Episodes

  • Borderlines Mixed Signals & Codependent Fantasy Bond Cycles

    Borderlines Mixed Signals & Codependent Fantasy Bond Cycles
    Dec 26 2024
    Borderline Mixed Signals & Codependent Fantasy Bond Cycles

    Borderline’s mixed signals and Codependent fantasy bonds. Borderlines in relationships give endless mixed signals like telling you how much they love after traumatizing behaviour or while still ghosting you, or after having ghosted or even for years discarded you. Saying in Hoovers, they love you, they need to figure out how to let you go - end the relationship - but they don’t know how. Meanwhile you love them, you focus on them to the detriment of yourself as an Ex and Codependent. You need to let that BPD Ex go, but, you don't know how.

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    28 mins
  • Borderlines Tattoos and Piercings Why pw BPD Get More Than Average

    Borderlines Tattoos and Piercings Why pw BPD Get More Than Average
    Dec 26 2024
    Borderlines Tattoos and Piercings - Why pw/BPD Get More Than Average

    Borderlines Tattoos and Piercings - why people with BPD get more tattoos and/or piercings than non-Borderlines.

    A commenter (on Youtube) asked if a woman has an excessive amount of tattoos, could this be a dating red flag that she has BPD. I answer this question about Borderlines and tattoos and explain why people with BPD do, in fact, have many more body modifications- tattoos and piercings than those without BPD and several key reasons why people with Borderline Personality get tattoos and piercings so often. In a high percentage of a study they found that 22.41% of people with BPD had tattoos over at least 10% of their bodies.

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    33 mins
  • BPD Relationship Ruptures Are All Relationships Just Hard Work?

    BPD Relationship Ruptures Are All Relationships Just Hard Work?
    Dec 15 2024
    BPD Relationship Ruptures Are All Relationships Just Hard Work?


    BPD relational ruptures and an answer to a Codependent commentor's question are BPD and all relationships just hard work wherein I explain the differences between BPD relationships and healthy relationships. I also answer the question, "How can you tell if it's the person with BPD or yourself as a Codependent?" In other words, is it my BPD partner and his or her BPD or is it me, the Codependent? Why do so many with Codependency believe that they are to blame for BPD relationship ruptures and BPD relationship impossibility?

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    25 mins
  • 10 Ways To Help A Borderline - Fact or Myth

    10 Ways To Help A Borderline - Fact or Myth
    Dec 4 2024
    10 Ways To Help A Borderline - Fact or Myth

    10 ways to help a Borderline are they fact or myth? I created a list of 10 ways to help a Borderline based on several different professional sources. As to whether these ways to help a person with BPD are helpful or harmful for you - fact or myth, I explain in this podcast why any loved one, Codependent person, loving a Borderline, will only make everything worse for themselves if you try these ways to help. Then again, many in their Codependent denial and BPD relationship impossibility may already be trying or have tried these 10 ways to help a Borderline.

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    32 mins
  • Borderlines Having Children - The Heartbreak of BPD Ex Loss or Co-Parenting

    Borderlines Having Children - The Heartbreak of BPD Ex Loss or Co-Parenting
    Dec 2 2024
    Borderlines Having Children - The Heartbreak of BPD Ex Loss or Co-Parenting

    Borderlines having children wound them (more often than not) and the heartbreak of BPD Ex's loss or Co-Parenting. Whether the Borderline Parent is the mother or the father, each will wound his or her children. A commenter lost his child to a borderline's lack of care. Co-parenting with a male or female with BPD is for most a nightmare that no matter what the BPD Ex does wounds your child or children. If you are younger, dating a borderline or not sure, be careful. It's not healthy to have a child with an untreated person with BPD.

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    19 mins
  • Borderlines Don't Make You Sacrifice Yourself

    Borderlines Don't Make You Sacrifice Yourself
    Nov 25 2024
    Borderlines Don't Make You Sacrifice Yourself

    Borderlines (or a BPD/NPD person) doesn't make you sacrfice yourselves as Codependents. A.J. Mahari adds in her experience on breaking free from her BPD/NPD Ex. Do you blame your BPD or BPD/NPD Ex for everything? What you need to know about your own personal responsibility that is necessary for healing change. You are not to blame for what a BPD or BPD/NPD did to you. But blaming them for your missed choice points that absolutely feel impossible won't help you break free of the betrayal bond. Not taking your own personal responsibility for Codependent choices made (consciously or unconsciously) aside from all that any BPD or BPD/NPD is responsible for will keep you stuck and will increase your suffering.

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    42 mins
  • BPD Triggers Explained & Why They Are So Crazy-Making

    BPD Triggers Explained & Why They Are So Crazy-Making
    Nov 23 2024
    BPD Triggers Explained & Why They Are So Crazy-Making

    BPD triggers are explained and why they are so crazy-making. What you really need to know about BPD triggers that so many don't realize. What is the core of impossibility with BPD triggers? Why are BPD triggers central to endless lack of taking personal responsibility or accountability that is so crazy-making? BPD triggers are affecting you and part of how you as a partner, loved one, family member, of someone with BPD are losing yourself. You must stop care-taking for the person with BPD in your life. Stop trying to get the person with BPD to see how their triggered dysregulated emotion is hurting you because they just don't get it!

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    17 mins
  • What is BPD Transient Paranoid Ideation?

    What is BPD Transient Paranoid Ideation?
    Oct 27 2024
    What Is BPD Transient Paranoid Ideation?

    What is Borderline Transient Paranoid Ideation? What does it mean? How can does it manifest for people with BPD and how can you recognize it and understand its scope and effect on you? Why does this trait (number 9) along with how it drives BPD splits to devaluation cause so many BPD Breakups and so much heartbreak for people who loves someone with Borderline Personality Disorder?

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    29 mins