave that circle until Hashem comes through and sends rain in the form of blessing that will benefit the people.

    Although we do learn the tremendous power of tefillah from this episode, how Choni literally changed the course of nature, where there was a clear drought, and suddenly abundant rain began to fall, completely denying all the laws of nature, nevertheless, the Talmud goes on to criticize Choni for being so stubborn and vehement in the way he talked to Hashem. Although none of us can compare ourselves to the spiritual level of the tremendously righteous and pious Choni Hameagel, nevertheless, one take-home from this Gemara is that when we do daven to Hashem, we should not be overly brazen and vehement to get what we want.

    And the question is, how do we reconcile this with other passages in the Torah, such as the episode where Moshe Rabbeinu was denied entry to Eretz Yisrael and he prayed no less than 515 times, constantly begging and begging Hashem to allow him entry. Perhaps he should have stopped earlier? Why pray so much when it is clear that Hashem did not want that? And we find many similar type of episodes recounted throughout Torah literature, such as by the matriarchs who were barren and constantly prayed to Hashem to be able to have children. And again, perhaps we could ask, if Hashem made them barren, and after making a few prayers they were not answered, maybe they should have stopped praying, trying to change Hashem's plans and course?

    The bottom line take-home that we gain from these sources and many others is that it is Hashem's will that we never stop praying for what we desire. We are to pray and hope and have faith, emunah and bitachon that Hashem will come through for us, and if He didn't today, we are not to give up, but rather to hope and pray for tomorrow. However, we must also remember the passage about Choni Hameagel, that although we are called on to never stop hoping and praying, however, it is important to remember not to be overly brazen, stipulating certain conditions to Hashem that we require Him to meet for us.

    "Thank you Hashem for teaching me that to pray in a stubborn way, making my own conditions for you to fulfill, is not necessarily what you'd like, whilst at the same time, to give up and stop praying is certainly not what you'd want. Thank you Hashem for the constant opportunity of tefillah."

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  • 142 - Raining with Faith
    Sep 18 2024

    We discussed the verse which says, "trust in HaShem and do good." And we mentioned the Ramban who explains that the reason this verse is written precisely in this way, firstly stating, "trust in HaShem" and only thereafter stating "and do good," is to teach us that the action of bitachon, the action of trusting in HaShem, within HaShem's perspective, is viewed independently of our deeds.

    Of course, as taught by countless Torah sources, we ought to do our best to score as best as we can on our scorecard in HaShem's books. And there will always be consequences, both for our mitzvos as well as for our aveiros. Nevertheless, the powerful opportunity of bitachon that HaShem has given us is completely independent of our actions. And as the Ramban writes in his own words, even a completely wicked individual who chooses to exercise his bitachon will be able to access and reap the many wonderful benefits that we are taught about one who trusts and places their bitachon in HaShem.

    Many Torah sources outline that emunah, bitachon and tefillah are like synonyms. The more one believes in HaShem and chooses to rely on HaShem, the more one will talk to HaShem. One example of this is the verse in the Torah which states about Moshe Rabbeinu, "vayehi yadav emunah" - "and his hands were emunah." And the famous translation, the Targum Unklos, translates this as, "and his hands were spread out in prayer," translating the word emunah as prayer. Because again, the more my belief in HaShem is sincere, the more I will want to rely on HaShem in all my endeavors. And of course, one of the main ways of expressing that belief and reliance is by praying to HaShem, communicating and talking about anything and everything.

    There is a well-known story recounted in the Gemara about a holy and pious individual known as Choni HaMe'agel, Choni the Circle Maker. And the Gemara explains how this name came about. One time there was a severe drought in the land of Eretz Yisrael, and it appeared as if HaShem was not paying attention to the people's prayers because no rain was anywhere near to be seen. And the people decided to approach the holy and righteous Choni to pray on their behalf. Choni prayed, but still no rain was to be seen. Because of Choni's tremendous sensitivity to the people around him who were experiencing so much suffering from the drought, he felt a tremendous responsibility to make sure that it would rain. So as the Gemara recounts, Choni took a twig and drew a circle on the floor around him and stood within that circle. Within the confines of the circle he had drawn, he prayed to HaShem that it should rain. Eventually, a small drizzle started to rain down. But Choni said, "HaShem, that is not the rain that I requested for." And soon after that, a tremendous downpour of too much unpleasant rain began to fall. And Choni again turned to HaShem and said, "HaShem, that is also not what I requested for." And after that, eventually, a steady stable rain began to fall, relieving the people from the drought.

    There is much to learn from this story, but a most powerful take home is the power of tefillah. Emunah, bitachon, and tefillah are mechanisms that HaShem created in our world that work independent of our actions. "Thank you, HaShem, for teaching me that even though I might have committed certain transgressions, nevertheless, I always have the opportunity to grow in my emunah and my bitachon, and by extension, pray to you for anything and everything."

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  • 141 - Open the Magic
    Sep 17 2024

    The verse states, "Betach bashem va'asei tov" - trust in Hashem and do good. The Ramban points out in his Sefer Emunah Ubitachon, that the verse is precisely written in this order. First the verse states, "trust in Hashem", and thereafter the verse says, "and do good." And the reason for this, says the Ramban, is because one might think that they are only worthy of trusting in Hashem and exercising their Bitachon where Hashem will come through for them, only under circumstances where we have done good and we are in the category of a righteous individual - in Hashem's good books. However, the Ramban points out that although this might be counterintuitive, as always we don't follow our own intuition and what seems logical to our limited minds, but rather we are privileged to have the Torah which outlines to us the only true perspective, the perspective of Hashem.

    Hashem is teaching us in this verse, says the Ramban, that the opportunity to be able to exercise the powerful weapon of Bitachon is completely independent of our good deeds and our level of righteousness. And as the Ramban writes, even a rasha, even a wicked individual who chooses to exercise their Bitachon and rely on Hashem, the sole act of relying on Hashem will be the catalyst for Hashem coming through for that individual, even though they have many sins to their record.

    Now of course, it is important to highlight that although Bitachon is independent of our actions, the Gemara teaches us that although Hashem is our loving, caring Father and all He wants for us is the best and the only reason He ultimately created this world is so that we can earn our eternal reward full of pleasure in the next world, nevertheless, the system that Hashem did create in this world consists of consequences, and every transgression down to the most minor detail will certainly be accounted for with consequences extremely serious for our transgressions. So on the one hand, it is very clear that there is absolutely consequences for every single act that we perform in this world, both positively and negatively, whilst at the same time, we learn from this verse and the commentary of Ramban that it is also very clear that although one might have transgressed even the most severe transgressions, nevertheless, the way that Hashem operates in this world with regards to Bitachon is that Bitachon is completely independent of our actions.

    Although we certainly ought to try our best to perform good deeds and repent for any transgressions we might have committed, because the consequences will always be there unless we correct them, nevertheless, it is extremely empowering to internalize that Bitachon is completely independent of our actions. When we choose to rely on Hashem and exercise our Bitachon through whatever situation we might currently be experiencing, rather than turning to the opposites of Bitachon, such as fear, anxiety, anger, lack of serenity, and the like; when we choose, rather, to live a life of Bitachon, regardless of our scorecard, the power of Bitachon itself will be the catalyst for Hashem to come through for us.

    "Thank you Hashem for giving us the amazing opportunity to rely on you under any and all circumstances. Please Hashem help us to internalize your true perspective and transform our Bitachon."

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    4 mins
  • 140 - You're in the Spotlight
    Sep 16 2024

    On the one hand, the Torah teaches that we are supposed to love our friend just as much as we love ourselves. This mitzvah teaches us the importance of caring for other people, how we are to go out our way to make our maximum effort to helping out another individual, sometimes in the form of charity, sometimes in the form of putting a smile on our friend's face, or whatever else may be relevant. And on the other hand, the Gemara says that every individual is obligated to believe that bishvili nivra haolam, the entire world was created just for me, it's all about me.

    So which is it? Am I supposed to be looking out always about the people around me, or am I supposed to be focused on myself? And the answer is that no question, I am supposed to be focused on myself. Life is about me. The mitzvah to love another individual is actually about me, because it's my mitzvah relevant to all the people that have to do with me. I have a mitzvah to be kind to them, to love them as much as I love myself. But ultimately, it's all got to do with the starting point, about me.

    One might ask, how can the entire world be created just for me? If I'm supposed to say that, and you're also supposed to say that, was it just for me, or just for you? In our limited mind, we can ask that question, but in Hashem's unlimited ways, He is able to create a world that was created just for me, and also just for you. Exclusively just for me, and exclusively just for you. Again, whether we understand or we don't, which in this case, we can't really understand, doesn't matter, because if this is what the Torah teaches us should be our mode of thought, then the perspective of Emunah teaches us to follow that thought process, whether we understand or not.

    So Hashem created the world just for me. That means to say that everything in the world is an opportunity just for me, and everything in the world is also my responsibility. If I have the chance to make a difference in whatever area may be relevant, I am obligated to fill my responsibility and role in that situation. If I have a chance to daven for somebody in need, remember, the whole world was created just for me, meaning to say I am responsible for this situation.

    Many times throughout our ventures, our minds and our eyes look around to see what is relevant and happening in other people's lives. And of course the result of that many times is negative, because that can lead to feelings of jealousy, viewing inappropriate things, and even if not an outright sin, just removing the spotlight from one's own life, inquisitively, being interested in another's life - is a waste of time.

    Again, if I have something of value to offer them, or perhaps something to learn from them, then that certainly is something relevant. But if I'm just looking because I'm interested in seeing other people's lives, not necessarily to learn nor to help, then we need to remind ourselves of this approach of bishvili nivra haolam, the whole entire world was created just for me. That is the mindset Hashem wants us to have.

    I came across a recording that illustrates this point. A father came home to his children and said, "I finally saw it." And they said, "what did you finally see?" And he says, "I was at the stop street and I finally saw the giraffe standing in the middle of the road waving at me." And the kids are in disbelief. And thereafter, he explained, "of course, I didn't see such a sight. What I was trying to explain to you is that throughout our lives, many times we're looking to the sides, almost waiting to see when that unexpected, incredible event is going to happen. But really, that incredible event is not on the sides. It's you, because we are obligated to believe bishvili nivra haolam.

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    5 mins
  • 139 - Build Your Bitachon!
    Sep 15 2024

    We are taught that whilst the Jewish people were in the desert, they received their sustenance in the form of mann, which was food which fell from the heaven, which tasted like anything one wished for it to taste like.

    Commentaries explain that although the man fell from the heavens, not everybody received it in the same way. Those people that were completely righteous and had full faith in Hashem would wake up in the morning and open their front door and there they would have all the mann necessary for their sustenance for that day. Others who were not as righteous and their faith in Hashem was not as strong, they would open their front door and there would be no mann there. They would have to go to the entrance of the courtyard and only there they would find their sustenance, and yet others who were even less righteous would have to go down a few streets in order to find their man. And the least righteous of all, even though they also received their sustenance, but they would sometimes have to walk miles in order to find their sustenance.

    The bottom line about bitachon is that bitachon works. The more one believes and relies on Hashem, the more Hashem comes through for that individual. And just like by the Jewish people in the desert where there were many levels where for some people the mann would fall right at their doorstep and others all the way at fields far off, and the many levels in between, so too, with regards to all of us, we have all these levels of bitachon available to us.

    To truly rely on Hashem means, "I don't have a backup plan. The only one I rely on is Hashem." So I need sustenance, I need money; certainly the first thing I do is I go speak to Hashem with absolute sincerity for a significant amount of time, and thereafter I feel completely calm because I know that Hashem will definitely provide me with everything I need. This is obviously a very high level. And on the opposite extreme would be one who needs sustenance and completely forgets about Hashem, doesn't reach out to Hashem to ask for help to provide their sustenance, but rather makes their own plans in order to provide for their sustenance. And whilst these are the two extremes, there are many levels in between. The more bitachon we have, the more Hashem comes through for us. And as discussed many times, emunah and bitachon are our life's work, and any small step that we take is super valuable. There are countless levels in how much bitachon we can aspire to live by.

    It is highly recommended to have a daily learning session about bitachon, and thereby grow in the many concepts that it has to offer us. There are many books available in English that are very well written and easy to understand at all levels. One example is the Chovos HaLevavos by Artscroll, where the newest edition has been written with a translation that is very easy to understand. Another fantastic and shorter book by Artscroll is called the Beis HaLevi on Bitachon and is very worthwhile. And there are many others. We are so privileged to have so many of these Torah sources available to every one of us.

    The more bitachon we have, the more Hashem will come through for us. May Hashem bless every single one of us to make our maximum efforts in striving to grow in our bitachon. "Hashem, please help me to make my maximum effort in finding the right books that can inspire me to live with the highest bitachon possible, to sincerely rely on You, and feel completely calm that You will come through for me. Thank you Hashem for the gift of bitachon."

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    4 mins
  • 138 - Travel Insurance
    Sep 13 2024

    We've been discussing one of the six constant mitzvos is to love Hashem. And as the Rambam teaches, the way of coming to love Hashem is by taking note of His amazing creations with admiration and that will bring us more and more to be able to love Hashem.

    There is a Mishnah in Pirkei Avos which teaches that if somebody is on the road and whilst traveling they are thinking Torah thoughts or discussing a Torah topic with another individual, that is very commendable. Firstly, because they are fulfilling a great mitzvah - the mitzvah of Torah learning and additionally, because Torah learning provides a person a special protection and when a person is on the road traveling, sometimes through dangerous places, they might need a special protection. And the Mishnah goes on to say that if whilst one is traveling and involved in Torah, one stops and looks at the tree and says, "what a beautiful tree", then if something happens to this individual, they are responsible for causing themselves damage, because beforehand they were protected by the special protection of the Torah, and now because they stopped their learning of Torah in order to view this beautiful tree, that is considered a sin and thereby makes the person lose their special protection.

    And the question after learning this Mishnah is, didn't the Rambam teach us that the way to coming to love Hashem is by viewing His beautiful creations? So if one is to stop and say, "wow, what a beautiful tree that is", didn't the Rambam teach us that that is a commendable thing to do, a mitzvah, and in fact, the path to be able to come to fulfilling the great mitzvah of loving Hashem? And if that is the case, why does the Mishnah say that it is a sin to stop one's learning of Torah in order to view the tree, Hashem's wonderful creation?

    And there's a beautiful teaching said in the name of the Kotzker Rebbe and others that gives us some guidance about how we ought to live our lives. They explain that what the Mishnah means to say is if a person is on the road and learning Torah, which is providing them a special protection, and then stops their learning of Torah, meaning to say, they now disconnect from Hashem - when they were learning Torah, they were connected; now they're disconnected. And when they say, "oh wow, what a beautiful tree", they don't mean it in a way of, "wow, Hashem, what a beautiful tree You've created", but rather just, "that's a beautiful tree that I just feel like enjoying, taking a break from the Torah". That would be a sin, where one loses their special protection, because beforehand they were deeply connected with Hashem through the potency of the Torah learning, and now by taking a break, especially being on the road in a dangerous situation, the special protection is gone.

    Whereas if a person is learning Torah and connected to Hashem, but stops in the middle of the learning in order to view a tree and continues the connection with Hashem, saying, "wow, Hashem, that's an incredible creation of Yours, thank You for such incredible trees and creations that You've given us in Your world, I love You so much, Hashem", then certainly one is not committing a sin, because one is continuing the connection with Hashem.

    We ought to take this advice to heart, that throughout our lives, whatever we're doing, whether we're in the holiest of places, whether we're learning a Torah passage, and also when we might find ourselves on the road and in other places which are not particularly holy in our minds, nevertheless, we are able to continue that connection with Hashem wherever we go. We're able to notice Hashem's creations and appreciate them and admire them. And in the same vein, we have the constant opportunity to talk to Hashem wherever we go, whatever we're doing.

    "Thank you, Hashem, for the constant opportunity to be connected with You."

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  • 137 - The First Halacha
    Sep 12 2024

    We've been discussing how every moment of our lives is really an opportunity and throughout the many extra moments that we might find for ourselves, instead of wasting the time idly just because maybe we can't center ourselves to a full-out task, because we're currently busy with something else and we only have a few spare moments at hand, it would nevertheless be so wise and recommended to use that time as an opportunity to gain eternal Olam Haba, using these moments that will never come again in a tremendously constructive way.

    We discussed the six constant mitzvahs. For quick reference, if one is not yet familiar with the six constant mitzvahs, they can be found at the back of some Siddurim, or alternatively, it is very easy to find them via online or other resources, in order to be able to have them outlined in front of us, because remember, the way that these six constant mitzvahs are fulfilled is just by thinking about them. So having them listed in front of us would be something wise and advisable until we are familiar with them and able to think about them at all times, whenever we choose to.

    There is something else also which is worth mentioning on this point. The Code of Jewish Law outlines, right at the beginning in the first chapter, that there is a mitzvah of shivisi Hashem l'negdi tamid, which means to place Hashem before me constantly. Simply speaking, what that means to say, as explained by the commentaries, is to remember that I am in Hashem's presence at all times, and to behave with the appropriate conduct as if I was standing before not only a great king, but the greatest of all kings, Hashem Himself.

    And similarly, the commentaries explain that the meaning of this is to concentrate on Hashem's four-letter name in one's mind, and as the Arizal writes, by doing so, that is tremendously conducive to growing in one's yirat shamayim - one's fear of heaven. It has been pointed out that although we should do our utmost to avoid situations and settings where there might be inappropriate things for our eyes to see, nevertheless sometimes we are required to be in certain places that are not ideal, and we are taught that by concentrating in one's mind on this four-letter name of Hashem, the yud and the heh and the vav and the heh, that is conducive to protecting ourselves from unholy thoughts.

    I saw a motivating teaching that helps illustrate this concept. When we reach the heavenly court one day and have to give an accounting for our actions in this world, every detail will be accounted for, for all of our actions that were performed in this world. And when they go through all the halachic requirements, we might be stumped in certain areas and say, "you know what, I didn't do this right." But imagine the trial starts with question number one, the first paragraph of the Shulchan Aruch, which outlines shivisi Hashem l'negdi tamid - I will place Hashem before me at all times, both remembering that Hashem is in our presence at every moment, and also to think in one's mind of the four-letter name of Hashem, it is something worthwhile to try our best to succeed in. Especially seeing as this is the first paragraph of the entire code of Jewish law, when our trial begins in the heavenly court one day, we would like to respond affirmatively that we succeeded in this law.

    "Hashem my father, please help me not to use any time idly, but rather any free moment that I might have, help me to use my time wisely and think of the six constant mitzvahs as well as of shivisi Hashem l'negdi tamid."

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  • 136 - Constant Revenue
    Sep 11 2024

    Every single moment of life is an opportunity. There is always a mitzvah to perform in every situation, and sometimes just being mindful of something can change a situation from being a waste of time, or even perhaps a sin, to a great mitzvah.

    The halachic authorities teach that there are six constant mitzvahs that can be performed at any and every single moment. Just by thinking of them, we fulfill the mitzvah. It is worth having these mitzvahs at the forefront of our mind, and by doing so, we can gain countless opportunities to perform mitzvahs whenever we have an extra moment. If we find ourselves waiting in line to collect food from the restaurant, or at the doctor's waiting room, waiting at a bus stop, and the like, many a time one might be tired and may sit idly, doing nothing necessarily productive. We are so privileged to have the opportunity to make an active effort to be consciously mindful of certain thoughts, and just thinking these thoughts provide us with a great mitzvah to our eternal bank account.

    Furthermore, the Gemara teaches that when a person is idle, that leads to sin, because when one is not focused on anything specific, one's heart, eyes, and imagination start to wonder, sometimes looking at inappropriate things, sometimes speaking or listening to inappropriate talk, and sometimes just simply wasting time by pulling out one's phone again and again just because I have an extra moment here and there. Instead of letting these moments, which will never come back, go to waste, it is so worthwhile to be mindful of the six constant mitzvahs. Let's discuss them.

    The first one is the mitzvah to have a emunah. The second one is the mitzvah not to serve idols. The third one is the mitzvah to know that Hashem is one. The fourth one is the mitzvah to love Hashem. The fifth one is the mitzvah to fear Hashem. And the sixth one is the mitzvah not to stray after our hearts and eyes.

    There is much Torah literature available for one interested in studying more about these six constant mitzvahs, but being mindful of even the simple understanding of these mitzvahs will go a long way beyond anything we can even begin to imagine.

    "Thank you, Hashem, for giving me the constant opportunity to fulfill your mitzvahs and gain eternal Olam Haba at any given moment. Hashem, I ask you, please will you help me not to waste time anymore. When I have an extra moment, of course, if I need to do something on my phone, then I should do so. But I know that much of the time I pull out my phone again and again and again just because I have a few extra seconds here and there. Please will you help me, Hashem. As a start, just for today, that as many times as I can, instead of re-pulling out my phone, let me think of these six mitzvahs again and again. And instead of wasting my time and perhaps sometimes even doing something that might be inappropriate, let me turn this moment into something great eternally."

    Let us remind ourselves of the steps that are discussed by many Torah commentaries that we've mentioned numerous times as to the reason of why Hashem decided to create the world. Step number one, the only reason Hashem decided to create the world is in order to give pleasure to every single one of us. Step number two, the ultimate pleasure that we receive does not take place in this world in the least, but rather in the next world, in Olam Haba. And step number three, the reason that we are obligated to make an excursion through our lives in this world is in order to earn our eternal reward in the next world. Every single moment in this life is an opportunity for eternity.

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